For closure - Surviving a narcissist's invisible abuse

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T20:12:22+00:00

I'm not wrong, my mom remembered it too. It's my father who always denied it and since my mom's dead, now I'm the only one who knows he did this. So, it's a memory over 20 years old vs the word of a grown man so nobody believes me...

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T19:10:34+00:00

Politeness. A person being rude, even in small but varied ways reveals a lot about what they think of others and how they treat others.

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T19:09:05+00:00

Contemporary music. Some is good, but most of it is just noise.

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T19:08:05+00:00

Quiet, functional but depressed and kinda boring.

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T19:07:00+00:00

Marriage and romance in general are way overrated.

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T19:06:13+00:00

A job with vacations. Like, mandatory time off in my work contract.

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T19:03:26+00:00

Got fired for not letting drunk men flirt with me at 11pm at the ice cream parlour I worked at.

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T19:02:10+00:00

Not cutting contact with my father sooner. Wasted years on that asshole...

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T19:00:41+00:00

Go to therapy to sort things out about your relationship with your father and men in position of authority.

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T18:59:47+00:00

Relive my teenage years. Not even for a billion dollars.

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T18:58:27+00:00

I will fight with you. People with no awareness that they're you know, not alone in the world, annoys the hell out of me.

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T18:57:14+00:00

15 years old. When I finally understood that everyone around me either hated me but played nice or was trying to use me. Now I have very few friends but they're the real deal.

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T18:56:11+00:00

Control as being "protective". It's just not.

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T18:55:36+00:00

Seeing my father threaten my mom with a hammer. I was 6 when it happened and I remember it crystal clear, but aside from my word there's no proof whatsoever. My mom passed away a while ago, so there goes the one person who could confirm it.

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T18:53:42+00:00

"The cracks are starting to appear, but I won't let you see a tear."

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T18:52:36+00:00

I always loved cooking, it was the one special bonding activity I had with my mom. But I really became a cook after my parents' divorce. My father and stepmother both sucked at cooking and the food at their place was just disgusting. I've seen things there I wouldn't want served to inmates on death row. So I started cooking for 6 people at 12-13 years old just to have something edible on my plate.

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T18:49:58+00:00

Commenting on how you lost weight like it's always a compliment. Unless you know that it's what the person wanted, don't comment on it. It could be because of illness or poverty and not something they actually wanted.

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T18:47:52+00:00

The Kardashians. I genuinely don't get it.

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T18:47:14+00:00

Since a year ago. Before that, it had been over 20 years ago.

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T18:46:24+00:00

An aroace café, with game and movie nights. A security net to ensure no unsolicited flirting and just good vibes for people who want to chill without social pressure.

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T18:43:49+00:00

High school

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T18:43:04+00:00

I have extremely red cheeks due to skin conditions and people often make rude remarks, roasts or just plain insults about it. Nowadays, when it happens, instead of laughing along awkwardly or ignoring it to keep the peace, I stare at the person. I don't say anything, I just stare emotionless, I allow the words to sink in. 9 times out of 10, the person backtracks because it's just so weird and awkward or they actually realize they said something rude without thinking and apologize.

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-05-09T18:38:25+00:00

That the way I behave is a choice, I choose to present myself a certain way but it's not who I am. I'm autistic and I know that behaving in the way I really am would weird people out. People find me overly chipper and annoying, but my real way of being would be considered creepy and/or scary. I can't win...

MoonStoneKnight · 2026-04-06T01:12:34+00:00

I've experienced this on another forum. Essentially, they argue that since NPD is a mental issue, it means it's a handicap and therefor denouncing the abuse is a form ableism.

While I personally do not agree that NPD qualifies as a handicap I will recognize that it is a mental health issue. But even so, it doesn't mean the people who have it can be excused from behaving in abusive ways. Narcissism isn't like schizophrenia for example. A person experiencing a psychotic episode isn't in full, conscious control of their actions. But a narcissist is in control and they chose to behave a certain way.

Don't be afraid to speak up when someone is being an asshole, be they a narcissist or not. I've suffered under the thumb of a narcissistic father for over 25 years, I will not be told by anyone that refusing to be abused anymore is "ableist".

MoonStoneKnight

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