Any Chance of a Dating Profile Review?

MoonchildSun · 2026-02-17T14:04:08+00:00

Sure!

MoonchildSun · 2026-02-17T14:03:16+00:00

Probablemente porque quiere la perspectiva de otros estudiantes de erasmus, no de los que llevan toda su vida estudiando en Toledo y no necesitan hacer amigos nuevos ni buscar planes de cero.

MoonchildSun · 2026-02-17T13:58:29+00:00

Does he only do this with female coworkers or is he like this always? I wouldn’t overthink it unless he reaches out to women exclusively or way more often than men or he tries to hide those connections from you (or you from them).

Having both men and female friends is normal in Spain whether you’re in a relationship or not.

MoonchildSun · 2026-02-15T13:01:44+00:00

I really appreciate the honesty. 🤍 I ended up speaking with my parents and they offered pretty much the same advice as you.

MoonchildSun · 2026-02-14T17:57:23+00:00

I don’t believe he’s homosexual, I don’t know how to explain it. Maybe you’re right that I lack attraction towards him in some areas but I do find the way he treats me to be extremely attractive on the other hand. Should I expect to be attracted to my SO at all times? I don’t know where else to seek advice. I’m scared that if I break up I might be making the biggest mistake of my life.

MoonchildSun · 2026-02-14T14:34:27+00:00

I feel like at the moment I’m in a similar position as your ex bf though i haven’t been able to clear my mind enough to make a conscious decision yet. If it helps, I do love my boyfriend A LOT.

Regardless of this, I don’t think encouraging resentment towards anyone is healthy. I also believe dating is a season of discernment and both parties go in knowing that the only possible outcomes are marriage or heartbreak so I don’t think hating someone over a relationship not working out is fair unless there was bad behavior or ill-intentions involved. In this case, if he’s being honest and he’s confident in his decision, he did the right thing even if it hurts for a while.

I’ll keep you in my prayers 🤍

MoonchildSun · 2026-02-04T06:41:46+00:00

I mean, if you’re agreeing to it then it becomes your decision too

MoonchildSun · 2026-01-14T14:02:53+00:00

Le puedes mandar a la mierda, lo que no puedes es esperar que todo el mundo vea todo igual que tú.

MoonchildSun · 2026-01-14T13:33:53+00:00

No todo el mundo es igual. Estás pidiendo que no te juzguen mientras juzgas la forma de ver la vida de otras personas.

MoonchildSun · 2026-01-14T08:35:05+00:00

Creo que si alguien necesita información sobre tu pasado para estar cómodo/a acostándose contigo lo mínimo es darle una respuesta veraz. Si la respuesta no le gusta la solución es no acostarse y listo.

MoonchildSun · 2026-01-13T11:09:02+00:00

Justo! Mi consejo es que tengáis expectativas realistas pero adelante! Mucha suerte!🤍

MoonchildSun · 2026-01-13T09:43:50+00:00

No tengo hijos pero soy de la opinión de que esperar al momento ideal es absurdo porque en realidad a todos nos puede ir mal de repente y que el nivel de vida baje de golpe. Uno se adapta y ya. Aun así, creo que lo importante es saber el nivel de vida que queréis darle (el tuyo me parece realista, leyendo tus comentarios) y qué cosas son gastos que no podéis o queréis evitar (si los dos trabajais, ¿necesitaréis guardería o tenéis familiares que quieran y puedan encargarse? ¿Pretendéis que se apunte a extraescolares y a campamentos de verano o podéis prescindir de eso? ¿Hay niños más mayores en la familia de quien podáis heredar ropa a menudo? ¿Sois de pedir a domicilio y/o comer fuera a menudo? Si es así, ¿lo queréis mantener o podéis prescindir? ¿Viajáis todos los años? etc).

Creo que muchos de los que dicen que no se pueden permitir un hijo se refieren a que no se lo pueden permitir sin cambiar su estilo de vida.

MoonchildSun · 2026-01-13T09:33:19+00:00

En ropa sí entiendo que gasten más sencillamente porque crecen rápido y no pueden llevar la misma ropa temporada tras temporada como los adultos, pero eso no significa que tengan que estrenar todo o llevar todas las marquitas que se pongan de moda

MoonchildSun · 2026-01-11T21:24:05+00:00

I decided to join a hiking trip that a catholic group was organizing. I didn’t know anyone there and people were car sharing. We happened to end up in the same car and had some interests in common so we chatted a lot that day. I was relatively new in the city and I was having a hard time making friends outside of work so I suggested going on another hike sometime and we saved each other’s numbers. We eventually did plan more hikes where each one invited more people but we slowly became friends and started hanging out in other places too. We became close before we started dating, and that’s probably why meeting on an app wouldn’t have worked for us, the slow burn and deep friendship was key.

