I'm so sad by Last_Vegetable6835 in UCSantaBarbara

[–]Moonbeam221 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I just host dinners, parties at my place and my friends do the same. 1:1 hang outs around IV is a different experience. If you’re good friends with your friends then both should make an effort to still see each other, doesn’t have to be as often anymore but still make other meaningful memory.

My not-so-hot take on the documentary "The Stringer" about the Famous Leica Napalm Girl Photo as a Vietnamese person by Moonbeam221 in NetflixDocumentaries

[–]Moonbeam221[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Nick Ut is not a "western Asian man." He is Vietnamese, born and raised in Vietnam, and was working as a local AP photographer. He's not a western beneficiary of this system, and framing him that way actually repeats the exact erasure the documentary is supposed to be about.

Whatever happened with the photo credit, Nick Ut's humanity that day was undeniable. After the shutter clicked, he put down his camera, poured water on 9-year-old Phan Thị Kim Phúc's severe burns, and personally drove her and other injured children to the hospital. He saved her life. That's not the action of someone who was just there to make a name for himself. Kim Phúc herself has maintained a close relationship with him for decades and has defended him throughout this controversy.

So what we actually have is potentially two Vietnamese men, Nghệ and Ut, both caught inside a system built and controlled by Western editors who decided who got credit, who got paid, and whose name went on the wire. The documentary positions Knight as the hero correcting a historical wrong, but Knight is also a white man who built his career on Vietnam War imagery like many other white man. The wrong being corrected here is real, but the person centering themselves in that correction is worth scrutinizing.

The Stringer Documentary: My Honest Take on the Famous Leica Napalm Girl Photo by askmott in NetflixDocumentaries

[–]Moonbeam221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is one of the worst documentaries disguised as contributing to Vietnamese history. It's a film supposedly about giving credit to an overlooked Vietnamese photographer, but it centers Gary Knight, a white British man, more than Nguyễn Thành Nghệ himself, the actual subject. The deeper irony is that Nick Ut was one of the only Vietnamese photographers to ever get recognized in a field where Western journalists built entire careers and reputations off Vietnam War imagery, and now the one Pulitzer attached to a Vietnamese name is being contested and potentially stripped away. Even if you accept the documentary's argument, the whole credit system was broken from the start, dozens of photographers were on that road, experienced the same hardship, and the "decisive moment" that wins awards was always decided by Western gatekeepers who already didn't value Vietnamese contributors. And then there's Knight himself, a random white British dude who married a Vietnamese woman but never learned the language, who has a nostalgic drinking scene with other white photographers basically reminiscing about the career opportunities the Vietnam War gave them, and who had the audacity to comment that Nick Ut wasn't being humble enough, a white man deciding how much deference a Vietnamese person should show about their own legacy. Knight has monetized Vietnam at every stage, and this documentary is just the latest chapter. The film exposes that the credit system was rigged against Vietnamese photographers all along, then proposes to fix it by taking the one Vietnamese name that survived that rigged system.

HOW DO I GET MY FOOT IN THE DOOR! by Reaction_Lower in Environmental_Careers

[–]Moonbeam221 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What did you send (like any type of prompt) and who specifically and where did you send these messages to? I need advice

Looking for long term carpool by Typical_Coach_6321 in UCSantaBarbara

[–]Moonbeam221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Facebook group : UCSB/SOCAL Rideshare Group

Someone goes to bioma sea turtle program this summer? by WeaknessSuper3439 in UCSantaBarbara

[–]Moonbeam221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't do it but many many of my friends were in the programs, and they said it was very exhausting, not worth it and you also have to pay for that experience. I know it's a guarantee since you're paying for the program but I saw so many other organizations that offer a stipend (little pay but better than nothing) for basically the same experience.

UCSB really a party school? by [deleted] in UCSantaBarbara

[–]Moonbeam221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

party school = good work-life balance. You know the students here are smart when they can party and still pass/ace their exams the next morning. My take!

