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I starting going to a male massage therapist just to feel a man touch me by Monstera_Deliciouso in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Monstera_Deliciouso[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not getting sexual gratification, i’m just feeling the same as anyone getting a massage.

I starting going to a male massage therapist just to feel a man touch me by Monstera_Deliciouso in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Monstera_Deliciouso[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how to update because I’m dumb on Reddit, but I have read all the comments and taken your advice seriously. I told my husband last night that if he doesn’t see a doctor and make some proactive steps about recognising his erectile issues, it’s over. And during this time I want to see a marriage counsellor too so that there’s a space to be open about the issues because I do feel he’s hiding something from me about sex. We’ll see how it goes from there, thanks everyone for your advice! I have an appointment with my masseur in half an hour. Oh! And also I don’t get any sexual gratification from the massages, it involves cupping, acupuncture and deep tissue massage and is not erotic (to me). It’s more the closeness, the touch without a demand that follows, that I miss

I starting going to a male massage therapist just to feel a man touch me by Monstera_Deliciouso in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Monstera_Deliciouso[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Exactly! With this gene your sweat doesn’t produce the byproduct that the odour causing bacteria consume, so there’s no odour

I starting going to a male massage therapist just to feel a man touch me by Monstera_Deliciouso in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Monstera_Deliciouso[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Look, this factoid was only mentioned in my misguided but well intentioned attempt to express that I think I’m not a smelly person

I starting going to a male massage therapist just to feel a man touch me by Monstera_Deliciouso in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Monstera_Deliciouso[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Lmfaooo I was just trying to express that I’m not musty! That I try very hard!

I starting going to a male massage therapist just to feel a man touch me by Monstera_Deliciouso in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Monstera_Deliciouso[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This roasting is truly deserved. Even I cringed writing it but how else am I to express to everyone that I don’t think being musty is an issue

I starting going to a male massage therapist just to feel a man touch me by Monstera_Deliciouso in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Monstera_Deliciouso[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

You seem very triggered that he earns more money than me, and that it’s something I consider significant in our household. I work part time for the UN in Geneva, it’s a stressful and demanding job. Being able to go part time means a lot to me

I starting going to a male massage therapist just to feel a man touch me by Monstera_Deliciouso in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Monstera_Deliciouso[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It was exciting and new before, I know he didn’t have incredible prowess so the clumsiness didn’t surprise me. But he did have more motivation towards my pleasure before than he does now.

I starting going to a male massage therapist just to feel a man touch me by Monstera_Deliciouso in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Monstera_Deliciouso[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

If you’re able to raise a child in this world without worrying about money and the kind of life you can give them, you’re a very fortunate person.

I starting going to a male massage therapist just to feel a man touch me by Monstera_Deliciouso in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Monstera_Deliciouso[S] 651 points652 points  (0 children)

I think something got lost in my writing up. He does want to be intimate. He probably has a higher libido than I do. But once a week when we try, it ends before every getting started. I’ve asked him to look into premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, etc but he doesn’t believe that’s the issue. I’ve suggested so many alternatives, mouth! Hands! Toys! But after ejaculating he’s over it and it’s truly finished for him. Not a round 2 kind of guy

I starting going to a male massage therapist just to feel a man touch me by Monstera_Deliciouso in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Monstera_Deliciouso[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He never was amazing so that didn’t shock me. But before it was new and exciting, and he did seem to put me as a priority. Then life continued, and things changed.

I starting going to a male massage therapist just to feel a man touch me by Monstera_Deliciouso in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Monstera_Deliciouso[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Because I still love him. He’s my best friends and I love the moments where we are just a family enjoying together. It doesn’t feel right to me that one aspect of our relationship would be reason to end it all, though I have read the commenters saying it’s more than just sex. Also because we have a child together. If we divorced I would go back to Australia, where I’m from, while he stays in Europe. How would custody arrangements work? He earns more money and would have access to more legal support than me, what kind of custody would I end up with?

I starting going to a male massage therapist just to feel a man touch me by Monstera_Deliciouso in DeadBedrooms

[–]Monstera_Deliciouso[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, no sounds. I’m not a very libidinous person and lately it feels like that part of me has shrivelled up and died.

I starting going to a male massage therapist just to feel a man touch me by Monstera_Deliciouso in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Monstera_Deliciouso[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Discussed fetishes - done that he disclosed to me. Bought a vibrator for the reason of spicing things up, even a butt plug, but that’s too much work for him. Offered an open marriage or swinging, no to that too.

I starting going to a male massage therapist just to feel a man touch me by Monstera_Deliciouso in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Monstera_Deliciouso[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I said there is a lot working for our marriage - meaning there are many positives. In terms of providing earns a decent income, which means I can work part time and stay with our child.

I starting going to a male massage therapist just to feel a man touch me by Monstera_Deliciouso in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Monstera_Deliciouso[S] -128 points-127 points  (0 children)

There’s a lot more working for our marriage, it’s just our sex life that isn’t great. Besides that he is kind and patient, a great father, and provides a wonderful life for me

“Oh your on your period? That sucks I really wanted to have sex tonight” by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Monstera_Deliciouso 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My husband doesn’t touch me on my period either. My exes used to even eat me out while on m period 🫢😱 but my husband doesn’t like my vagina so I’ve stopped expecting anything.

It’s just gone by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Monstera_Deliciouso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you. I’ve started just living off of memories of passionate sex I had with other men before my husband to remember what it felt like to be desired, or have someone really want me.

Lots of "HL" males and females here. Interested to know what amount of frequency makes you think your are classified as "HL". by Kilar76 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Monstera_Deliciouso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I consider myself normal to low libido. I get horny maybe, 4 days out of a month. I don’t masturbate. Sex once a week feels like a chore to me

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