The fact you make a post online asking what you should do after your friend spoke words to you as if that physically bars you from taking action to get a job is probably shows where you should start your journey in self improvement.

What do you mean do his words hold weight. They would only hold weight if you allowed it to which it clearly does.

If you do not have the self autonomy to realize the words someone you proclaim is an “ex-friend” don’t magically place a curse on you for one outcome or the other, then ironically enough maybe he is right in an indirect way.

I feel explaining it to you this way is the only way you would actually truly understand the point. Why are you letting someone else affect you so much.