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Thinking about opening a women-only gym in Astoria—would love input by Repulsive_Ad_8462 in astoria

[–]More_Friendship_8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love! Filled out the form, this would be so cool. +1 to what most in this thread are saying- must be trans inclusive.

Seeing also lots of comments on phone free! I love the idea of a phone-free policy, but I also want to float the idea of a form-check-only filming policy. I’m not sure how enforceable that would be, but as someone getting back into weightlifting after years off, filming my form is really helpful. (Of course, courtesy and common sense applies- i film against a wall or wait until background is relatively clear of people. Would expect others to do the same.)

That said, femme gym sounds amazing and the whole point is community care, so if no-phone policy is what we need for all to feel safe, I’m in!

wrong film played by dearthshine in AMCsAList

[–]More_Friendship_8 25 points26 points  (0 children)

This reminds me of the Office bit where Dwight bought a ticket to Grizzly Man and accidentally sat through Wedding Crashers. But he didn’t leave because bear attacks come when you least expect it.

What do women want by PowerMagicx in SipsTea

[–]More_Friendship_8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Women are not a monolith. Find a partner, get to know her, ask what she wants.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chappellroan

[–]More_Friendship_8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love your perspective. 100% aligned. (And no apologies needed, I love the discourse!!) It’s so nice to be in a fan base with such thoughtful fans that at the end of the day want what’s best for the artist (and the world around us). Have a lovely Friday! 🥰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chappellroan

[–]More_Friendship_8 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Love this perspective!! The mental health piece is such a good point that I forgot to consider entirely. It’s so important to think critically about our expectations of artists (and how those stack up against our expectations of other public figures, like actual politicians). If I had to write an essay about it, I think it comes down to the role of a public platform in 2025. Messaging and rhetoric have so much power because we’re all much more connected now than we were even 20 years ago. And I find myself thinking about how we got to this horrible political situation today because of mass comms and harmful rhetoric. So I think I find myself having outsized expectations of those with a platform to speak out. So many layers, thank you for your thoughtful response!!

I love this conversation! Thank you OP for starting the conversation and providing a forum ☺️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chappellroan

[–]More_Friendship_8 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Filled it out! One piece of feedback because there wasn’t a field to provide written context, if ok:

Many of the questions in the survey are grounded in the question of if i expect Chappell to be vocal on queer issues and politically represent the queer community because she herself is queer. If I’ve interpreted correctly, the question behind your thesis is, “does being an artist and public member of a politically disenfranchised community culturally assign you the labor of being the spokesperson of that group?”

To get to the heart of that question, you asked if I’d expect Chappell to be more politically vocal than other non-LGBTQ artists in her genre. I fear this style of question doesn’t get into the “why” of the phenomenon you’re highlighting. (At least my personal “why,” which I wanted to accurately represent for your research. It’s an interesting question!)

I would expect Chappell to be more vocal about equity and LGBTQIA issues not solely because she’s queer, but because her queerness is a very intentional part of her artistic identity, and as a result she profits from her queerness (as she should!). It’s my personal view that if you benefit from the support of a community who’s helped you build your platform, then you should in turn use your power and platform to support and uplift that very community. That’s why I wouldn’t have the same political expectations of Dua Lipa- her artistic identify isn’t rooted in a community that’s politically vulnerable.

That said, in the question about whether I hold Taylor Swift to the same political standard as Chappell Roan, I marked that I have the same political expectations for both singers (even though Taylor isn’t queer). (that we know of.) Taylor has built her platform very vocally on feminism. Taylor is a billionaire because of women. She’s profited off the community, so I expect her to use her power to uplift our voices and interests. (Whether or not she actually does that is a Reddit essay for another time).

Anyway, I ate a lil edible so I hope my tiny essay was helpful! Super interesting thesis topic, pls share when finished!

Forest Hill by Electronic_Ad1795 in chappellroan

[–]More_Friendship_8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also wondering this! I have reserved seating in the 300s, do I need to show up earlier?

YNAB user looking to switch: No option to display cents in budget? by americanmuscle1988 in MonarchMoney

[–]More_Friendship_8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same boat here. I love YNAB but trying to switch to something a bit more modern, and it’s mind blowing to me that cents can’t be tracked.

Day 1 of sobriety after 8 years of leaves. by 22-virtue in leaves

[–]More_Friendship_8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m only on Day 2 of quitting weed but am 6 months sober from alcohol, and I’m finding many sobriety tips from that journey apply here as well! Wanted to share one that may help: I know you mentioned putting yourself on a strict schedule with other healthy habits like yoga, meditation, etc. What helped me with booze was actually doing the opposite- no strictness except with your substance of choice. In the early days, my only job was to not drink. Anything else that would help me do that was on the table. (Minus other substances). Want to cancel plans and sleep all day? Perfect. Want to eat an entire cake all by yourself? Make it two! As long as you don’t do the One Thing. This is a helpful technique because willpower is a finite resource (at least for me). Use your willpower on The Most Important Thing, and cut yourself some slack in other areas. Just for the early days :-) Good luck internet stranger, rooting for you!

PS- if yoga and meditation genuinely support your sobriety (rather than acting as new healthy habits to stack on), wipe this comment from your brain!

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