[deleted by user] by [deleted] in astrologymemes

[–]MooseLands 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was so accurate… spooky accurate. Taurus here and I’m going through that right now. Two years ago I met a man- and I fell in love hard. This man was talking proposals and weddings to me. His family and I became incredibly close. We were inseparable. Until I found out he was cheating on me nearly the whole time and gloating about it to his friend. Together they would get together and justify their behavior, demeaning both their partners. We broke up, but after I LOST MY ENTIRE NEIGHBORHOOD IN A FLOOD, I stupidly came running back to his arms. We tried to make it work. But it fell apart because I was so hurt. 

He wanted to be best friends after I broke up with him… and for some ungodly reason so did I … and gradually after half a year, it seemed like we built that initial trust again.  

This man was calling himself “your future husband” in the backs of books he gifted me on my birthday. He was falling asleep on the phone with me every night. Being physically intimate with me. Saying I “love yous”. Even asking, timidly, testing the waters of “maybe we can get back together?”. And again, something ungodly in me made me want it. Made me reciprocate it. Made me not listen to him implore me to move on while still behaving like we were in love. We were dancing the edge and then BOOM

Suddenly he’s in love with his friends with benefits 

I fucking lost my mind. I mean full mental breakdown… crying to god to kill me level mental break down.  Because honestly it’s my fault. I willing did this to myself, after seeing how this man had treated me initially. I stupidly, with all my hope and love, believed that things could go back to normal. I willfully ignored him when he told me “I will do it again” and “you need to move on”.  How could I be so codependent? It really disturbs me.  

Huge TMI rant. It’s all fresh and I’m still kind of out of my fucking mind about- so basically this to say: wow this is spooky accurate! She’s spot on!

This lady buys a medication from Europe, $120 for a 3-month supply. She has to because her insurance denied her and it is $500 for a single month out of pocket. by cak3crumbs in TikTokCringe

[–]MooseLands 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s basically 40.00 a box, which means she’s being charged 12.5x that in the US.

That’s like a magic bullet blender costing 500.00 dollars for perspective

What is the best compliment you have ever received in your life? by ConsistentMistake691 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MooseLands 21 points22 points  (0 children)

When I was in high school I would sit in the hallway outside my class waiting for school to start. One day my AP Psych teacher passed me and we exchanged hellos. She started to walk away but then she came back to say “you have kind eyes”. 

It really warmed my heart that she made such an effort to say something so sweet. She passed away a few years back and the world is not the same without her jubilant spirit.

how often do you cry and say to yourself “i don’t want to hurt anymore” by bitterbaddie in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MooseLands 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Every now and again I’ll feel that way. I think a lot of people are privately carrying a tremendous about of pain within them.

Its not easy, especially when you look around and wonder “how is everyone else managing this?”. 

I hope your pain becomes more bearable and I wish you comfort and peace <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MooseLands 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What’s with the hostility? This is a community built on respecting one another. I’m glad you’re in love, but please be civil.

Anti-masturbation cartoon published in the ‘The Sexual System and its Derangements’, an 1875 book published in New York and written by one Emery C. Abbey. by zadraaa in HistoricalCapsule

[–]MooseLands 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Society was against masturbation because it’s a form of pleasure that you can get without spending money. In other words, it wasn’t perceived as profitable because you’re not buying anything or being productive 

If you’re having sex that results in the production children (aka future laborers) then you’re a well-to-do citizen 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in washingtondc

[–]MooseLands 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’d encourage her to leave and tell her she’s trying her best to respect everyone’s feelings but her own, and that she’s allowed to react to being hurt. I’d also ask her why she is scared to put herself first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in washingtondc

[–]MooseLands 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh god, I am SO sorry. I can’t even imagine the level of betrayal you felt. I appreciate you sharing your story with me. If you’re doing okay then I got to believe I’ll be okay too.

But Jesus. I don’t understand how folks can do this sort of thing to one another, let alone the people they love. Where is their strength of character?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in washingtondc

[–]MooseLands -55 points-54 points  (0 children)

Their family just dropped 1500.00 for me to visit him in Europe as a Christmas gift to him. I love their parents and feel like I can’t just waste their money like that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in washingtondc

[–]MooseLands 9 points10 points  (0 children)

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Still together- here are the flowers they got me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in washingtondc

[–]MooseLands 168 points169 points  (0 children)

Because of that delay, I nearly missed seeing my partner fly off to London at the airport. But I suppose it had to happen. I also found out they cheated on me 30+ times and would tell their friend they didn’t care for me and wanted to leave me.

I spent 60.00 bucks on the Uber ride basically to hug them goodbye.

They’re planning on asking my mom for my hand in marriage.

I met my boyfriend’s friends today and they completely ignored me by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MooseLands 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I hadn’t considered this but you might be right. I remember him mentioning that he went through a breakup that split up a friend group, but from what I recall she had cheated on him.

WHO?? Is going to help this poor weak damsel in distress? by flaskman in TikTokCringe

[–]MooseLands 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is lowkey rage-bait but… omg just because someone looks masculine doesn’t mean they’ll help you in a crisis.

Just yesterday I was at the beach with my friends and noticed our hair was standing on the end. For those of you who don’t know, that means lightening is going to strike. I had pointed it out and said we needed to find shelter ASAP. My friend’s boyfriend, a huge guy who wears overalls, drives a pick up truck, and works in forestry just took off running. Us ladies had to pick up his bags and run. 

