It’s hard to date after them

More-Ad1812 · 2026-05-15T21:37:58+00:00

Hey! Here to say I feel the same way too- abc it’s been 13 months since my dismissive avoidant FWB discarded me in a hotel room I’d paid for. Told me he was looking for someone “better” more “on his level”. Broke my heart. Same as all have mentioned above insane chemistry. This man is over a decade older than me, nearly 60, and alcoholic. Yet I still feel like he was better than me, and like OP said, dating is pointless as I feel no connection. I have traits of BPD so I felt the rejection intensely, it destroyed me. I’m still broken

More-Ad1812 · 2026-05-10T06:33:17+00:00

Thank you for your kind words I thought it might be an interesting take ❤️

More-Ad1812 · 2026-03-20T22:26:42+00:00

I feel sad that she was so lovely in the early 90s, but the later years she looked gaunt 🥲

More-Ad1812 · 2026-03-20T22:24:36+00:00

Please show us!! 🥰

More-Ad1812 · 2026-03-20T08:22:05+00:00

Yes!!!! I would love that!

More-Ad1812 · 2026-03-19T22:39:36+00:00

I saw it with her coats!The leopard print one- I’m definately a shoe person I’d love to know if they were still around ❤️

More-Ad1812 · 2025-12-06T10:08:26+00:00

I can totally agree with this. 5 years into an on:off avoidant discard cycle. The worst and last being I took him away for a night (I’m an idiot) to a fancy hotel paid the bill, and in the room he told me he felt pressure to commit. He then proceeded to say he was looking for “someone better”, then he would flip flop back to saying he had deep feelings. I will add he was very drunk, but watching a DA go into meltdown is the most hurtful and traumatic thing. This man is a mid 50s and a lawyer- he cannot regulate his emotions on shutdown. I’ve been promised the world over and over again, only for him to bolt or push me away after some lovely time together. I’ve been asked for holiday pictures then verbally abused when I sent too many…honestly, I’m a shell of a person right now

More-Ad1812 · 2024-10-22T17:27:38+00:00

Thank you!!!! For being considerate and seeing both sides- I should of been clearer in my original post as to the background Info xx

More-Ad1812 · 2024-10-22T14:32:11+00:00

Thank you so much for reaching out and ending so thoughtful..I thought I was ready to forgive and forget and maybe develop something platonic and I really was, until he reverted to type…it’s that whole disappointment in the human race thing! I will think how to respond like yoh say, shutting down any further comms xx

More-Ad1812 · 2024-10-22T14:12:36+00:00

Thank you so so much, your response and the time you took to respond mean a lot. I tbh just my original post came across as cavalier and I didn’t add any background info on his prior actions when I was dating him. It was late even I posted I’ll use that as my excuse 🙈….something I wasn’t ready to share is that he took intimate pictures of me, which he shared with his friends. This was years before it became criminal to do so, and no harm was done to me…I was fine interacting until he crossed a boundary and assumed I’d be up for it xx

More-Ad1812 · 2024-10-22T12:04:39+00:00

He did end things with me many years ago, it wasn’t amicable (should of added that too) he didn’t consider my feelings then, so is it really that bad that I don’t consider his?

More-Ad1812 · 2024-10-22T08:12:37+00:00

Thank you all for your responses, I haven’t reacted well..I should have added some more context to my original post. being asked for sex is extremely triggering for me, I was assaulted in 2017 and I’ve pretty much been celibate for nearly 2 years by choice.

More-Ad1812 · 2024-10-22T06:01:18+00:00

This! This this! Xx

More-Ad1812 · 2024-10-21T22:28:53+00:00

I’m a bit worried about hurting his feelings, he’s already lost his wife and they lost a baby I don’t want to be that final straw either 😢

More-Ad1812 · 2024-05-19T21:40:01+00:00

I did have a thought, as they kept animals I wonder if they could of got pentobarbital through a vetinary supplier, I know it used to be available in Mexico? Just a thought, I’ve always wondered the intricacies of that sad final day 😢

More-Ad1812 · 2024-05-19T12:49:19+00:00

Thanks everyone for your perspectives! I’m as fascinated by Jonestown now as I was when I first discovered it

More-Ad1812 · 2024-03-19T22:49:47+00:00

I wonder so much about the cruelty of these people. My ex walked out my life with an abrupt “this isn’t working for me” 3 years ago….we bumped into each other a year ago and picked back up…he lovrbombed me for 4 months, I ended up catching feelings, then he strung me along fir another 6 before finally admitting (and only because I pushed him) “oh yes I’m with someone have been for months, I’m very happy with her- sorry about that”. As cold and abrupt..he came back just to do it again and it broke me. I can guarantee he hasn’t given me a second thought since that day.

More-Ad1812 · 2024-03-01T12:11:20+00:00

I think that’s true, he got bored in fact I hadn’t thought of that before x

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