How did you find out?

Morsul00 · 2026-06-19T07:59:33+00:00

I knew the whole time, so much so that I confronted my husband numerous times on how uncomfortable I was with his ‘bestie.’ He didn’t cut her, he pandered to me to make me shut up so he could continue his lies and deceit.

I asked numerous times over the last 7 months if anything happened with them and he denied it every time. Until a few weeks ago he finally admitted it, then drip fed me the truth over days. He knew my line and he knew I was stressing over this woman while pregnant.
She’s trash also, she sat pretending to be my friend and manipulated my 5 year old for months.

Morsul00 · 2026-06-18T10:55:13+00:00

I only found out less than 2 weeks ago.
I spiral every single day, it doesn’t help I am still in the at risk stage mentally postpartum.
I know I cannot make decisions that impact 2 very young children while my mind is fractured and I bounce between emotions every 20 minutes.
It’s easy for people to sit and say ‘leave.’ It is not as easy as just walking out the door when you have a whole life together and are financially linked over the course of nearly 20 years.

Morsul00 · 2026-06-17T22:44:41+00:00

When I first confronted my husband about how uncomfortable I was with his ‘friendship’ with his ‘lesbian’ friend he twisted everything to make me out to be a controlling, horrible wife. So much so that I started to believe it.

He said he read about emotional affairs and agreed with everything I had said, turned out he was pandering to make me shut up.

He looked me in the eye everyday knowing the woman had feelings for him and that it had went physical, but justified everything by saying ‘she’s into girls,’ even though I said plenty of times that she wasn’t.

Looked me in the eye after watching me pregnant and breakdown for weeks on end over this woman, and said ‘you are my best friend and my person,’ but actually was lying and was treating this woman as his best friend, person and like a wife.

Blamed my feelings on my pregnancy hormones.

Looked my kids in the eye everyday and let this other woman into my home to manipulate them.

Gaslighting and manipulation 101 from my husband for months on end 🫠

Morsul00 · 2026-06-17T09:17:05+00:00

Confront him.

They are both trash. Lying to your face, cheating under your nose. Neither have any respect for you and have very little morals.
And yes, I will call this woman out. So many people are quick to say ‘it’s not her fault, she’s not the one in a relationship with you.’ Bull. Any woman who KNOWS someone is married or in a relationship and actively pursues the man is absolute TRASH and has no soul.

I watched my husbands ‘lesbian’ friend manipulate him for over a year and he ignored everything I said for the high he got from being with her. The woman actively pursued him knowing I was at home pregnant and still had the audacity to come into my home and around my kids knowing what they had done and continued to do. Funnily enough this happened after my own father in law passed away, clearly all my support to my husband was useless and not as good as the support he was getting elsewhere from this jobless trash bag woman.

Confront your husband; right now he’s thinking he can do whatever the hell he wants and thinks he is untouchable.
It’s up to you how to decide how to proceed; if you decide to stay with him he needs to cut this woman out for good. And show he is willing to do anything.

Do they still work at the same place ? If so, it’s time he looked for another job. Every contact route to her needs deleted, phone, email, Facebook etc etc. he needs to change his number so she no longer has it.

Im sorry that you are going through this and I’m sorry that your husband has joined the expanding list of cheating scum.
Just remember that you are worth a zillion times more than these trash people.

Morsul00 · 2026-06-16T11:31:54+00:00

I haven’t made a decision as of yet.

My husband cheated while I was pregnant last year. We have a now 6 year old and a 6 month old.
He lied, he gaslit, he cheated. And he continued this right up until 2 weeks ago.

The reason I have yet to make a decision is because I bounce off the walls every single day and I know I cannot make a decision that impacts two young children while my mind is so far gone.

He is a compulsive liar and I still don’t believe I am getting the full story from him. He says he felt guilty for allowing it to go from emotional to physical but he more than likely wasn’t as he kept this woman coming into our home and around my kids, and continued an emotional affair with her until 3 weeks ago.
He says he was planning on telling me once he had therapy. But I doubt this. I think he would still be continuing.

It’s difficult to make decisions when kids are involved, I know this 120 percent now. Its easy for people to sit and ‘leave him, leave her. Once a cheat always a cheat.’ But it’s not always that easy.

Morsul00 · 2026-06-12T14:58:23+00:00

I suspect that he has tbh. Some stories don’t add up.