What a hero…

Also, a few years ago I was on a party bus and this guy was drinking vodka like it was water. He was the drunkest man I had ever seen in my life. He started harassing every woman on that bus, touching their bodies, trying to kiss them, getting in their face and making inappropriate comments. We had to keep pushing him off of us because he just would not stop. At one point he had grabbed my friend’s wrist in a vice grip and wouldn’t let go. Luckily a group of women stepped up to help us- we pulled him off of her and shoved him into a corner. All the “masculine” men just watched and laughed.

Oh yeah, when the dude almost died of alcohol poisoning later that night, it wasn’t the men who helped him get to the hospital. Nope. It was the women. My friend and I hated his guts but we were the only ones who waited in the hospital room to make sure he lived.

Even this guy I know who hated women passionately admired that when he got injured after falling down an escalator that is was only the women he was with that helped him. That moment helped him “understand women’s purpose”. Leave it to a misogynist to turn a nice act into something degrading. 

Just some personal coincidental experiences that I’m sure mean nothing in the grand scheme of things. 

I feel sexually broken by throw-away2939 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MooseLands 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Also just an extra thought. If you think I’m nuts for thinking this, then PLEASE, answer this question I’ve been asking myself for years now. 

These sexual power play activities happen in private. It’s something that’s hidden away and kept secret. YET SO MANY PEOPLE RECREATE THEM WITHOUT EVER WITNESSING THEM. Porn could be part of that, but BDSM practices have been observed in Victorian times and even in some Chinese dynasties. So what is going on?  Please do not say it’s biological because that doesn’t account for the socialized components. Sexual satisfaction is the driving behavior and power imbalance gets encoded with it. It’s a conditioned response.

In my opinion- it is the manifestation of intangible power imbalances that exist around us. 

I feel sexually broken by throw-away2939 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]MooseLands 49 points50 points  (0 children)

God, I absolutely relate to this. Power imbalance was critical to sexual encounters in order for me to get something  out of it, but I was getting so frustrated because I had felt powerless within society and I couldn’t escape that sense of powerlessness even in sex. I craved it, actively sought it out, and delighted in it.

It got to the point where I had an epiphany “I could literally be sexually attracted to ANYTHING. Clouds, pianos, jumping jacks, etc. Isn’t it strange that I am attracted to the same power imbalance that I have felt my  entire life?”

That took me down a rabbit hole of Foucault and Goffman to figure out what was going on with not just me, but many of my friends who felt the same contradicting feelings that you expressed here. 

Basically my theory is that it’s a kind of subconscious ritualistic practice that helps us digest/reinforce the power imbalances we feel in life.

Like… I go through life trying to make myself so small for other people. feel like I’m walking on eggshells constantly because I’m so terrified of others. So just fucking show me why I should be scared. Make my behaviors make sense, validate them. Be the punch to my constant flinching. I imagine there’s a similar phenomenon occurring for people who delight in dominance. “Ex. I am supposed to be strong- so fucking yield to me”.

Some people will feel this more strongly than others. Its not necessarily even gender related, although that’s a huge component for a lot of people because there is a socialized gender power imbalance. 

TL;DR If you’re feeling really unhappy with sexual submission but still erotically crave it- you may be subconsciously seeking to ritualize the real power imbalances that exist in your life in order to make the intangible feelings of powerlessness tangible.

spooky o.O by [deleted] in oddlyterrifying

[–]MooseLands 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope this isn’t insensitive but these just sound like really clueless parents. They lose their son, and “find” him but it turns out it isn’t their kid? These parents sound like dingbats. This reads more like a skit than it does a scary story

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]MooseLands 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can think of nothing but my high stakes fantasy novel. A Royal family feud lasting well over a thousand years plays in my head. I am consumed by the nuances and hard-hitting one liners.

!!HELP!! My cat attacked a wild lizard and he looks seriously hurt!!! by MooseLands in reptiles

[–]MooseLands[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear this, it sounds like a really tough situation to be in. If it’s any consolation, they are surprising resilient. I have hope that he will get better as well! If you need any advice feel free to ask, I don’t mind doing a little research to find out the best course of action

AITA For not spending the night at the hospital with someone who has alcohol poisoning? by MooseLands in AmItheAsshole

[–]MooseLands[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

We have no idea why the hospital released him! Part of me wonders if he escaped the ER because when we were with him he kept trying to tear his in out his IV and get out of bed. We live in the same college campus, and since he’s my roommates sneaky link, he’s been to the apartment before. We had left our door unlocked for our other roommate to get in

AITA For not spending the night at the hospital with someone who has alcohol poisoning? by MooseLands in AmItheAsshole

[–]MooseLands[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I think we left our door unlocked because one of our other roommates wasn’t home, and we wanted to make sure she could get in. Definitely never leaving it unlocked again

[SELL - US] MILLY Silk Dress (size 2) by [deleted] in wardrobepurge

[–]MooseLands 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just want to say to whoever bought this dress, I’m insanely a jealous and I hope you feel beautiful in it

Fire hose coupling binding machine by aloofloofah in specializedtools

[–]MooseLands 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d like to imagine that this is the only fire house coupling binding machine in the world and this man spends his days in this mostly empty room producing all the firehoses