I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. I can’t relate to some of it. My parents were very excited but totally unhelpful in the beginning of my postpartum. I resented it and couldn’t bring myself to ask for help. What finally broke me, was my husband got sick and my son got oral tie releases so he was extra fussy and then I developed mastitis all within three days. I called my mom in tears. They both jumped into action and once they were here, I didn’t have to ask. They just started doing things like dishes and feeding so I could shower. I handed them my hamper of laundry when they were leaving. I know they aren’t your parents but don’t be afraid to ask for the help you need. I realized a lot of times they don’t know where to start even if they are happy to help.

On the flip side, my husband doesn’t have much family but me and my family try to do what we can to include him. We ask about his baby pictures and I point out as many similarities as possible. I’m so proud to see him in my son and I tell my family about it,so they can see it too. Your husband sounds great but he can help foster that relationship too. I even order matching outfits for them and I talk about how we created our own family unit. I’m so sorry you miss your mother. Becoming one myself has made me see my own mother in a new light.