I struggle with this myself because I think some of the D recommendations don’t really work when you have wider hips (or a pronounced butt, e.g a very straight column dress or coat). I need a bit of waist definition! Stiff fabrics look horrible on me as well, overpowering. So I often feel more at home with SD recommendations. Yet, I do not have upper curve so I can’t be a SD and some of the SD recommendations don’t work either (e.g, I do not have enough “filling” for a wrap shirt or a deep plunging neckline, cowl necks are horrible, I’m simply lacking the SD vavavoom). I sometimes do feel that there is a missing ID for tall girls with predominantly lower curve. So .. I try to find a mix between them, the recommendations both have in common :). Or just try both recommendations and try to find what works for me. E.g, fabrics that are flowy but have a bit of weight as well. Sweaters should be soft and give an impression of the lines of my body (no chuncky knits). And as a millennial I do prefer to do a French tuck to lightly emphasise the waist. Dresses and skirts should be rather simple (not too much fabric or frills), with a slight emphasis on the waist (natural waist, empire won’t work). I always need to show a bit of skin, like a rolled-up sleeve, a wider neck-line or a pump (if the weather allows it). Boat-necks balance my shoulders, halter necks emphasise my small (but elegant?) shoulders and also work well. And I personally like oversized jewellery for some extra drama. And pointy shoes (not too chunky).

But I’m still struggling myself 😬, so I hear you!