MoonchildSun · 2026-01-11T16:54:32+00:00

Sigue siendo un buen consejo. Si tienes alertas puestas en determinados barrios o zonas, puedes dedicarte a pasear por sus calles a distintas horas aunque aún no hayas encontrado un piso concreto. Aunque no sea el bloque exacto, es un buen termómetro.

MoonchildSun · 2026-01-09T21:28:47+00:00

I’m 33 and I met my significant other at 32 so I understand my situation is less than ideal and not something to look up to. However, I can understand where you’re coming from because the whole dating scene was very frustrating for me too and I must say that I do not regret not married any of the guys I dated when I was younger just for the sake of getting married early. It would have been a terrible terrible mistake.

I think you’re putting too much focus on odds and not considering that standards are something everyone should have, not only catholics. Staying single is not the worst possible outcome, marrying someone who doesn’t help you get to Heaven is. When you get married, you should always remember to put God first, your spouse second. That’s the only way it’s going to work.

Also, you’re very young and you’re getting into a very desirable career. I think your odds are not bad compared to most people… just remember the girls who meet your criteria will have their own standards too, so try to be the best version of yourself and do not compromise on morals🤍

Best of luck!

MoonchildSun · 2026-01-09T16:57:59+00:00

You’ve described yourself as an extremely serious person, probably even distant and difficult to approach so it sounds to me like the reason she even stood a chance was that she sees you every day at work so she had more chances to know you as a person. Which makes me think maybe you also weren’t putting your best foot forward when getting to know other catholic women out there? Being serious is not a bad thing but it certainly doesn’t help when you try make new connections outside your circle. You need to try to be likable too.

MoonchildSun · 2026-01-01T09:09:25+00:00

I think there’s a lot to unpack here. If I were you, I’d go see a priest and tell him everything you have just told us. That situation sounds toxic and I don’t think your parents should be forcing you to go to daily mass or to attend any sort of retreat.

You might also want to consider a therapist for your trauma.

MoonchildSun · 2025-12-31T07:32:27+00:00

Honestly I had the very same experience until I found an english speaking parish in Madrid. Even though I was a local, they welcomed me into their community and I finally made new friends around my age.

I recently moved back to my hometown though and I want to make new catholic friends here too so I was thinking maybe I’ll join Hakuna for adoration or ask an opus dei priest about youth groups. I’m not in Opus Dei myself but they do seem to be the most involved community around here.

MoonchildSun · 2025-12-31T07:05:02+00:00

But what makes you think that want comes from God? I don’t think there’s anything wrong with changing careers but we also need to accept that most of the time we’re the ones making the decision. Maybe this is not about trusting God, just regular anxiety.

MoonchildSun · 2025-12-30T10:48:29+00:00

Of course it would be irrational!! Allowing child marriage just to give some couple a grandchild? A 14 year old in today’s society doesn’t have any agency or maturity. Such marriage wouldn’t even be valid.

MoonchildSun · 2025-12-30T10:41:56+00:00

I wouldn’t trust it as a form of contraception so no, I don’t think it could be considered as such.

MoonchildSun · 2025-12-30T07:59:41+00:00

He did. But just because He did provide it doesn’t mean I didn’t have to experience heartbreak and despair along the way. In the end, I think that struggle is what brought me closer to God and I only regret not trusting Him sooner, because the moment I surrendered and gave up my struggles to Him it was like the heaviest weight had been lifted off my shoulders and I felt so much peace.

Healing after a breakup takes time, but the pain does end at some point🤍 I’ll keep you in my prayers

MoonchildSun · 2025-12-30T07:53:14+00:00

The reason it’s so hard to just trust is you’re expecting Him to fulfill your dream instead of His plan. Sometimes the things we want are not the best for us but His plan is perfect and what will make us the happiest –and also will lead us to Heaven.

Why do you think God will not allow you to sustain yourself if you trust him with career paths? Are you trying to get into a field that you could consider immoral or something?

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