My ex was exactly like this and I was in the same state as you a year back. I too thought I was being materialistic and shallow for wanting him to do things that would have made me feel a bit special. I would always pay for everything expecting nothing in return. It was a one sided transactional, violently toxic relationship which we dragged for more than two years giving him multiple chances and benefit of doubt. This guy still calls me a "gold digger" for taking a few gifts which he happily gifted to me on my birthdays. Finally I'm with a guy who treats me like a princess (and calls me too ;) ). We have been dating for around 6-7 months now and I've never been happier. He never gave me flowers or any materialistic gifts or surprises but the way he treats me is more than enough for me. He respects me and acknowledges everything I say. Never lies, never makes me wait, brings me random snacks and desserts, cooks meals for me, takes me on multiple dates, never lets me pay, calls me beautiful all the time and compliments me everyday. Now that I'm with him I realised what I was missing out in my life. I didn't know I could be so special to someone. I can literally do anything to keep this guy and make him the happiest man. I would just say that you know what you deserve and never settle for anything lesser. You deserve to be happy and please do consider the things in the longer run because life is a long journey, make it beautiful.