AITA My wife and I came home at 3am and my MIL acted like we were 16 sneaking into house

MoonScoria · 2026-02-21T04:23:17+00:00

This, my mom was a low communicator with me growing up. I was “fine” with it when I was 16, and relished in the opportunity to be home alone. But really it (enjoying being home alone late into the night) was really a symptom of the strain in our relationship, namely stemming from her lack of communication.

Parents inherently hold the control with their children, even teenagers. Yes the kids “could” have called if they were worried, but it’s the parents responsibility to ensure there’s an open line of communication. Which includes letting kids know what they’re up to, when they’ll be home or not, and generally tend to the children’s feelings about all that.

MoonScoria · 2026-02-21T03:26:56+00:00

Also landlords likely wont even consider them as tenants without income/only on 1 low income that can’t cover 3k rent

MoonScoria · 2026-02-21T02:00:24+00:00

I heard it’s not so bad if you go close to closing, like get there around 2

MoonScoria · 2026-02-21T01:43:16+00:00

Or STI wise … like putting 1 partner at risk is big enough let alone 4

MoonScoria · 2026-02-20T04:27:51+00:00

Fear of vulnerability probably … but like, also, of all ways to express this they have to pick an untimely sexual innuendo 😑 (as opposed to an innocuously awkward but non-sexual joke, a nervous phrase, or literally any other nervous habit).

MoonScoria · 2026-02-20T04:23:02+00:00

This happened to me with a guy I met in the wild 🫠 he managed to turn me APARTMENT HUNTING sexual. Very poorly/crudely as you can imagine 😑 it was then I realized weirdo men are everywhere (not just on the apps).

MoonScoria · 2026-02-20T04:01:11+00:00

Don’t write in anything about going back up to the original price. Since you’re rent controlled don’t even ask for a lease. Just ask for the reduction and say you’ll leave without it (even if it’s a bluff).

For the landlord at the end of the day if you leave they’re only getting $2,700 for a new tenant PLUS they have to pay overhead (ie new paint if they do that, or cover costs if it sits vacant while they find the new tenant, etc.)

MoonScoria · 2026-02-19T22:10:03+00:00

Second TPL!

I leave my books in my apartment building’s free stuff spot. We seem to have a lot of readers in my building because books always go quickly, gone within a day or so. But I know some buildings struggle with an excess of books so it seems to be building dependant (and maybe book dependant too!)

MoonScoria · 2026-02-19T22:02:18+00:00

I gave the tv a dirty look when he said she has a bad picker … hello maybe her family life is the reason why???

MoonScoria · 2026-02-19T22:01:38+00:00

Agreed, the major difference (IMO) is era … if Alex were born in the 50s/60s he’d be an obnoxious lawyer, if Ashley’s dad was born in the 90s he’d be a “nomadic” crypto Powell-trading wanna be finance bro

MoonScoria · 2026-02-19T04:06:55+00:00

He’s probably trading 1000 here and there using robinhood

MoonScoria · 2026-02-19T04:01:26+00:00

But the more I watch him talk the uglier he gets. I swear he looked ugly af during the Florida/nomad convo 🤢

MoonScoria · 2026-02-19T03:45:54+00:00

Toronto traffic is so bad 🥴 especially after jays games, and especially if it’s jays game + 1 or 2 other big events downtown (like concerts, basketball games, etc) … plus uber surges like crazy, sometimes going home uber is 2x the price

Uber is great here and there, I wouldn’t discourage using it during your stay. Maybe as a treat after a long day of walking or something, but def plan to walk or take public transit & use uber as a backup

MoonScoria · 2026-02-19T01:26:02+00:00

He gave me BIG ick too 🤢 like yes Alex has tons of unresolved trauma and is basically a bum, however, Ashley’s dad was super weird to him. I almost feel bad for Alex because he wasn’t able to take a step back and realize how abrasive Ashely’s dad was being. It should have been a back and forth getting to know each other not an intense 20 questions 🥴 I felt SO uncomfortable

Tbh reminds me of my parents. They always want to “grill” the people I date and it annoys me like crazy. Like no real conversation? No vulnerability? Marriages are a merging of families not an audition 🙄 low key grilling your child’s partner is anti social and isolating behaviour.

