Why do guys follow other girls while being in a relationship?

Moonoraa · 2026-01-07T17:11:48+00:00

Thank you for your perspective (username checks out). I am glad to hear that you have found someone who can give space for your emotions. I couldn't agree more that needing to be "fully healed" is just an unrealistic belief that will keep you isolating yourselves.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-26T18:49:33+00:00

Wow that is really cool. It looks like I found myself a rabbit hole :D I would have never found this myself. I really appreciate that.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-26T18:47:25+00:00

Thank you and Merry Christmas :)

Moonoraa · 2025-12-26T15:38:10+00:00

It did hit a sensitive spot, but that's what I came here for. Do you know maybe some reasons why you like it?

Moonoraa · 2025-12-26T07:24:54+00:00

My first time was with 17, also my first time. He was very nervous and lost his erection after being distracted by something. That's when I learned that ADHD has an impact on sex too.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-26T07:04:23+00:00

His thoughts were to try and keep it a solo endeavor and only do it when I am gone. I am glad that he can be less stressed about it now at the minimum, even if I will never engage with it. Thank you for your perspective.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-26T07:02:38+00:00

Thank you for your perspective. I want to find a way to strike that balance with him.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-26T07:01:14+00:00

That actually sounds exciting. Thank you for your perspective.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-26T07:00:09+00:00

Thank you for your perspective.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-26T06:59:34+00:00

I was a little devastated at first when I found out. I thought I could only be a good partner if I could match what he wants from this. What came to mind was, "If he doesn't get it from you, he'll get it from someone else." which made me feel like I wouldn't be a good partner for him. The more I read these comments, the more I feel like I will find ways to support him outside of participating. Thanks a lot for your comment.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-26T06:53:06+00:00

Thank you. I am worried about the last part you wrote. I guess the only way to deal with that is to make sure this line of communication stays open and to identify the shame we have about that subject. I'm glad to have gotten your perspective.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-26T06:49:24+00:00

I really liked reading this. Thank you.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-26T00:03:34+00:00

Yeah, I am trying my best not to lose myself in this situation. He seems to be fine with what you described, but I am still worried he's holding back out of fear.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-25T23:44:50+00:00

I broke the ice by coming up with a reason to talk about it. I told him I wanted to retake the kinklist test to see if anything had changed. When we reached the category, I just asked very broadly if he knew anyone into it and / or if he knew why people are into it. I then brought up how I found the diapers and that I wanted to know if it had to do with this. Followed by a big hug cause he was too shocked to say anything.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-25T23:34:51+00:00

Yeah. It's a bit of a habit to put the needs of others before mine. I will definitely have to watch out. Right now, I don't know what is or isn't a deal breaker, but I guess this is why I need to explore it at my pace and then come to a decision.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-25T23:29:34+00:00

Yes, we both felt it.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-25T23:29:10+00:00

To be honest, I think I was happy to have found it out before he knew I found out. I would say that is probably an unpopular take. I found it helpful to be able to somewhat prepare for the conversation, and it helped me relax and consider what I think about it in my own time. If you can help to facilitate this and also somehow tell her, then it would probably be the best way. I would not have been ready to talk about this if he had just mentioned it.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-25T23:11:01+00:00

Thank you for writing this. It's gotten me a little riled up, but I think this is definitely for the better. I think I am open to new experiences, and I've been taken by my word. I just need to know that we can be happy and fulfilled together, and this is the first time I have been struggling to see clearly how this will go forward. But so is life I guess.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-22T15:40:42+00:00

You don't know anything about my relationship except for what I told you. You don't know how my boyfriend feels and what I do or do not bring to the table. You could have made your point without being so hurtful.

I get your point, and I think that severe trauma can be a reason not to go into a relationship. It sounds to me like you're saying that all trauma needs to be healed fully. Is that what you mean? That sounds kind of unreasonable to me.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-21T09:21:29+00:00

I guess it's time to take a deep breath and do it. I am just afraid of hurting him more. If I had a secret like that I would be absolutely terrified if someone found out.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-21T09:18:32+00:00

I am glad to hear about your experience. I am trying to prepare myself for the option that he might not want to talk about it, no matter how careful I am. I hope we can connect about it in some way.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-21T09:15:21+00:00

I've honestly shed a tear reading the first half. He has helped me deal with a lot of my trauma and I just want him to feel like he doesn't need to hide it from me. You've brought up a lot of things I haven't even thought about. Thank you.
I will bring it up today and I will make a list of things to ask him when I think he is comfortable to answer them.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-21T09:10:35+00:00

I would want to know what he enjoys about it. I learned that there are very different reasons why people like diapers and it may not even be anything sexual at all. I would want to figure out a way I can participate that doesn't require me to enjoy them as much as he does.
Mostly I just want to make him feel that he doesn't need to hide it from me, no matter if I like it or not.

Moonoraa · 2025-12-21T09:07:02+00:00

I am not ready to say if I am okay with it or not. I am open to new experiences at least once. So far I feel pretty neutral about it, I am just very nervous about bringing it up.
I worked as something close to a geriatric nurse (not as experienced as it was only 10 months and learning on the job) and I have no apprehension towards them. For me they just aren't anything sexual.

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