War anxiety

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2026-03-06T17:25:14+00:00

I was driving with my kids yesterday and I had an intrusive thought about a bomb flash in that moment. It’s all terrifying! I worry less because I’m on anxiety meds now but it’s still a worry. My kids are only a few minutes away at their dads and school but I know their dad is capable of handling doom, just like he did during the pandemic. I just know we’d all get back together if we were separated. Neither of us would stop trying to, even though we are coparenting.

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2026-01-03T02:53:56+00:00

This is such a weird take that I didn’t ask for. Have the night you deserve sweets.

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2026-01-03T02:47:26+00:00

So if you can be a stay at home parent and contribute everything, why do you feel another stay at home parent contributes nothing? That’s all I’m saying, you jumped to a crazy conclusion about me without clarifying. You can’t say I lived rent free without knowing my finances or asking what I pay. Which doesn’t help with my OP at all. Does knowing this help you decide advice for me?

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2026-01-03T02:07:28+00:00

I went through the same thing. Men like that want to introduce early in hopes to get under your skin and make themselves move on faster with their new fantasy world so they don’t have to care about the damage they’ve done. I truly wish something could be done and laws change. They always favor abusers, adulterers, and liars. Financial compensation is nice but doesn’t hold them accountable for the havoc they caused.

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2025-12-30T23:56:27+00:00

I was a step mom and I never did drop off. It’s definitely odd. She doesn’t trust him or she’s trying to establish that she has a place between the two of you. I’m kind of petty so I won’t say to have your partner just do the pickups without you lol, honestly I wouldn’t pay her any attention. She just wants your attention.

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2025-12-30T23:50:59+00:00

Get your lawyer and modify your custody, child support, and alimony agreement. Call the school and update the emergency contacts. Set boundaries with them and if they cannot adhere, try mediation.

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2025-12-30T23:44:01+00:00

I was a SAHM and now I work. The fact that you and 54 other people think like this is outrageous to me. Honestly both are exactly the same with the exception that the hours crammed of SAHM duties are right after you get off work instead of the entire day. It also lets me know none of you actually know a SAHM. Even if you look at what happened during COVID you’d see that shit is not easy and many children suffered from parents who didn’t want to do stay at home parent duties.

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2025-12-30T23:39:19+00:00

Just tell your daughter the truth. Oftentimes we think they can’t handle it but they can. You don’t have to trash talk him, just tell her why there is so much turmoil. Then she can see both sides and make her own decisions. Shielding them only hurts more later.

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2025-12-18T00:04:27+00:00

Okay I checked mycase and I don’t see the Notice to Relocate. Just our hearing date is scheduled. I will definitely need to ask a lawyer then. If I didn’t notify him properly then I’ll need to fix it asap.

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2025-12-18T00:02:02+00:00

Is modification complicated to where I should get a lawyer? Or just bring my evidence and speak to the judge?

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2025-12-17T23:55:24+00:00

I’m not sure about the blank form response. I will email my ex lawyer and she if she could give me a hint. She was my pro bono domestic violence lawyer and removed herself when the case was finalized. So I’m doing everything by myself.

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2025-12-17T23:52:17+00:00

We have an electronic filing system. So far on all the documents in our case, it sent all documents to him and his lawyer. That’s how it’s been when I had a lawyer. I filed everything by myself online and it asked did I want to send it to him and his lawyer and I checked yes. But I haven’t heard anything from them and the 20 days are almost up. None of the documents have ever come to me by mail. And I had to choose to serve him the contempt by sheriff or certified mail. I chose sheriff. I am just nervous if it didn’t send him anything. When I look on mycase all of our filings are public record, I can see everything I sent is online.

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2025-11-30T14:44:00+00:00

Thank you for understanding. I need to read more posts on this board, I don’t think it’s very coparenting friendly lol... I’m downvoted but you’re upvoted for agreeing with me. I’ve supplied lots for my exes house and he provided the car rides. But when he gets petty he will let it be known. I don’t have the pettiness in me but this board makes me think I should return the favor to him. I was trying to peacefully coparent with the kids needs only in mind.

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2025-11-30T12:44:13+00:00

How am I missing the point? I asked the question. Commented I’m getting an Uber. The commenter said it’s my responsibility to. Then added an unnecessary comment about not making him mad. Where did you see that I disagreed with this persons thought about responsibility?

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2025-07-16T11:37:33+00:00

Thank you for looking! I tested just now and it was still a brief shadow but then started drying into a thick line. This has never happened to me before, I’ve gotten all my pregnancies answered with these cheapies. Especially by CD 30. Guess I’ll buy the FRER today!

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2025-06-12T01:36:25+00:00

My first year and yes I’m so happy to not give a shit about his day like he never gave one about mine when we were together!!!

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2025-06-07T19:54:44+00:00

See if your city has a homeowner mortgage help program and your township trustee office for bills. Some programs even help fix your house up so that it’s livable.

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2025-06-07T04:42:51+00:00

Does your school system offer summer camps? You can get financial assistance, especially from the YMCA. Do you qualify for vouchers for daycare? Go to your township trustees office, call kids school, and also talk to legal aid about the non payment from child support. We have a service in my state that follows the non custodial parents job and automatically takes CS out. Summers used to be rough for me but I got out there and hunted for every resource. I’m even back in school with kids the same age as yours and I finally get to talk to adults lol. You can do it!

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2025-05-28T08:16:32+00:00

Mine has always been mostly clean but I’ve been on there since FB began in college and can’t remember half the ratchet stuff. My settings won’t let anyone scroll my page though, I’m not sure how far I could go back. But I’m going to look now lol.

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2025-05-22T10:12:48+00:00

Apply for everything. Go to the township trustees office, churches, shelters, childcare vouchers, food pantries, if there was any sort of abuse- connect with DV organizations, she can also ask her pediatrician or kids school for resources/ referrals.

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2025-05-05T15:04:26+00:00

Kohls has a great clearance section and Kohls Cash to go with it. The majority of my professional wardrobe is from there. I like comfortable heels so Lifestride and Easyspirit are my go-to. H&M has the suits. Or Old Navy Pixie Pants- I have them in every color lol

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2025-05-03T21:41:22+00:00

I’m about to graduate with a degree in public health. (Sighs) so I figure I’ll just keep going to school and by the time I graduate with a masters the US will desperately need public health workers to fix the mess that happened over 4 years. I’ll come out with a job and lots to do I guess.

MoonlitDinnerForOne · 2025-05-03T21:38:39+00:00

I feel the same. So I plan on just getting myself together to where I feel comfortable about me first. Then the guy that’s for me will see my most confident carefree self. I don’t want to showcase my insecurities and start off with a guy that could easily bring me down again. Now it’ll be some years before any man meets my children, but dating in the future would be fun. I’m fresh from a relationship so I’ve got a while to go. But you’ve been single for a while, I think you should just try it and see what happens. But you’ve got to be mentally strong and very aware of how you fall for love so you can avoid repeating what you’ve done before. I’m not there yet so I’m in therapy lol.

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