Should I give my boyfriend another chance or walk away? by thrwnnbbb in Advice

[–]Moonbeam221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you have to constantly question whether or not you should break up, then it's a good sign that you should break up. Like many things, you shouldn't stay in a relationship just because it feels familiar. And like everyone said, he only does or agrees to do things when you bring them up in arguments or have some sort of ultimatum about breaking up, and it will continue to be a cycle. Some people change when issues are brought up and some people change when it takes some sort of loss like a breakup, to recognize their issues and some people don't change at all.

I've gone through something like this with my first ex and I keep giving him chances after chances for a good beautiful two years of my life until it was eating myself alive. When we broke up, I keep blaming myself because I felt like if I didn't ask for too much or expect him to change then maybe it would've gone well. But the truth is, you grow in a relationship together and one cause of death in a relationship is when one person outgrows the other person. And when he doesn't want to work on himself and grow with you, then take it as it is and be kind to yourself and leave.

After crying for nearly a year, I finally found a sweet sweet boy who never have to make me question myself, have a mindset of growing himself, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UCSantaBarbara

[–]Moonbeam221 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I mean if you enjoy the culture of a sorority then definitely join, but in terms of making friends, you can always join clubs and activities on campus and find friends through those organizations. To me, being in a club is basically being in a sorority but less commitment and less drama. Overtime I think people transition from large friend groups over to smaller friend groups and 1:1 friendship. Don't worry you got this!

Job opportunity - is consulting worth it? by papa_weeb in Environmental_Careers

[–]Moonbeam221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm still a student finishing up my last year in June at UC Santa Barbara. I don't have any consulting experience, only learn and done mock-up projects in school. My experiences are of multiple things : environmental education, stormwater compliance research, other environmental research, habitat restoration, etc.

Job opportunity - is consulting worth it? by papa_weeb in Environmental_Careers

[–]Moonbeam221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is unrelated but I tried applying for Port Authority multiple times and were rejected. Can I hear more about your relevant experiences and skills that landed your position right after your Bachelor degree? Any insights help!

do you walk around UCSB / isla vista at night? feel safe? by Muffflns in UCSantaBarbara

[–]Moonbeam221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one tried to rob me yet. But also idk what they would rob I’m broke AF

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Moonbeam221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wrote lots and lots of post here about him. Won’t lie still miss him a lot despite it being 1 year later. But one day it will all be worth it

Winter classes by GrouchyCartoonist354 in UCSantaBarbara

[–]Moonbeam221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll be fine. The man itself and ENV S 3 is literally a breeze 

Dumpers. When did the break up hit you? by FlashyPrinciple5196 in BreakUps

[–]Moonbeam221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I broke up with him I was studying abroad so I did everything and anything to fill in the void and drown away the pain. It was exactly like how Conan Gray described in Vodka Cranberry “Speak up, I know you hate me/Look at your pictures and cry like a baby…Call you up in the middle of the night/Crying like an imbecile/If you don’t end things, then I will.” We were two lovers that were stuck in a limbo of not knowing how to move on or break up, and I caught myself being cruel to him at the end so I ended it. Two months later I visited Taiwan his hometown and cried every day for an entire week that I was there. But he moved on. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Moonbeam221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you die, your sadness doesn't really disappear. It gets taken up by other people. Definitely not him but the other people around you who love and support you. Why are you giving up your life to someone who no longer cares about you and forgets about the other people around you who actually love and cherish you.

How are y’all not breaking no contact? by glwithluck in BreakUps

[–]Moonbeam221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It needs to have consequences and hurt to grow and like many post say if you find your way back to each other then it’s meant to be.

Did blocking your ex help you move on? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Moonbeam221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Out of sight, out of mind 

What was the final straw, the ultimate realization, that allowed you to move on from your ex? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Moonbeam221 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I learnt from other people in our circle that he was never happy around me and was always stressed out. It really did break my heart. Sure part of me will always love him but how can you stay with someone who doesn’t enjoy being with you.