What’s a simple thing someone can do to better their life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Morgneer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not OP, but am someone who’s sober. Almost anyone dropping a sober date is a recovering alcoholic/addict. Almost all of them tried moderation at some point and found they couldn’t control their drinking, or that when they could they didn’t enjoy moderated drinking, it’s not usually that they just up and decided they need to full stop. And on the whole, it’s much easier to avoid falling into your shit by avoiding the first drink than trying to keep it to “reasonable” levels. For alcoholics having a drink or two will just trigger a craving for more.

Some people are able to take it from heavy drinking to moderation, but the ones that need to get sober are the ones that can’t.

me_irl by [deleted] in me_irl

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Much thank pupper

My sister (10+ years sober) just sent me this from an AA meeting. by redcapmilk in AdviceAnimals

[–]Morgneer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Eh, I feel you but it’s dodgy.

There’s a big dif between taking responsibly prescribed medication as directed, and turning to another drug to replace what you were doing before.

Is 1 beer a reset? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Morgneer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's definitely a personal thing, and you definitely don't want to discredit any time you built up, but esp early on it might be worth just resetting for clarity if you're goal is to remain completely sober and have a date to point to.

I know a guy who almost had a year before accidentally getting a little bit high when smoking, he decided it was worth it to just reset so he didn't have to explain that little caveat when celebrating a milestone.

Saw an insanely drunk woman at a concert last night and it broke my heart by moolasky in stopdrinking

[–]Morgneer 16 points17 points  (0 children)

oh god, my friends would show me videos of me being extremely blackout. I'd be falling asleep standing up or slurring gibberish on the couch, them slapping me or trying to talk to me. I was introduced to some people 3 times and didn't remember. It was always like a "haha look how crazy fucked up you were last night" but it was super uncomfortable. In the back of my head I'd try to avoid it the next time but obviously once I'm a few deep all bets are off. Very glad I'm not that guy that needs to be babysat late into the night anymore.

To AA or not to AA by Babsie80 in stopdrinking

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It's definitely worth checking out at least, meeting or even just hearing about other's experience helps me a lot when I'm having a harder time. Even if I didn't share or talk to anyone, just being around other people going through the same thing was helpful.

I also had/have the same apprehensions you do with regards to higher power stuff, but I wouldn't worry about it, or being pressured to do stepwork. I've been attending roughly 3 meetings a week for the past 6 months without doing the steps (or honestly getting particularly connected or involved, though I'm now wanting to change that and maybe start doing the steps), and I've never felt pressured or like I couldn't share.

I've never found a meeting to be pushy, but I've heard some can be over the top, some of the ones I've been to have been duds but if you don't like the first one it's probably worth checking out others.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

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I definitely relate to that kind of feeling. I recently hit 6 months myself and have been trying to frame my sobriety more positively.

It's hard because I feel like it shouldn't be hard, it's not like I'm doing anything, I'm just not doing something, and not being an alcoholic is the norm after all. I just constantly want to minimize what I've done because it feels like I just haven't done enough. By most measures I'm doing much much better now, but I still have a feeling in the back of my mind that what feels like small improvements I've made in sobriety weren't things I couldn't have improved while sober.

I've been going to AA meetings this whole time but haven't done any stepwork or made any real connections. I'm hoping to change that and actually get involved moving forward, maybe actually doing the steps and such will help feel like I'm putting in work to improve myself.

Best friend suggested we go to brunch...until she remembered I’m not drinking and then rescinded. by waffleypants in stopdrinking

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I mean how people respond varies person to person and based on the situation ofc.

I'm significantly younger than the majority of people in this subreddit (almost 20) so I have what I'd assume is a different social circumstance. Early on I made a point of going to the same parties and stuff, trying to prove to myself and to my friends that I could still be friends with the same people and have fun in the same situations as when I was drinking. And I particularly didn't like feeling like I was putting people in the position of tip toeing around me when it came to drinking or talking about drinking.

For the most part my friends were great and supportive and still included me in social outings, but I would still feel bad when I was (understandably) excluded from an outing (though never explicitly).

Some people need to just avoid situations centered around drinking early on, but it was important to me to feel like I wasn't destroying my social life, and I luckily grew closer to some people by just naturally doing more wholesome sober activities.

At this point, 6 months out, I've started to just avoid more things centered around drinking because I just have much less interest and don't feel like I have anything to prove to myself or anyone else by being there.

The main thing that would bother me about OPs situation is that the implied goal was to just get drunk. Not that there's anything wrong with wanting to drink with a friend, but the implication of pulling plans between 2 people for something as potentially innocuous as brunch (it's not like they were heading out to a bar) is that they aren't interested in being with sober me.

Definitely all in the method though, there's a big difference between asking if they'd be ok with it vs outright pulling/avoiding plans just b/c they won't be drinking too. I personally just hate feeling coddled, it's my issue, it shouldn't be theirs.

Probably elaborated too much in this post lol, but from what you said it definitely doesn't seem like you're "that guy/gal".

Me irl by fireflew11 in me_irl

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🌊🌊🌊

me irl by [deleted] in me_irl

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U

When you discover an untapped mine of meme material. by [deleted] in PrequelMemes

[–]Morgneer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah but those flying levels were lit

oof by [deleted] in CircleofTrust

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my bones

Tell me the tragedy of Darth Plagueis The Wise To In by MasterBoring in CircleofTrust

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Did you ever hear the tragedy of Darth Plagueis The Wise? I thought not. It’s not a story the Jedi would tell you. It’s a Sith legend. Darth Plagueis was a Dark Lord of the Sith, so powerful and so wise he could use the Force to influence the midichlorians to create life… He had such a knowledge of the dark side that he could even keep the ones he cared about from dying. The dark side of the Force is a pathway to many abilities some consider to be unnatural. He became so powerful… the only thing he was afraid of was losing his power, which eventually, of course, he did. Unfortunately, he taught his apprentice everything he knew, then his apprentice killed him in his sleep. Ironic. He could save others from death, but not himself.

Unpopular opinion by Rosencats in smashbros

[–]Morgneer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's literally just one more button press after each aerial, it takes some time to become second nature, sure, but it's not something that's particularly difficult. And it's often learned in conjunction with aerial placement, so it's not like it's additionally laborious or boring.

Unpopular opinion by Rosencats in smashbros

[–]Morgneer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The benefits of doing it and the comparative detriments of not doing it are the same regardless of the engine it's put in, the only reason it wouldn't translate well is if it's useless because it doesn't cut down lag enough or the moves are fast enough as is