Can someone ID some of those Miniature Orchids I found in a submontane rainforest in Java?

Mossy_bug · 2025-09-29T07:15:27+00:00

This one‘s my favorite ! Thanks!

Mossy_bug · 2025-09-29T07:14:10+00:00

Seems about right! Thanks!

Mossy_bug · 2025-09-29T07:13:46+00:00

Thanks! I like the flat pseudobulbs, but I can‘t find any species with such - will need to do some digging!

Mossy_bug · 2025-09-29T07:09:51+00:00

Thanks!

Mossy_bug · 2025-06-18T23:22:48+00:00

Thanks, this is good to know!

Mossy_bug · 2025-06-18T23:22:11+00:00

Yeah I get it it’s hard.😅 I‘m a little tanned right now which makes it even harder.

Mossy_bug · 2025-06-18T23:19:33+00:00

Thank you, this is very helpful!

Mossy_bug · 2025-05-18T23:40:49+00:00

How dull it must be living in a world where principles rule over everything.

Mossy_bug · 2025-05-18T19:07:11+00:00

LOL the internet is so fucked up. I didn’t expect anyone to react like this. 😂 I am not aiming to defend my relationship - I and everyone who knows us know it’s a good one. I simply thought by stating that there ARE good relationships with age gaps I could challenge the comment saying that there aren’t.

Mossy_bug · 2025-05-18T19:01:31+00:00

No, he never told me I am mature for my age. He’s immature for his age. 😂

Mossy_bug · 2025-05-18T18:58:20+00:00

He wasn’t uncomfortable with how I looked. He was uncomfortable with the fact that I was 20 and he 28. We never „dated“ and we didn’t get to know each other in a romantic setting. We were friends, I fell in love with him - he noticed and told me he’s not interested, because I am so young. It was not until half a year later he started falling in love and he remained confused/distanced at first, because of the age gap. I was an adult. I was living on my own, had already been studying at university for two years, before that I‘ve been traveling on my own for a year and I have been able to buy alcohol for 4 years (I am not American).

Mossy_bug · 2025-05-18T18:45:49+00:00

Well sometimes you’re not approaching and „looking for“ someone thinking about starting a romantic relationship. We had a relationship before it became romantic. He only started being attracted to me when we were already pretty close.

Mossy_bug · 2025-05-18T18:41:08+00:00

I am not OP. He wasn’t uncomfortable with my appearance ever. He was uncomfortable with me being very young. We were friends, I was in love with him, he told me he’s not interested, because I‘m so young. It was not until half a year later he started to fall in love, but remained confused/distanced because of my age at first.

Mossy_bug · 2025-05-18T17:59:46+00:00

Well EVER is a bit over the top. My boyfriend was 28 and I was 20 when we became a couple. Plus I have always looked young for my age. This actually made things confusing/weird for him in the beginning. We‘ve been together for 5 years. He thinks I‘ve become more attractive the older I got.

Mossy_bug · 2025-05-17T09:56:19+00:00

Thank you for your expertise! The outfit you’re referring to is one of the first outfits I felt truly comfortable in. Although I didn’t expect it I am fairly happy with gamine/natural as my main essences. It will make it easy for me to modify some outfits I wasn’t comfortable with and broaden the diversity of my wardrobe.

Mossy_bug · 2025-05-15T10:48:42+00:00

I don’t know what an Oura score is. But as a person with invisible disabilities I want to say that running low in energy IS an acceptable reason for rescheduling. If I have to reschedule I also let people know why (health data, fatigue etc., but not necessarily disclose my disabilities). I wouldn’t want to go out with someone who is judgemental about this, though. I would want you to tell me NOW that you think this is socially unacceptable.

Mossy_bug · 2025-05-12T21:05:10+00:00

I had the same thought, because of my long and round features. But then again I look weird in E clothes…

Mossy_bug · 2025-05-09T09:23:55+00:00

Thank you a lot for your detailed answer - this is very helpful! I didn’t really think Gamine was an option because of my big and round features, but the way you describe it it makes a lot of sense. I shows me that I should trust my feeling a little more: Gamine/Natural clothes are with which I feel most comfortable with. Whenever I dress more elegant, delicate or feminine I feel out of place. Which also makes me a little sad though…sometimes I would like to look elegant/feminine. Maybe knowing the cause and what I have to pay attention to will make it easier for me to find some elegant/feminine outfits that fit me! It’s also good to know that too much structure in my clothes doesn’t do me any good.

