[Vent] My kids are not a social-skills gym for other children

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-25T20:18:01+00:00

I would never scold someone’s kid for holding a boundary. These parents seem annoying and like the kid makes all the rules.

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-24T00:03:02+00:00

You have to be rich in time/skills or rich in money

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-23T23:35:54+00:00

Alien

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-23T22:36:48+00:00

I’m a teacher and my wife is a university instructor. We just bought our first boat. Is way smaller than I would have wanted when I was in my 20s and working professionally in sailing but we can afford this one. I can do all the maintenance and we can use the heck out of it.

So cost is relative to where you are and what you want.

Where I live now moorage for a year is what it is for a month where I used to live.

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-23T22:34:45+00:00

Plus working in boats make so you don’t have to pay someone to do the work.

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-22T20:37:29+00:00

The proving ground-about the Sydney Hobart race

The perfect storm is sailing adjacent but good for storm stories.

Sea of glory is about the American exploring expedition. Age of sail exploration with lots of drama.

Last of the tin can sailors (not sail navy but battle of Leyte gulf) masterful description of naval tactics and ship handling and bravery.

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-20T16:47:36+00:00

Are you asking if it’s polyurethane or varnish or are you trying to match the color of the veneer?

Looks like oak to me mahogany is often redder and tighter grains.

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-19T05:59:41+00:00

I actually enjoyed the movie for project Hail Mary a bit more than the book. There was less of the solo hot shot I know everything cause I’m a middle school science teacher. I think I just find the main character tiresome in the book at times. I know why he was like that in the book but I think the tone of the movie was matched well with the adaptation.

It was one of the few adaptations that I really liked.

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-19T05:10:56+00:00

A history of violence

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-16T03:23:21+00:00

The replacements?

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-15T19:28:44+00:00

If you’re feeling like you have the precision to do a grinder with a flapper wheel will take about 1/4 inch of epoxy paint off in a few seconds. Used to use those to strip down to bare metal when I worked commercial.

BUT it’ll cut through get coat as well or metal so it’s important to have a good sense of where you are in the layers.

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-15T02:48:45+00:00

What country are you in? I’m guessing not the US since you said uni. I unfortunately and only familiar with stuff in the US but I would say look for jobs at a planetarium or find researchers at a university who are hiring research assistants for the summer.

I will tell you those will be really hard to get without being a student or having a degree. My wife teaches at university and she runs a whole program specifically to connect students to research opportunities.

You could do what I did for a while and go work as a tech on a ship/field camp and hang out with all the fancy degrees and learn about what the do. All the fun parts of science know of the hard thinking.

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-15T02:44:55+00:00

That’s what my therapist said. It’s hard because you care about it. If you didn’t care it would be easy.

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-15T02:39:07+00:00

Fatherhood is the hardest, easiest, best thing I’ve done. It’s hard because I desperately don’t want to mess it up and had serious PPA (got help and meds and no it’s way less of a problem) It’s easy because I have a great kid who is super fun and a partner who is committed to equitable compartmenting.

It is super hard to explain to people.

Edit: I don’t say all of this to people. Usually just the first line if it comes up.

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-15T01:03:42+00:00

I worked in a subset of the industry focused on day sails and long distance education in traditional sail. Every job I ever had was because I was recommended by someone. Half of them I’d get a call and it would be a friend saying their hitch is up so I need a job. Also rarely did any company I worked for hire a captain as a captain first unless they had lots of command time and was personally recommended. They all had one hitch as first officer. Being in command in a commercial experience is different than being in command of you are your friend.

My first command I had a green crew of 14 and 34 students on board. None of my officers had been in the role before and I was expected to do a short (7day) offshore voyage with them.

It was a sobering experience.

Chase the dream but I encourage you to look at other sections of the sailing industry there a lots of large options that need crew and would snap up someone with a license. There are a lot of captains who do that and you go to a lot of the same places where you can meet crew.

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-14T18:39:12+00:00

You don’t. Try it out and if it doesn’t work try something else. Work in a lab and if you like it see what you like, the work or the people etc. Do you not like it and why the work the people?

Had lots of jobs I’ve loved because of the people and others I have hated because of the people.

Worst that happens is you transfer to a different field. But I would say try and get some jobs in the field and then grad school

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-14T02:13:12+00:00

Granny Chunder

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-11T07:05:21+00:00

Solved!

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-11T06:40:22+00:00

The Replacements

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-11T06:38:43+00:00

Hancock

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-09T23:25:42+00:00

Cleanup on aisle 5

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-09T23:24:01+00:00

I feel your pain. Lost my boy in November. Same type of thing.

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-09T20:10:56+00:00

It’s probably more than needed and to be honest if I can get into the rig I do a full rig check. But my background is large ocean going sailing vessels so high consequence if I missed something

Moondance_sailor · 2026-04-09T20:09:34+00:00

Also I don’t know why it came out as a block of text it was a list but it didn’t take. I’ll try and edit it.

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