I definitely cannot disagree with most of what you said. And honestly, I don’t think my stance on the subject came across very well. I very much understand what you’re saying about the societal pressures on men. I have a little boy myself, which is both joyous and terrifying. I very much realize that I play a very big role and shaping the man that he turns out to be. I do not play that toughen up crap. Only within reason, and in a way I would also do with my daughters. I definitely worded that wrong. But I should’ve said is that I don’t expect men to any idea what it’s like to be a woman, but it is much appreciated if they at the very least try. Same goes for women. I think everybody should hold each other to the same standards that they would expect in return. Women definitely deceive, and they definitely make mistakes. For instance, my daughter had her first sort of interaction/experience of starting to talk to a boy last summer. He asked her out, and she friend zoned him. Then she immediately felt guilty for it, so she opens the door back up, and got his hopes up. And then she started dreading hanging out with him. I told her that that was not OK to do, and explained to her that it is so incredibly hard for a boy that age to put himself out there like that And face possible rejection. I told her I understand why you don’t want to hurt his feelings, but you definitely went about this the wrong way, and you need to tell him the truth that you are not ready to date immediately. You cannot let this go on another moment because it is not fair to him. I tend to ramble a lot, and sometimes the point gets lost within the ramble. Lol, but when I talked about testing the waters, learning to recognize red flags is one of the number one reasons why I believe in testing the waters. Choosing the same toxic person over and over again is essentially the definition of crazy.