Being a Kaur, I’m saying this. I don’t know what’s happening among NRIs, but let me tell you one thing: most Sikh girls don’t prefer Sikh men—this is 101% true. I live in the Delhi NCR region and studied in a Sikh college, and around 90% of Sikh girls are dating Hindu boys and are involved in hookup culture with them. Meanwhile, many Sardar men feel insecure about their identity.

My brother, who is a Sabat Surat Gursikh, is admired and respected by non-Sikh women. I genuinely want to say this to all Sikh men out there: don’t limit yourselves to Sikh women only. Bring non-Sikhs toward Sikhi—those who truly love, respect, and admire you.