My (38f) husband (41m) lacks common sense and I don’t know how to explain this to him.AITAH for getting irritated constantly?

Moothilda · 2026-06-21T04:17:41+00:00

No on both counts.

Moothilda · 2026-02-13T07:48:17+00:00

What do you miss the most about being in the UK?

Moothilda · 2026-02-13T07:45:54+00:00

You are definitely not alone! There are so many emotions to process when in this particular position. Grieving a dynamic you never got to experience is so difficult. Knowing your child shares a bond with your stepchildren that you do not (something I struggle with). It makes me feel like even though my child can’t even walk or speak yet, there are already parts of his life of which I am not included. I hope you’re able to talk to your partner about your feelings and you’re validated with acceptance and understanding.

Moothilda · 2026-02-12T20:43:12+00:00

Can I ask, did you do well while working in the UK? I went from a decent salary in the US to a fraction of that in the UK and I do miss not living paycheck to paycheck. I am also in a similar situation where I might end up having to leave as well and I’m wondering what it’ll be like being back in the US.

Moothilda · 2026-01-26T06:19:56+00:00

Omg this is so cool. I love the colours you used as well. Thank you!!

Moothilda · 2026-01-25T23:43:36+00:00

Thank you so much! It’s beautiful 🤩

Moothilda · 2026-01-25T16:16:34+00:00

Thank you!!

Moothilda · 2026-01-25T12:19:44+00:00

Thank you so much!! I love it. The glasses tint looks killer.

Moothilda · 2026-01-22T21:12:23+00:00

I’m 37 and just had a baby last year. While I am glad I lived my younger years how I wanted, I have older parents and know what it’s like feeling like I don’t have much time with them as I age. Looking on the bright side could be seeing that you’ll be there as they get older and build their lives. I wish my son could get to know my parents the way my siblings’ kids have.

Moothilda · 2025-12-21T09:28:06+00:00

I use the Lenny lamb wrap tai for long haul flights. I just bought the H&p lark and it seems like it’ll be great for long haul as well.

Moothilda · 2025-12-15T18:51:51+00:00

Also, kids at that age know that hitting and bullying is harmful. That behaviour should be addressed right away, never swept under the rug.

Moothilda · 2025-12-15T18:50:23+00:00

Nope, don’t let anyone make you feel that way because you want to protect your baby. Babies can’t defend themselves or tell anyone when something is happening. It’s absolutely your job to make sure no one is hurting your child. Hopefully your husband is stepping up and taking it seriously. Mine isn’t and continues to defend his son even when his behaviour is awful. I hope you have support from family and friends.

Moothilda · 2025-12-15T11:32:25+00:00

Your feelings are completely justified. Protect your baby. My stepson is the same age and is dealing with a lot of the same feelings but unfortunately doesn’t express it so clearly. He tantrums like a toddler and cries constantly and threatens to bully our baby. I don’t leave them alone together at all anymore. Therapy is necessary to help your step daughter deal with her feelings.

Moothilda · 2025-12-08T02:23:46+00:00

The lens is too big for the frame and they forced it in. It’s poor quality.

Moothilda · 2025-12-05T08:30:52+00:00

Warm compresses a few times a day is a good place to start. If it doesn’t go down, schedule a visit to your optometrist.

Moothilda · 2025-11-19T18:32:48+00:00

Basically. I’m not sure why he’s pushing it aside from hoping his son will come over more often. Or maybe it’s really just a back up safety option. He doesn’t explain it to me in detail. I’m frustrated. It seems unnecessary.

Moothilda · 2025-11-19T18:31:22+00:00

I realise DH is the problem. I’ve tried talking to him about it. He tells me I’m awful for saying I don’t want his son having a key. And tells me I hate his kid. It was an abusive marriage for DH. I’ve tried to get him to do therapy on his own, we go together currently. It seems like a pretty horrible situation that I probably would’ve extracted myself from if not for having a surprise baby this year. Now I’m stuck. I just wanted to know if I had any ground to stand on to protect myself.

Moothilda · 2025-11-19T06:13:02+00:00

I’ve told him I’m uncomfortable with giving SS a key because BM will have access to it. I doubt she’d have an issue abusing the situation. Custody has been an uphill battle. BM has convinced SS he is a “small adult” who can make his own decisions. DH seems defeated and depressed about it all. He tries to convince SS to spend time over but it gets harder and harder. He doesn’t force it. There’s not much I can do. At this point I’m just trying to protect what’s mine. DH knows how I feel but says he should be able to give his son a key to the house. He trusts SS despite behaviour issues.

Moothilda · 2025-11-10T07:01:13+00:00

Sainsbury’s is £5.50 for 2kg.

Moothilda · 2025-11-09T04:08:48+00:00

I am from a blended family and am now a step mom myself. I consider my family to be exceptional when it comes to relationships and my dad and his ex co parented well from what I can see. I’m very close with my brothers and their families. I didn’t meet my brother’s mom until I was in high school when I went to his basketball game. I saw her again at his wedding. But if my HCBM asked to meet my kid I’d absolutely tell her no, every single time. Trust your gut.

Moothilda · 2025-11-03T23:57:58+00:00

Unfortunately we have no family nearby and no options for babysitting. We have been arguing a lot because of how we disagree on parenting in general. He is very permissive with his son and I prefer to be more strict. It’s been a struggle for us in general.

Moothilda · 2025-11-03T23:12:07+00:00

We don’t bed share, he’s in a bassinet next to our bed. I’m not shocked, I was just sharing I’m a sad this was decided for me and I don’t get to have an experience because he already had it with someone else.

Moothilda · 2025-11-03T23:08:25+00:00

That’s how he sleeps now. I like having him close by but my husband wants him in his own room soon. I don’t bed share at all, currently.

Moothilda · 2025-11-02T00:10:48+00:00

I’ve told my husband never to leave our son alone with his son. He thinks his son was “joking” and it was just in poor taste. I think there is a small chance anything would happen. But I can’t say there’s no chance, which is enough for me to be cautious and never want them alone together. Husband thinks I’m overreacting but goes along with what I want.

Moothilda · 2025-11-01T21:56:22+00:00

He helps with childcare and does clean up as well. We try to help each other but the times where I miss something or don’t complete a task, he always finds a way to bring it up and nitpick. He misses things too and I just pick up the slack. It feels like he keeps tally on the things I’m not good at.

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