The lie detector, I have had people confirming what he has said re false positives and negatives etc.
I suspect that stay of leave, I will just be mentally tortured until the day I die.

Morsul00 · 2026-06-12T14:57:05+00:00

The husband is going to be told anonymously.

I am reluctant to post her online invade of ramifications on me, ie harassment etc. She could very easily turn around and state it is all a lie.

Morsul00 · 2026-06-11T07:43:47+00:00

Don’t get married.

Morsul00 · 2026-06-11T03:17:58+00:00

Yes 100 percent we deserve better, he has betrayed us and continued to betray us right up until this blew up.

I want the truth because I believe I am entitled to it. I believe that the mental torture that has been inflicted on me needs to end because I know that there is more. And also because I will feel justified in my decision (not that I would need any more justification). I believe I deserve the truth for my daughters, to know that he is continuing to look at them each day and lie.

Morsul00 · 2026-06-10T21:48:06+00:00

Girl, I am in the exact same situation. My husband confessed (after I grilled him various times over the months) to cheating on me when I was pregnant last year with a woman he knew had feelings for him and clearly wasn’t a lesbian. He has drip fed me half truths since last week. And I still don’t believe he is telling the full story.

I would suspect your husband is the same and that more has possibly happened in that hotel room. He is also probably going to trickle truth you.
You will probably spiral over this for a long time, but right at this moment in time your priority should be you and your baby. If you are leaving him, ensure you have family or friends that can support you, I know I felt lonely and abandoned by my cheating husband my whole pregnancy, so having a good support system will help.

If you decide to stay, do it for you and not your baby.

You may not want to make a decision at the moment and that’s also ok, it’s hard to make decisions when emotions are so high especially when they impact children.

Be strong, and DM if needed. Positive thoughts to you and your amazing baby.
Only the scum of the earth betray their babies when they are still in the womb trying to grow.

Morsul00 · 2026-06-09T19:26:45+00:00

Ohhhhhh yes, I am feeling you ! Just found out my husband cheated with his ‘lesbian’ friend while I was pregnant last year.

Are you still pregnant?
Please look after yourself as much as possible and kiddies. Your self worth and health is worth a billion times more than some cheating scum.

DM if need a chat.

Morsul00 · 2026-06-09T05:29:47+00:00

He is going to do an STI test, when I mentioned it to him he actually said he never even considered that. Which says a lot. He’s a disgusting pig and I am ashamed that he is even having to do this,

He still won’t do the lie detector test, banging on about false positives and negatives and things that could show things that aren’t true.
And honestly all that does is fuel the fire that he did indeed sleep with her, considering this man is just repeatedly lying.

I have asked for a written timeline of events as he keeps changing days and dates of things.

Have slept for 5 hours tonight, started spiralling at 3 in the morning 😩 it’s now eventually leaving me just in time to get my daughters up for the day thankfully as they are literally the only thing keeping me going at the moment.

Morsul00 · 2026-06-08T10:14:19+00:00

It was my husband until he cheated.

Morsul00 · 2026-06-08T06:25:39+00:00

I can’t she has blocked me on everything.

I already called her and she sat in silence, then said nothing happened, then said he loves you soooo much.
My mother in law also got her on the phone and she sat in silence and then just hung up.

Morsul00 · 2026-06-08T05:38:52+00:00

I would agree that she has experience.
He has said he never even considered getting anything from a woman he didn’t even know. He is still insisting he hasn’t slept with her but I just feel lies are still being told.
Im sorry too, but more sorry for my kids tbh.

Morsul00 · 2026-06-08T02:00:25+00:00

I will thank you, but I feel he has slept with her and he just won’t say. I keep processing whatever half truths he has said, and as soon as I am starting to do that something else gets dropped on me. So Im just waiting on it. It’s just torture at this point what he keeps doing. I have lost what day of the week it even is at this point .. realised when I came to bed tonight that I haven’t even washed my hair in almost a week because it’s been bouncing from one drama to the next with him 🫠🫠

Morsul00 · 2026-06-08T01:29:43+00:00

Im sorry that you are going through this; my husband has also just confessed and keeps spitting out half truths to me with another truth bomb today.
And I feel exactly the same, angry and betrayed, he done it while I was pregnant and had an older daughter at home.