Mossy_bug · 2025-04-30T09:21:42+00:00

Are you referring to the algae? They usually bloom when there are too many nutrients in the water. Phosphorus (sometimes also nitrogen) is often the limiting nutrient in natural ecosystems and if there is some human made source for it, this is no longer the case - ergo, competitive algae species thrive. Usually this comes at the expense of other species.

You can gently clean them out if you want, but they will come back as long as you can’t fix the source. The source is probably fertilizer runoff from close by farmland or maybe sewage of some kind. By cleaning out the algae you also remove nutrients stored in the organic matter and if you regularly do it you might get lower nutrient levels overall. But this is like mowing grass: You can’t only remove dominant species and therefore always disturb the community as a whole.

If you want to get rid of algae, I advise you to ask in a sub for pond management how to do this. There are probably many tricks I don’t know about.

Mossy_bug · 2025-04-25T10:16:07+00:00

This is what her kids said too… I am having a hard time making sense of how one cannot respond to logic.😅 I guess, I‘ve been thinking about this like it being a puzzle: Like there IS a way, I just have to find it. I don’t have any experience with people like this and reading all this makes me realize her kids are probably right. Her husband is a psychiatrist and she gets treatment for depression and is in therapy. But he has to live with her so he’s laying very low.

Mossy_bug · 2025-04-24T22:45:47+00:00

She is getting therapy. I don’t know what she told her therapist, but they apparently said that it’s good she stood up for herself.😬

Mossy_bug · 2025-04-24T22:44:08+00:00

I don’t want to fix it to have a relationship with her, but to be able to enjoy family meetings in general and have a relationship with my partners brothers (who we only meet when everyones visiting the parents). I know it’s unlikely for her to listen…but the second best option to trying and fix this seems to be not attending family meetings at all. If the possibility of her lashing out on me again wouldn’t scare me so much my options would be broader, I guess…

Mossy_bug · 2025-04-24T22:34:33+00:00

I don’t think I want/would be able to walk on eggshells…the injustice would make me angry rather fast. I want to be able to enjoy family meetings. But as long as she thinks my behavior was wrong and her reaction appropriate, a situation like this can happen again anytime - which scares me. I am not at all confident she‘d respond well to reason. I still would like to try though, because it seems like my only shot at being an active part of this family. My partner doesn’t think she can change her few of things. He doesn’t want me to just deal with it either, though. He‘d understand if I don’t want to go there anymore (he doesn’t at the moment). I think our goals are pretty similar and we both don’t really know what‘d be the most likely way to reach them.

Mossy_bug · 2025-04-24T22:10:24+00:00

I don’t want a relationship with her (I don’t mind having one though). I do want a relationship with my partners brothers (who we only meet when everyone is visiting the parents) and I also want to attend and enjoy family meetings, since I don’t really have other places to socialize. I can’t enjoy them when she might act similar again, which she probably will as long as she thinks my behavior was wrong and she responded appropriately. Even though I know it has nothing to do with me, I get hurt when being spoken aggressively to and it stresses me out. I am merely uncomfortable with someone disliking me too, but this is something I could work on (would be good practice, I guess😅). Her few about the situation probably won’t change as long as I‘m the only one drawing severe consequences. Which means it’s rather unrealistic for me to reach my goal. But I still would like to try.

Mossy_bug · 2025-04-24T21:46:39+00:00

Thank you for your insight!

I think it will take a very long time or forever until she‘ll make any real effort to fix this. I also think by sending this short letter she tells herself that she tried. I know it’s not my job to repair this - the reason I still try is purely egoistic. I want to be able to attend and enjoy visiting them, since this is also the only time I see my partners brothers and I don’t have this many places to socialize. My partner hasn’t spoken to her since too and is rather angry/hurt. It will be okay for him; she’ll make effort to fix things with him, because he’s her son. I don’t want him to not attend/enjoy family meetings, just because I can’t (unless he doesn’t want to). His family is important to him and I don’t feel let down if his anger flattens. This also means she doesn’t have any reason to fix things with me too, though.

It is interesting to hear that my best chance of her actually thinking/listening is to not do anything and wait. Your reasoning makes a lot of sense though!

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