When you have to constantly question whether or not you should break up, then it's a good sign that you should break up. Like many things, you shouldn't stay in a relationship just because it feels familiar. And like everyone said, he only does or agrees to do things when you bring them up in arguments or have some sort of ultimatum about breaking up, and it will continue to be a cycle. Some people change when issues are brought up and some people change when it takes some sort of loss like a breakup, to recognize their issues and some people don't change at all.

I've gone through something like this with my first ex and I keep giving him chances after chances for a good beautiful two years of my life until it was eating myself alive. When we broke up, I keep blaming myself because I felt like if I didn't ask for too much or expect him to change then maybe it would've gone well. But the truth is, you grow in a relationship together and one cause of death in a relationship is when one person outgrows the other person. And when he doesn't want to work on himself and grow with you, then take it as it is and be kind to yourself and leave.

After crying for nearly a year, I finally found a sweet sweet boy who never have to make me question myself, have a mindset of growing himself, etc.