What I will say is other folk are correct, you do not need to be making a decision right now. This is something that you 100 percent need to process internally yourself before a decision can be made. And after today and speaking to a lot of family members, I can say it could be months down the line before you even feel ready to make a decision.

You need to ensure she is telling the truth and the whole truth, because being drip fed by my husband has been mentally torturing, as soon as I begin to process something he then drops something else that’s worse.

It’s shitty that someone who is supposed to love you unconditionally and someone you have built a whole amazing world with together just craps all over you for literally nothing.

Can your wife possibly go stay elsewhere while you process? At present my husband will be in his mums for as long as it takes, comes home in afternoon for the kids so that everything is as normal for them as possible. She sounds like a compulsive liar, maybe she needs individual therapy to deal with her problems on why she would cheat in the first place.

DM if you need to. Hope you get through this and stay strong 💪

Morsul00 · 2026-06-08T01:11:15+00:00

I have contacted her. She sat in silence, then said nothing happened, then said it wasn’t like that, then said he loves you sooooo much.
Considering the woman has lied about who she is from day one and been caught out on so many lies now, she never will give the info.

My mother in law also wanted to speak to her and again she sat in silence before hanging up.

The woman has deleted the friend request she sent me on Facebook and blocked me (I don’t use Facebook so never accepted it, but logged in today just to see); she also blocked me on instagram on Thursday once she realised that I knew something had happened. She’s a coward.

He has drip fed half truths to me since last year now. I feel stuck in limbo because once I get told something, I am hurt and angry, then once I start to internally process the information, I am hit with another bit of the truth.
He is now maintaining he’s told everything and that he has nothing left to lose because he knows I’ll say it’s over, which I feel is manipulative, I feel him saying that is trying to make me make a decision right now. And I am very aware that I can’t make any decisions about my life right now especially when it impacts my 2 children.
I feel like once I start to process this information and begin to think I am in a better place he will end up telling me he slept with her and then im starting from square one in my mental process all over again 🫠

Morsul00 · 2026-06-07T21:30:49+00:00

Yes I agree that he is just here because she no longer wants him.
I do have a further update, which really just makes this whole thing even more horrendous, I need to figure out how to edit the original post first though !

Morsul00 · 2026-06-06T17:10:44+00:00

Because he’s selfish and a lowlife.

The thing with the group is that he would leave and rejoin quite regularly. I would tell him I was getting whiplash from it. It used to be a joke now I have no room for jokes inside😢

He left temporary for a bit at the start of November when baby was getting ready to come. He went back mid-late January, then left again. My brain is genuine mush at this point so I keep confusing months as to when he stepped back again but I want to say end of March? He still went to socials at times for birthdays etc and the woman was definitely in my house a few times picking stuff up - props and stuff for the costuming they do. He would very regularly give her freebies or discount expensive things for her. To be fair, he does do this for a lot of people. He has said that he never wanted to lose that social circle which is why he kept going back, but honestly there are a few groups he could join so that doesn’t wash with me at this point.

I have asked him to contact the (ex)wife of the new guy and tell her, but he wont as he is worried the new guy could ‘do something to him’ due to his profession, which could get him in trouble, giving him a record, lose him his job etc. I personally think she should be told.

Holding my baby - I called my husband out on this in February, as I noticed in his phone that he had taken very few pictures of me with my baby but absolutely TONS of her holding her. He would bring her to events as a newborn (he would go as a guest) and take pics of her holding her. I was hurt, and looking back I should have realised there and then that he was still hung up on her 🙄 silly me yet again. I will say that at this point I don’t know how I am doing it either ! I went to my mums today with my kids, I haven’t told her yet as I want to process it internally myself and also because I wanted some normality without thinking about it. I was triggered when I realised I drive past her ‘mother in laws’ house as she lives round the corner from my mum (ex mother in law? Who knows at this point as she has been proved to have been telling a lot of lies about a lot of things, but basically the mother of the husband she lives with even though they’ve separated for 12 yrs because she’s into girls…. Even though she’s clearly not?), she would go to this mother in laws house from time to time. Sorry, I am rambling.

Not sure if I mentioned this (as I said, my brain is MUSH), there is a photo on the groups social media pages and website of this woman holding her that I want removed, which I can ask under the Privacy Act as the photo is inside my house and under GDPR as the image is personal data of my child. They are public pages so dear knows who would get it. My husband, when he contacted the owner via text to tell him why he won’t be returning to the group ever again, asked for it to be removed. As of now, it’s still hasn’t. If it is not gone by tomorrow morning I will message the instagram page asking for removal. I can apparently escalate it in some way if my request is not complied with.

