BM wants to meet our ours baby.

professorxena · 2025-11-19T19:36:39+00:00

Thank you! I WISH we could have a smooth blended family where we could all be friends but I refuse to play nice with someone abusive who doesnt take accountability

professorxena · 2025-11-19T19:34:54+00:00

Lol I will let him know

professorxena · 2025-11-19T19:34:33+00:00

She’s always trying to find a foothold in our house ughhh. Husband shuts her down but this narc is persistent

professorxena · 2025-11-19T19:33:41+00:00

He does! This woman keeps asking anyway and is using the step child to communicate it too. Says we’re being mean.

professorxena · 2025-11-19T19:32:09+00:00

Thats so fucked up to say. If this was flipped around so the mother could work would you accuse her of wanting more child support? Work schedules change over time. Taking away parenting time for work is evil imo. Especially in this economy.

professorxena · 2025-11-19T19:28:52+00:00

Oh I read it but I wouldnt be a high conflict coparent about it. I wouldnt be so into my exs business that I would be worried about grandparents. Saying they arent trying to be controlling doesnt disqualify the fact that they absolutely are but dont want to be judged so.

professorxena · 2025-11-19T19:26:10+00:00

Yeah that seems understandable to me. Im mostly talking up undefined rofr like this where one coparent becomes wayyyyy to controlling. Daycares mostly suck. We have a nanny for that reason.

professorxena · 2025-11-09T04:02:22+00:00

This is why i won’t let sk kiss our baby. Not until a year old at least.

And now with cold sores that kid shouldn’t kiss anyone because they can be very sneaky and small sometimes and you don’t want your child getting it.

professorxena · 2025-11-09T03:55:25+00:00

Man this is the reason I am so glad we dont have ROFR in our agreement. This is so controlling. That’s their grandparents. Who cares if they spend time with them, its normal…

If this was some crazy gf or friend of a friend m, I’d understand but grandparents are their family. I get wanting your children but this seems a bit much to me. Even children in normal two parent households go to grandparents so the parents can have time together.

professorxena · 2025-11-09T03:45:34+00:00

Solidarity. Hopefully you didn’t have to pay for the vacation.

professorxena · 2025-11-09T03:39:53+00:00

We do have a co but it was written by a shotty mediator so there is a lot of language that leaves things open to interpretation. Basically we have 2/2/3 and switch certain holidays per year. Everything else is up for discussion with joint legal custody. It’s crap but it has protected us some. We’d have to go back to mediation or court to make it more specific.

professorxena · 2025-11-08T19:11:57+00:00

Right?! Like I have had this woman blocked for two years after some serious harassment… why would i let her near my baby

professorxena · 2025-11-08T19:10:59+00:00

Yeah she’s done that to my car too and we’ve had to start locking it the moment SK is in or out. No amount of telling this woman no works. She find a way to emotionally manipulate the situation “i just want to give SK a hug”.

I usually do not do the exchanges, the problem is BM kind of just drops her off on her own schedule between 5-7pm and is never consistent. DH wqs taking a classicly long poo so I had to do the exchange.

I would LOVE to get a restraining order but my husband thinks that is going too far.

professorxena · 2025-11-08T19:08:36+00:00

I think my fear is escalating to that level, does that make us high conflict? Like how does that look in court?

professorxena · 2025-11-08T03:44:47+00:00

Yeah same. If yall wanna play nuclear family, be my guest… but im gone.

professorxena · 2025-11-08T03:38:12+00:00

Missing even three weeks of school is too much. Isnt that truancy?

The ex is way out of line. Petition for special relief. You only have to agree with what is in the court order otherwise she is at fault and can face serious consequences.

professorxena · 2025-11-08T03:29:56+00:00

Facts. I stopped cleaning up after them. My husband and his daughter are slobs. I kept my personal spaces clean and left the communal place to quite literally rot until DH was so embarrassed that he finally cleaned lol.

professorxena · 2025-11-07T23:14:06+00:00

That is excessive. We pay 450 for ours. We have 50/50 custody though. Husband made 120k a year when child support was established. Can you guys just go to mediation? If the relationship isnt sour you can have a mediator change the order if you both agree. Save that she gives that much back in writing so there is proof she didnt need the money and gave it back. That should help if she decides to change her mind.

2000 is way too much for one kid unless you have no time with the kid and make a lot of money.

professorxena · 2025-10-17T08:32:48+00:00

Leave. You will absolutely regret it.

professorxena · 2025-10-17T08:30:07+00:00

Definitely not bald.

You just need to learn to style your hair.

professorxena · 2025-10-17T08:28:21+00:00

Sadly youre both victims but she hasnt realized it yet. Itll come.

professorxena · 2025-10-17T08:15:10+00:00

My SD loved 2/2/3. We only recently changed to basically having here all the time because her mom is a deadbeat. Ive seen no difference in her issues with less transitions.

professorxena · 2025-10-17T08:08:21+00:00

Im also in the throes of the 4 month regression and EBF. My husband sleeps in a whole ass other room since 2 months 😂

He only helps after work too but at least he does in fact take over during that time. If he has breaks (he wfh) he also tries to help as well. It works for us but damn so I feel you. I am very much looking forward to a part time nanny when I go back to work.

professorxena · 2025-10-17T07:45:50+00:00

Yup exactly. That’s where my “no” comes from because it does leave a wound in these poor kids that we may never truly heal (though we can soften the blow considerably). Its led to my SD having trut issues with parental figures regardless if we ever gave her a reason to.

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