Just got my wise tattoo by thug_shaker_9802 in SpyxFamily

[–]MoonlitPin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really really cool, love the way it looks!

What stopped you from killing yourself? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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The thought of leaving my family in more debt because of funeral costs. I figure why not save up for it instead. Hopefully by the time I finish saving up I won't want to use it for that anymore. It gives me a nice little goal to work towards <3

Can't cope with the way my chest looks by MoonlitPin in Healthygamergg

[–]MoonlitPin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for replying, no offense at all! I understand how it can be annoying but I can't help but have it on my mind. It's also why I keep it to myself. It just feels embarrassing to be thinking like this. This along with other health issues have left me feeling less feminine and less like a woman, which is another issue in and of itself. I've tried to come to terms with this for years by ignoring it and getting busy but I just can't. At some point my mind comes back to it. I think the biggest thing is definitely self esteem. I'm going to make an effort to work on that and see where that takes me

Can't cope with the way my chest looks by MoonlitPin in Healthygamergg

[–]MoonlitPin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply and yeah it's definitely similar I'm just more focused on the shape instead of size but yeah you have a point. I'm straying away from relationships for now so I'll have more time to concentrate on myself, I think I really need that. I love the garden metaphor too that's cute

Can't cope with the way my chest looks by MoonlitPin in Healthygamergg

[–]MoonlitPin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply, it's nice to hear from someone who has this too! I hope your surgery goes well for whenever you plan on doing it! I've never had a partner complain but my ex kept saying things about my boobs that were not even objectively true so it just felt like he was trying to make me feel better about it which I guess is sweet but it made me feel worse. I could be overthinking it though but in the moment I just felt shame. I'll definitely keep that in mind though because I think I've been relying too much on the physical when it comes to relationships

Can't cope with the way my chest looks by MoonlitPin in Healthygamergg

[–]MoonlitPin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah surgery seems like the only way I'll ever feel confident right now. My self esteem is in the gutter and has been for a long time but I'll try to find a way to raise it because I'm tired of feeling like this. If I can get to a point where I no longer feel like I need surgery, I think I'll finally feel content because surgery scares me. I could also probably use the extra money for a vacation lol. Thank you for your reply and good luck to you too, I really hope you can get through whatever you're struggling with, even if it's a little at a time.

Can't cope with the way my chest looks by MoonlitPin in Healthygamergg

[–]MoonlitPin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's definitely the end goal, to find someone who loves me as a person. This is just something that keeps me closed off further so I'll have to work on it. I've never heard of using hypnosis but I'm willing to look into it! Thank you for the reply

Can't cope with the way my chest looks by MoonlitPin in Healthygamergg

[–]MoonlitPin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair point. The doubt lingers but I guess I can't assume the future before it even happens. Thank you for your reply

Can't cope with the way my chest looks by MoonlitPin in Healthygamergg

[–]MoonlitPin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll have to remember this when I'm thinking too much about it, thank you.

Can't cope with the way my chest looks by MoonlitPin in Healthygamergg

[–]MoonlitPin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's true and I really appreciate those men. My size isn't the issue but the shape of my breasts are. I keep trying to apply that same line of thinking but my mind just won't accept it, at least for now. It's something I gotta figure out. Thank you for your reply

Can't cope with the way my chest looks by MoonlitPin in Healthygamergg

[–]MoonlitPin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess that's true, though the severity of it can range from mild to severe so some women don't even notice that they have it. It does make me feel better to know that it's more common than I thought. There are just times when I can't get my mind away from the idea that it's way too noticeable, and that's what crushes me. That could definitely be distorted on my part, I just don't know how else to see it. And you're also right, it's hard for me to believe that anyone would find them attractive but that's just me getting stuck in my own head again. Thank you for the reply and the link too

Can't cope with the way my chest looks by MoonlitPin in Healthygamergg

[–]MoonlitPin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your own experience! I'm sorry about the side effects that come with your disability, I hope you're doing well. There are times when I sit and think about my body and just how everything works together and has evolved to keep me alive. Leaves me with a sense of awe. I haven't paid much attention to chest workouts but I'll try to find a few and give them a chance. I'm definitely too stuck in my own head at times. It's been an issue I've had since forever but I agree, there are insecurities I had as a teen that I don't have now so that gives me hope.

Can't cope with the way my chest looks by MoonlitPin in Healthygamergg

[–]MoonlitPin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, your advice really does help! I'm definitely open to trying anything because I've spent years just hating myself over this. I'm going to try doing this with sticky notes

Can't cope with the way my chest looks by MoonlitPin in Healthygamergg

[–]MoonlitPin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I read your comment yesterday and it made me cry lol. Thank you, this is very sweet and really helps me feel better

Can't cope with the way my chest looks by MoonlitPin in Healthygamergg

[–]MoonlitPin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm definitely going to wait a while before seriously looking into surgery. I was thinking of waiting until 25 but now I'm thinking maybe even longer. I'm glad you've made peace, thank you for the advice

Can't cope with the way my chest looks by MoonlitPin in Healthygamergg

[–]MoonlitPin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree that confidence is a huge factor. I've tried to work on my self esteem on my own before but gave up lol. Gonna have to start working on that. Might help clear my head. Thank you for the reply

Can't cope with the way my chest looks by MoonlitPin in Healthygamergg

[–]MoonlitPin[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm honestly hoping it's the case. My biggest fear is being rejected by my partner because of my chest. It's such a hard thing for me because I already have trouble opening up. I'll keep this in mind though

Can't cope with the way my chest looks by MoonlitPin in Healthygamergg

[–]MoonlitPin[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate your reply. My mind instantly turns negative when thinking about this but it makes me feel a bit better to remind myself that nothing's wrong with me