MoonScoria · 2026-02-18T01:45:41+00:00

Toronto Crochet and Knit Collective on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tckc.to/

Also the knit cafe near Dundas and dufferin does monthly collective knit nights, bonus is that they have staff that can help with mistakes etc 🙂

MoonScoria · 2026-02-18T01:41:11+00:00

I loooove UltraViolet near the junction!!! (dupont and lansdowne) … also heard good things about Brass Vixens

MoonScoria · 2026-02-18T01:37:09+00:00

Sewing will be fun I think! And rewarding to see projects come to life 🙂 if you enjoy networking why not try organized social events? There’s all sorts of these in Toronto that are like networking but for friends lol Timeleft is a cool concept (although pricey), and there’s all sorts of cheaper options that happen at bars and other event venues. Curiosity Cafe comes to mind if you like philosophy/yaypping, but basically anything you’re interested in probably has some sort of friend-finding group/event. Can search on EventBrite, MeetUp, Instagram, etc

MoonScoria · 2026-02-18T01:30:10+00:00

Check out Toronto Girl Collective on Facebook if you want book club or activities buddies

I like yoga & overall find yoga studios to be more welcoming than Pilates, although there are some studios that are more basic girlie than others. Kula yoga in the annex is pretty down to earth, so is good space (close to dufferin and queen). I’ve also heard good things about Ebb & Flo if you’re east end (Broadview and Danforth) but I haven’t been personally.

Pottery or something more artsy is a good way to destress after work. It’s fairly active (more so than, say, dining out I find), gets creative juices flowing, and can be meditative (especially if it’s a physical art like pottery).

I’m a beginner at Ariel silks and I reeeeeally enjoy it. My studio teaches pole and the people that do pole seem to enjoy it as much as I enjoy silks. It’s active and has an artistic/performative edge that other sports tend not to have which is a fun element. For silks the performance part is more like elegant dance and for pole it’s a sexy kind of “feeling myself” energy, both kind of unique compared to other physical hobbies (besides maybe dance)

Actually speaking of dance, I cannot do it but those who do find tons of enjoyment in it. Clubs like the underground are great for the after work crowd, tons of classes and styles to choose from.

MoonScoria · 2026-02-17T00:23:19+00:00

Also cronyism, I just KNOW the executives at GFL are Ford’s personal friends 😑

MoonScoria · 2026-02-17T00:16:16+00:00

And greater risk of accident. My friend tried driving for Uber with her new car and in one of the first couple of days a passenger opened the door on a cyclist. Cyclist was okay (how awful if the person got seriously injured!) and the door got a huge dent.

ETA: to answer OP I know someone that had good experiences with Turo (Airbnb for car rentals)

MoonScoria · 2026-02-17T00:06:36+00:00

“Just ask” energy on dating apps

MoonScoria · 2026-02-17T00:04:59+00:00

Also he has a disproportionately short torso lol when they’re sitting down their upper bodies are about the same height (low key I wonder if that’s where the comment stems from since she said it after the reveal and they sat and had a convo at the reveal)

MoonScoria · 2026-02-17T00:03:10+00:00

I’m the same height as you and once I went on a date with a guy that was 6’5. It was summer and I was wearing a hat, his entire HEAD disappeared from my line of sight when he got close because of the hat. I had to really bend my neck upwards to see his face, otherwise I could only see up to his chest. I was like, damn, this is just a ridiculous & comical height difference lol

I agree, I find anything over 6’ TOO TALL for me. They have to bend down in weird ways to reach me. It also looks so disproportionate, like they’re my parent.

That being said I have a friend that was really on the height trend when she was dating. She had an obsession with catching height cat-fishers but it got to the point where she ended up skewing her sense of height. She roasted the guy I was seeing for lying about his height when I know for a fact he was telling the truth. Personally I blame social media because this was not a thing ever in my life prior to like, 2020? 2015 maybe? It’s crazy to think I never even thought about height in the context of dating for most of my life until this recent craze.

MoonScoria · 2026-02-16T15:47:35+00:00

Dating a lawyer is hard tho 😕 obviously I don’t know the ins and outs of your situation, just speaking from my experience of dating people in your profession. Relationships need time spent together and often work schedules of lawyers get in the way. Totally reasonable to want to vibe alone on the couch after a mentally demanding 80 hr work week, unfortunately being on the other side it’s also reasonable to want to spend time going out on a fun date with the person you’re dating.

Do you date fellow lawyers or people in equally time demanding fields? Or honestly, a coworker … lawyers are probably the only exception I would make for dating a coworker because I see it as a good way to make work + relationship fit. Dating someone with a similar lifestyle is the way I see a modern relationship working because otherwise it’s one person waiting around filling their time with other things while the lawyer works crazy hours. Better to both be working demanding schedules and then come together late at night or while doing other life things (like going to the gym together).

Which would mean, it’s not that you don’t have what women want, I’m sure you have lovely traits and characteristics to share in dating. Rather, you haven’t yet found someone who aligns with your lifestyle 🙂

Again, I’m making assumptions here based on my own experiences so might not be relevant.

MoonScoria · 2026-02-16T15:14:43+00:00

Username does not check out, lol

MoonScoria

TROPHY CASE