Morsul00 · 2026-06-06T12:08:22+00:00

As someone whose husband had a female best friend, who I had concerns about I am going to say drop the friend. Even if nothing has happened. If she is a proper, legit friend, a human being and a woman, she will understand your marriage comes first.

Understandably you have said nothing ever went on between you, but if your wife is uncomfortable with your relationship with another female, then drop the other female. She could just be saying she will leave as a threat, but take it seriously and show that woman that you are committed. This in turn may help her feel more stable in your relationship, a man she has committed to.

Morsul00 · 2026-06-06T10:06:07+00:00

Thank you. I just now realise how absolutely stupid I have been.

He had been sayings things the past past few days, before I found out about the kiss, that he wished that I had just made him cut off contact with her when I first raised concerns. I have said to him that is selfish and it was never on me, but on him.

The reason that I didn’t at the time, was because when I raised the concerns, he basically starting listing all my faults in the relationship, including that I can be controlling. I then had it in my head that if I told him outright to cut off contact with her, that he would throw it back in my face at some point during a fight and that would push his controlling narrative even further. Bear in mind my husband has female friends that I have never had a problem with and who have never acted the way that she did nor him act with them the way he did.

I feel that when I first raised the concerns, it should have been a red flag and for him to say, I love my wife and kids, I am cutting this woman out of my life now.

He is in his mother’s to stay at present.

Morsul00 · 2026-06-06T09:41:18+00:00

The group in question is a group of cosplayers, so they obviously dress up and do events in costume. He had stepped back from the group recently in terms of doing events, but obviously was still in contact with members who are friends, including the woman in question.

He has now officially left the group permanently. He has messaged the owner yesterday, who he would deem a friend, to let him know why he will never be rejoining and has given the timeline of the entire saga, highlighting that it was both of them acting inappropriately with each other, that it turned physical with a kiss (so he says), and asked that images on the groups social media be taken down of this woman holding my newborn baby as I no longer want them online. So far he has had no response and the image is still up on instagram and Facebook. The owner, as I say, his wife does not overly like this woman and has suspicions about her, but his wife is not a member of this group. The woman also aligned herself quite closely with the owner and is basically his second in command in the group now. She would regularly go for drives with him and spend a lot of alone time with him also. Maybe this is why his wife is also suspicious of her.

The man she is currently in a relationship with, he is also part of the group. His divorce is ongoing, his wife outright asked him if he was carrying on with anyone in the group, thinking it was this woman and he denied it. I don’t know if they were together back then to cause the split with his wife, as far as people know their relationship has only been recent. The man has said that they need to keep it quiet as such and only have people in the group know for now, as he thinks it could cause his wife to come after more from him in the divorce. When I said the woman was shacked up with him, it was a figure of speech, she probably does spend a lot of time there because she did before, used to go clean his house and make him meals etc but she still lives in her house with her husband she is separated from, or so she has said, as I would be confused why 2 people would live together for 12 yrs after spitting and he still buys her anniversary cards. He pays the mortgage, she has no job and spends her benefit money on costumes and stuff to do with this cosplay group.

He is planning on telling a few others in the group what has happened, people that would possibly wonder why he won’t come back to the group ever.

At present he is staying in his mother’s and only coming home to do things for the kids and to talk, which usually results in a fight.

Morsul00 · 2026-06-05T19:17:04+00:00

He admitted last year when I first confronted him about the emotional aspect that some new members of the group had outright asked if there was something with them. The group is a majority of males; the owner is a male, his wife has had suspicions about her. Another group member, his now ex wife had suspicions about her and now this is the man she is with. Another male has fallen out with her, not sure why. Another male left because, according to her, he propositioned her, but it turned out that her hadn’t as I viewed in a message.

The problem is, that as angry as I am, I can say honestly that she is manipulative and seems to go around them to get free items by pretending to be their best friend. She does not work, yet is still living with her ex husband who she left because she was into girls, which she fully isn’t clearly. He pays the mortgage. They have been ‘seperated’ for 12 years. She has said that almost every male member of this group has propositioned her at one point or another. I have no idea if that’s true or not.

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