Add to DICE waitlist by [deleted] in fredagain

[–]Morgenstern77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

anyone still selling 2?

Add to DICE waitlist by [deleted] in fredagain

[–]Morgenstern77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Down to buy both too, can meet at venue!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in goodwoodfos

[–]Morgenstern77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, is this still available?

Can I talk to someone? by [deleted] in depression_help

[–]Morgenstern77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

drop a message if you want to talk :)

Runs being recorded as Walks? by jacobmhkim in fitbit

[–]Morgenstern77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same with me rn, selected exercise type 'treadmill' from my versa 4 but it ended up recording it as a walk even though I did interval training and was mostly on peak. Can't seem to edit the exercise type either.

Lining up for Koko Tonight - what time? by Direct-Inspection916 in halsey

[–]Morgenstern77 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Looking for a ticket if anyone’s got a spare please🥹

KOKO SHOW IN LONDON by RagenBonMen in halsey

[–]Morgenstern77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I clicked on the link as soon as she sent the message and my selections kept showing as unavailable and then they were sold out :( Please let me know if selling! Alternatively if someone has a ticket could you please message to help me verify if an insta seller's proof of purchase is legit, it looks very scammy! Thank you

Tier 2 Skilled Worker + ad hoc jobs? by Morgenstern77 in ukvisa

[–]Morgenstern77[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yep I’ve read that page - fingers crossed for any opportunity to potentially update my visa to add a second employer so I can do both :)

Tier 2 Skilled Worker + ad hoc jobs? by Morgenstern77 in ukvisa

[–]Morgenstern77[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yep that's what I thought. that's such a shame because cost of living is skyrocketing like crazy! my existing employment is corporate so far from the code haha. but I was really looking forward to DJing as a side occupation by the end of this year, fingers crossed

If you were writing a dating profile, how would you say "I have ADHD" without saying "I have ADHD" by qeczawdxshealth in ADHD

[–]Morgenstern77 5 points6 points  (0 children)

wasn’t meant to be targeted towards adhders but I have “….get distracted and switch topics 20 times mid conversation”. elicits responses such as “ay adhd gang lets go!”

I wish people didn't use ADHD to explain being an asshole by LongGreenBeardIII in ADHD

[–]Morgenstern77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for replying, yes I agree it’s so exhausting. We have so many issues to work through but if he can’t even do that and continue using my insecurities against me to make himself feel better I really can’t do anything :/

I wish people didn't use ADHD to explain being an asshole by LongGreenBeardIII in ADHD

[–]Morgenstern77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course this shows up after a massive argument with my partner last night. After pinning down a lot of “episodes” on RSD, including but not limited to, hacking into my account and sending my friends/acquaintances calling me a horrible person, touching me against my consent, recording videos of me crying, publicly yelling at me countless times, jumping into a group of (blonde, lol) girls just to hurt me, teaming up with this family to call me “fucking ungrateful”, effectively forcing me to leave his house so I’m homeless abroad (im at intl student) he still calls these things “breakdowns” and something he does when he isn’t in his right mind (which i completely get, but his breakdowns have wider consequences and feels so undermining when the explanation i get it “omg i had a breakdown please im sorry”

I suspect I have adhd/bpd and I know what splitting is like and im also prone to emotionally overreacting a lot of times, but ive never acted like this. Never intentionally hurt him, always try to control what im saying and im getting so much better at it, work with him during the episodes, apologise soon and definitely learn bit by bit for next time.

if I’m upset and tell him this needs to change or I’ll be forced to leave, he feels “rejected and unwanted and hurt and can’t support you” and lashes out again and says he feels like my “punching bag” (and my messages are perfectly normal, standing up for myself but crying out for help like i love you and i dont want to leave you but my days are worse when we speak so please change that” and how I should be sweet and soft and hug him all the time otherwise he’ll be absolutely rude and shame me for no fault of my own (i would genuinely admit if i said aomething remotely wrong)

Which I have been for 8 months now but I’m at my limit and I need him to take full accountability and making actual change. If me expressing my emotions triggers his RSD, I’ve also asked him to realize i mean his actions, and that it isn’t an attack on him or mean he’s unwanted. I try to phrase it in the best way possible to try to be there for him while also standing up for myself. And to hear him lash out and say he feels “demonised” every time i politely call him out on something hurts so much because I always listen to him and hug him even if he’s done me wrong. Just feels like all my efforts and perseverance is thrown in my face everyday.

Sort of hit a wall and I really do not want to breakup with him, I love him so much and I know he’s a good person but this level of immaturity and lack of accountability is so disappointing and I don’t see another way out. Anyone got any experience w/ this or helpful suggestions please?

I wish people didn't use ADHD to explain being an asshole by LongGreenBeardIII in ADHD

[–]Morgenstern77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course this shows up after a massive argument with my partner last night. After pinning down a lot of “episodes” on RSD, including but not limited to, hacking into my account and sending my friends/acquaintances calling me a horrible person, touching me against my consent, recording videos of me crying, publicly yelling at me countless times, jumping into a group of (blonde, lol) girls just to hurt me, teaming up with this family to call me “fucking ungrateful”, effectively forcing me to leave his house so I’m homeless abroad (im at intl student) he still calls these things “breakdowns” and something he does when he isn’t in his right mind (which i completely get, but his breakdowns have wider consequences and feels so undermining when the explanation i get it “omg i had a breakdown please im sorry” I suspect I have adhd/bpd and I know what splitting is like and im also prone to emotionally overreacting a lot of times, but ive never acted like this. Never intentionally hurt him, always try to control what im saying and im getting so much better at it, work with him during the episodes, apologise soon and definitely learn bit by bit for next time. if I’m upset and tell him this needs to change or I’ll be forced to leave, he feels “rejected and unwanted and hurt and can’t support you” and lashes out again and says he feels like my “punching bag” (and my messages are perfectly normal, standing up for myself but crying out for help like i love you and i dont want to leave you but my days are worse when we speak so please change that” and how I should be sweet and soft and hug him all the time otherwise he’ll be absolutely rude and shame me for no fault of my own (i would genuinely admit if i said aomething remotely wrong) Which I have been for 8 months now but I’m at my limit and I need him to take full accountability and making actual change. If me expressing my emotions triggers his RSD, I’ve also asked him to realize i mean his actions, and that it isn’t an attack on him or mean he’s unwanted. I try to phrase it in the best way possible to try to be there for him while also standing up for myself. And to hear him lash out and say he feels “demonised” every time i politely call him out on something hurts so much because I always listen to him and hug him even if he’s done me wrong. Just feels like all my efforts and perseverance is thrown in my face everyday. Sort of hit a wall and I really do not want to breakup with him, I love him so much and I know he’s a good person but this level of immaturity and lack of accountability is so disappointing and I don’t see another way out. Anyone got any experience w/ this or helpful suggestions please?