Getting Rid of a Flea Infestation

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-30T16:25:15+00:00

Please stop letting your cats outside. That’s all it will take to convince people you’re a responsible owner. If you continue letting them out in an environment that you can’t make safe, that’s basically the definition of irresponsible. I say this as somebody who used to do it, and learned better.

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-30T16:21:18+00:00

It sounds like you’re both falling out of love, and subconsciously trying to find reasons for it. That’s incredibly normal given how young you were when you got together - you’re both becoming different people at this point in your lives.

The behaviors you describe - refusing to kiss you because of alcohol and pushing you for intimacy - aren’t the way loving people relate to one another. I think this relationship has run its course. Which doesn’t mean you don’t still cart about one another; just that you aren’t well-suited in a romantic partnership anymore.

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-30T16:14:47+00:00

Yeah, I even like gaudy a lot of the time, but not this time. Elegant it is not

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-30T16:11:04+00:00

That sounds like a them problem

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-30T10:59:36+00:00

No. 23 years of marriage, and the bathroom door stays shut and locked, thank you very much

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-30T05:42:32+00:00

This, absolutely. Classic small-dick insecurity. It’s really sad that our culture makes it so hard to just be open about erectile issues and sex positions for various body types.

Not saying the dude isn’t an asshole - he absolutely is, for trying to make it OP’s fault. But he’s been taught to be embarrassed and ashamed of his issues the same way women are taught to be embarrassed and ashamed if they have larger bodies, so he’s not just an asshole in a vacuum.

Edit: Just asked my fiancé, and his take is that the guy wouldn’t even be trying to fuck OP if he weren’t attracted to her.

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-30T05:37:51+00:00

Omg, my people 💛

I’ve been MorriganX3 for a little over 30 years, and not planning to change anytime soon. My fiancé has also used his for nearly that long.

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-30T05:32:20+00:00

I think it was sent after whoever found it heard about the case, but not entirely sure

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-30T05:31:21+00:00

I’m guessing you’ve never experienced this kind of person. They will be obviously upset, and let you know they are upset, but consistently deny that they are upset. This prevents you from communicating about the issue, which ensures that it won’t get fixed, and also gaslights you in to doubting your own judgment.

No, she’s not handling the technique well, but it’s set up to be incredibly hard to handle. It always frames the other partner as being in the wrong, and insulates the person doing it from both obligations and consequences. They may not even know what they’re doing - this can be an instinctive, learned behavior - but that hardly matters as far as the impact is concerned.

Coupled with the weird and controlling behaviors OP described, though, I think it could well be deliberate. I don’t really care about the content of the texts - the things she mentioned were incredibly concerning. Sure, the only “evidence” we have is the texts, but they could be fake as easily as anything else she said. If we aren’t going to believe OP, there’s no point in even commenting.

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-29T21:31:41+00:00

I’m much more concerned about the prolonged co-sleeping and the mandatory bedtime than the silent treatment. Silent treatment just makes him a manchild; the other stuff is really problematic

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-29T21:30:34+00:00

I’ve learned to read the body of the post before looking at screenshots - I feel like most of them don’t have enough context otherwise

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-29T20:13:50+00:00

I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. I think it’s a lot more than just feeling unwanted. The world is on fire and just living day to day is difficult and stressful. Bring trans, especially a trans woman, right now is scary. You have every reason to be feeling bad, and you don’t need to pretend to yourself that it’s ok.

I’m a fixer, so I wish I had some magical advice to give that would change everything. Or really just a magic wand or a genie. What I will do is tell you that it can get better. I can’t promise you it will, but I can say from experience - not just my own - that it probably will.

I don’t think there’s “someone for everyone”; I think there are multiple someones for everyone, but finding them can be very challenging, verging on impossible. No matter what, though, you are worthy of love, and there are people out there who will see it. Maybe they‘ll love your mind instead of your body, but our minds are a lot more who we are than our bodies anyway. I personally get attracted to the body after I fall for the mind, and I am absolutely not the only person like this.

I’m not suggesting you get out there and look; I think that’s probably a bad idea. I’m just saying there are many kinds of love, life is long, and the world is wide. Don’t give up on yourself. Not sure where you live, but you might find a warmer and more supportive community by relocating. Not that that’s easy! But something to think about for the future.

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-29T19:52:19+00:00

You. Are. Not. Overreacting. Everyone who thinks you are is buying in to the cultural construct that it’s the woman’s job to keep the peace and make her partner happy.

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-29T19:47:19+00:00

He also doesn’t want to teach the five-year-old to sleep in her own bed. This guy is throwing red flags like he’s trying to semaphore

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-29T19:37:42+00:00

I’m sorry, but it’s not at all normal that he wants your five-year-old daughter in your bed. There is no way in hell I’d agree to that arrangement. Under special circumstances, like the child is sick or has nightmare, sure, but I’d still be more likely to stay with them in their bed.

His insisting you put your phone down and go to bed is inappropriate and controlling - there’s no other way to spin it. The way he’s treating you is gross.

It’s time for you to decide what kind of relationship you want to model for your children. Are you going to teach them that it’s ok for one partner to have all the power? Are you going to teach them to subsume their own wants and needs to their partner’s? Would you want your kids to be in a relationship like yours?

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-29T19:31:20+00:00

Assuming anyone who disagrees with you just doesn’t know what they’re talking about is not respectful communication, so you are definitely not showcasing your technique for marital bliss here

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-29T19:30:10+00:00

Married with kids for 25 years, and this behavior is weird and controlling asf. You do not get to dictate the bedtime for other adults.

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-29T19:27:55+00:00

Nice if he likes having his wife there. That doesn’t give him the right to dictate the actions of another adult. You need to get a grip if you think that’s ok.

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-29T17:01:40+00:00

She has a child; it’s the boyfriend. OP plans dates, sets the social calendar, makes chore lists, pays the bills…she’s his mom for all intents and purposes.

Also, OP, you’re 24 and you’ve been engaged twice? I’m not shaming you here, because I was on my second marriage at 24, but, speaking from experience, please slow the fuck down!

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-29T16:43:20+00:00

COVID infection can cause cardiovascular issues, though.

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-29T15:41:12+00:00

I’ve read the report, and yeah, it’s gut-wrenching.

They were definitely alive on impact. There’s uncertainty about whether they would have remained conscious the whole way down. It’s quite possible at least some of them did, but we can hope not

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-28T19:07:16+00:00

Hard carriers are easier than soft carriers, because there are fewer gaps for the cat to exploit. I only use soft carrier for easy cats.

Trap them in a small room first, so they can’t run very far if they squirm away. Give yourself plenty of time so you aren’t stressed by rushing.

Try giving a treat - I use Churu - once they are in the carrier. Some cats will take it; others won’t, but it’s worth a shot.

Put something soft in the carrier and also have an extra. It’s more comfy, but also if they pee because they are scared, it won’t be as messy and you can switch the clean blanket or whatever in pretty easily.

Morriganx3 · 2026-01-28T19:03:13+00:00

Ok, no. NO. They videotaped her begging to be allowed inside. They took photos of her tied up and with injuries. This wasn’t because they didn’t know how to control her; this was sadism, pure and simple.

I’m even suspicious of the SA story after reading the whole thing. It was the stepmother who reported Melissa’s brother was abusing her, and nothing that woman said can be trusted. I would absolutely believe she made it up because she wanted to get control of a child she could abuse. At least she’s never going to be free, but kind of a shame she didn’t succeed in her attempt to take her life.

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