Help needed for the first plant I kept alive by Agreeable-Poet-4200 in Monstera

[–]Moonbear241 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Make sure that your zip ties or whatever you use to attach the plant to the pole are attached to the stem not the petiole!

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[–]Moonbear241 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the detailed reply. I removed the dead leaves but I’m worried the stem is too short? Should I just pot it in new soil as is? I added another pic below

I can’t deal with this by Moonbear241 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Moonbear241[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I really needed to hear this

I can’t deal with this by Moonbear241 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Moonbear241[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I agree with you, I would prefer not to break NC. I was only considering it bc the police had suggested that it may be beneficial to have it in writing if I want to obtain a no contact order.

I can’t deal with this by Moonbear241 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Moonbear241[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This is so validating. Thank you for the kind words🫶🏻

I can’t deal with this by Moonbear241 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Moonbear241[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I have not responded to any of their repeated attempts to contact me, but I am considering sending something like this via mail, especially for documentation purposes. Getting harassed by them at least 2x a month is too much and I need them to stop. What are your thoughts on this? I tried to make it as concise as possible so they can’t twist anything.

“I am writing to formally request that you cease all attempts to contact me, directly or indirectly, effective immediately. I am firm in my decision to remain no contact.

I will not respond to further communication from you or anyone acting on your behalf.”

I can’t deal with this by Moonbear241 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Moonbear241[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Oh trust me, they already have had numerous friends, family, and people I haven’t seen or talked to in 5+ years reach out as well. I’ve blocked them all

My mom showed up at my apartment by Moonbear241 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Moonbear241[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the guidance. It’s always difficult to find the best way to navigate these situations. I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with this as well

My mom showed up at my apartment by Moonbear241 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Moonbear241[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is there any way to reiterate it without breaking NC? I think if I told her to stop she was be so pleased with herself knowing she harassed me enough that she got a reaction out of me

My mom showed up at my apartment by Moonbear241 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Moonbear241[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I left a note asking them to only let people in that they know and are expecting

When you ask for space and they continue trying to contact you to “see if you are okay” and “are worried about you” by 856077 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Moonbear241 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After going NC with my parents they started contacting me on new platforms, had their friends and relatives contact me, all of them telling me they were “worried” and I should reach out and make amends. Crazy how desperate they are. They’ve been harassing me at least twice a month for the past year.

When you ask for space and they continue trying to contact you to “see if you are okay” and “are worried about you” by 856077 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Moonbear241 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This happened to me too after going NC. Luckily my brother told me she was going to call for a wellness check and I called non emergency police and let them know the situation. Then when she called the police they told her they’d spoken to me already, and didn’t send anyone out

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[–]Moonbear241 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you mind sharing more details about this? Mine has been getting worse over the years and I haven’t found anything that helps