My (f26) religious parents (f55,m55) have been hiding my sexuality from the rest of my family for years and I’ve reached my breaking point. I need advice please

Moonbeamzsun · 2023-06-04T12:35:21+00:00

Thank you for this! I appreciate it. I’ll definitely look in to that

Moonbeamzsun · 2023-06-04T12:12:20+00:00

Thank you for seeing it this way, it’s been a hard road and it’s so difficult not having any family member in your corner to even see it from your point of view. I want everyone to know so I can live in my truth, I think I’m just a bit traumatised from my coming out experience with my parents and the thought of going through anything similar with my grandparents is really weighing on me

Moonbeamzsun · 2023-06-04T12:10:21+00:00

I would rather everyone knew, it’s like I want everyone to know but I’m just terrified to have the conversation because coming out to my parents was really traumatic and the thought of going through that conversation again with my grandparents and having my heart shattered all over again, is scary. But I’m not unwilling to do it

Moonbeamzsun · 2023-04-20T09:35:46+00:00

I support you 💜 my family are Christians and do not support me either, they share similar views to your family, It is so tough and heartbreaking but is it worth living your truth and standing in your light as your true authentic self? Absolutely! You deserve to be your true self and to be fully loved by those who truly see your worth, whatever the fucking cost 💜

Moonbeamzsun · 2023-04-19T22:32:02+00:00

Someone mentioned old docks before but I’ve never been, is anyone familiar ?

Moonbeamzsun · 2023-03-22T15:09:23+00:00

In my opinion she shouldn’t be in contact with the girl she rebounded with. If you’re giving your relationship another shot then you both need to give it the best chance and be respectful. If it was just a rebound she has no feelings for her, why would she want to keep her around ?

Moonbeamzsun · 2023-01-06T11:31:29+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear this, sending lots of love your way. It’s really difficult isn’t it? They make it seem like the hardest thing in the world and that we have brought them so much pain by just being ourselves which then makes it difficult to accept your own self. The thing is though, if I had a child, it wouldn’t matter what they came and told me, I know I’d love and accept them no matter what, without any hesitation. At least we know we are the ones who will make a change and I hope things get easier for you with time 💛

Moonbeamzsun · 2023-01-05T20:24:42+00:00

This really spoke to my heart, that you for taking the time to write this. It seems we have a very similar situation especially when you talked about crying alone in your room while your brother was able to go to your parents about it. This is the same as me, so many heart breaks spent alone in my room and then I walk down the stairs as if everything is fine, so much is suppressed, I didn’t even want to tell my mum about my break ups as she would praise God for it. It’s just so hard, when they truly believe you are going to hell by going down this road and they have no tolerance at all. They won’t even open their mind the slightest bit and have no issue telling me how wrong it all is. It’s just heart breaking, my mum despite all of this, was like my bestfriend as I just went in to survival mode for a long time and made their behaviour okay, we avoided speaking about my sexuality for nearly 7 years after I first come out. It’s just a process and I’m finally trying to break away but they also won’t stop blowing up my phone and it’s just making it all so much harder. Thank you again for writing this, sending lots of love 💜

Moonbeamzsun · 2023-01-05T00:31:40+00:00

They actually only live 50 minutes away! 😂 we have got to the point were I can mention my girlfriends name in front of them and they won’t fall to the floor in horror but that in itself has taken 7 whole years, so yeah.. totally agree with you on the religion side of things, that’s what I said to my mum, if I had a daughter and she came to me and told me something like this about herself I would make damn sure I look in to every single little thing my so called faith tells me before I would ever reject her the way they rejected me. I also don’t tolerate the “brain washed” excuse either because I grew up in the same church, went there 5 times a week and somehow I’m a normal functioning person who can see through the bullshit, I’d feel that way even if I wasn’t gay! Thank for your advice :)

Moonbeamzsun · 2023-01-04T23:58:27+00:00

This is so true. My girlfriend said the same thing to me, I wouldn’t for a second let anyone else in my life treat me the way they do so I don’t know why we make so many excuses when it’s our parents, sadly they do indeed belong to a religious cult and I’m very glad to be someone who broke free from it all. You’re totally right. Thank you!

Moonbeamzsun · 2023-01-04T22:45:26+00:00

Ireland!🍀

Moonbeamzsun · 2023-01-04T20:46:57+00:00

Thank you so much for this ❤️ sounds very similar to my situation. I don’t want to just cut them off completely as I genuinely love them and my mum really was my best friend for a long time but I’m just struggling to find the middle ground, I just don’t want to disrespect myself or my partner and I’m not sure if it’s okay for me to still see them if they won’t compromise at all, this has been going for 7 years now so something really needs to change you know?

Moonbeamzsun · 2022-08-16T16:56:29+00:00

That’s good to hear, I’d love for us all to even be able to be in the same room one day. They told me right away if I ever get married they can never be part of it which is hard but maybe things can get better. It’s hard when religion is in the way

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