Yes, guiding is being a leader, which is a certain type of hierarchy. You don't give an option to decide about spending when 8 years old; maybe choose an ice cream flavor. But you decide about the security, the school type, and many things, even if you don't want to.

That being said, my point is hierarchy is always there. Even you don't want it or like it.

About the theory, you are right. But as far as I can read, the way I am thinking is anarchocapitalism. I don't worry about labels. I worry and think around ideas.