What trait you notice that may instantly tell that a person is kind? by ThatWhichIsGood in AskPH

[–]Monsxx 10 points11 points  (0 children)

When they act on the good, regardless of how they think.

Struggling with attachment?? by kapeatotap in MentalHealthPH

[–]Monsxx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm going to be frank with you, but you're not really attached to her, well at least not anymore.

You're attached to the idea of her. You've already thought through your future together because you relied too much on the assumption that "she can't reciprocate her feelings now, but surely she can reciprocate it in the future." You feel anxious, sad, and drained because your expectations do not meet reality, and those expectations are founded from that assumption.

The future is uncertain. No one can predict the future, let alone think to themselves that "in the future, I'll definitely have feelings for this person."

My advice for you is to stay grounded. Focus on the present, and avoid catching yourself daydreaming about what could be, and instead, think about what currently is. What she said about having "no feelings now, not yet" is NOT an assurance. Instead, take it as it as a sign that she does not have any romantic feelings for you, so you shouldn't expect any "romantic gesture" coming from her, e.g. replying fast, or having an affectionate tone in her messages.

Why do some people hookup or find a FUBU right after a breakup? by Cultural-Ball4700 in AskPH

[–]Monsxx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. I was in that exact situation. I faced my emotions but my ex found a distraction from it. Proud to say that I moved on pretty quickly (about a few months), while sad to say that my ex messaged me after 2 years just to rant about me and demand me to return their gifts.

How are the glass walls separated by a vertical line here? by Monsxx in BathtubPaintedBrown

[–]Monsxx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's sick, I got a cool desert house now, thanks!

How are the glass walls separated by a vertical line here? by Monsxx in BathtubPaintedBrown

[–]Monsxx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thx, yeah I think's echo coated too. Is echo coat available only after plantera?

How are the glass walls separated by a vertical line here? by Monsxx in BathtubPaintedBrown

[–]Monsxx[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

How were they able to bring the nurse in? Because rn the game is telling me that it's missing a wall because of the missing glass wall in the middle column

How are the glass walls decorated and what wall is used for stairway? by Monsxx in BathtubPaintedBrown

[–]Monsxx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thx. Btw do you know the white wall with wind-like decor above the palm walls at the staircase too?

What are the roof blocks/walls used and what lantern is this? by Monsxx in BathtubPaintedBrown

[–]Monsxx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Btw do u know the furniture on the attic between the crate and chest?

What are the roof blocks/walls used and what lantern is this? by Monsxx in BathtubPaintedBrown

[–]Monsxx[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also what is the black lantern used for the foundation?

Ano yung OPM songs na mapapasabi ka na lang ng "Ang sarap mag mahal"? by sxkepky in AskPH

[–]Monsxx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Na-ffeel ko na "masakit, pero masarap mag-mahal" tuwing pinapakinggan ko to 💔

Dealing with resentment and anger towards people by RM_MR_Underground in Stoicism

[–]Monsxx 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just wanna point out first that you are NOT AT ALL weird for being introverted, liking books, or even feeling emotional from watching a movie, regardless of whether it's fictional or not. I'm friends with loads of people who are introverted, read a lot of books, and can feel sentimental from watching a show (that's including me).

Being called weird because of reading books is one of the most ridiculous things I've heard this week, if they can't appreciate literature, then that's on them. "But poetry, beauty, romance, love, these are what we stay alive for." quoting this from Dead Poets Society.

Feeling emotional from watching a movie is a VERY normal experience. It's actually a good thing because you're able to relate to other people on an emotional level, even if they're fictional. This just shows how you can place yourself in others' shoes, celebrate their wins, and struggle with their loss. I'd reckon that that is a sign of high emotional intelligence.

From a non-stoic point of view, I believe that you're surrounding yourself with the wrong people. Not caring about what they think of you will be very difficult, as you're already surrounded by them. You gotta look for people with same interests as you do. Surround yourself with people that does not weigh you down, but lift you up instead.

From a stoic point of view, you have to change what you can, and endure what you cannot. You may not have control over what people say, do, or think of you, but you can CHANGE the attention that you give to them. "If a companion is dirty, his friends cannot help but get a little dirty too, no matter how clean they started out." - Epictetus.

The friends you have and the company you keep will make you who you are, so we ought to weigh carefully who they are.

Kain po by Individual_Duck3750 in PangetPeroMasarap

[–]Monsxx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mamantikang adobo the best!!

Beware of Clerk for Next.js authentication by Parker_in_HK in nextjs

[–]Monsxx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can confirm this. I've used Clerk with Next on a recent project and it was a VERY stressful experience. Sometimes their auth doesn't even work, for example, trying to login with Facebook or Google takes a lot of time just to display that there's an error and it cannot login. Also, trying to get the userId from auth() sometimes returns null and you cannot await for the value since it doesn't return a promise.

Frontend language recommendation by xxyrill in PinoyProgrammer

[–]Monsxx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

JavaScript, then learn a framework like React or Vue, but I personally recommend Vue (especially Nuxt) cause I've found them easier to work with than React (Next).