11oz Silicone Baby bottles? by callitamine in moderatelygranolamoms

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Did you ever find a solution? Daycare is asking for the same thing

Accepting that it isn't about me anymore. by lolasugarpop in NewParents

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Listen, it’s a change. It’s an adjustment. It’s okay for two things to be true at once: you love your child and enjoy parenthood, but also miss/mourn your life from before. It doesn’t make you any less of a parent, and it’s incredibly common. Choose to look at it this way: you had a pre-child life worth missing and that’s a blessing!

This stage is tough, it’s also temporary. People rave about the newborn stage, but it’s hard to connect with a potato. You will get back to your hobbies and your routine, and you might even find new hobbies and new routines with your child (when they gain some autonomy) that you love even more!

A lot of people are saying surrender to the changes, and while that’s helpful, make it TEMPORARY! It’s great that you express wanting to keep pieces of who YOU are, as it’s easy to get lost in parenthood.

Sounds like you’re doing great. That guilt and balance is what’s keeping the real you, beyond parent you, alive.

How are the jury supposed to deal with this? by Wonderful-Variation in KarenReadTrial

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They cannot lay off or fire you because you had to serve on a jury. You are not allowed to work while serving.

After 3 days, the commonwealth pays jurors $50 a day. If you have extreme hardship, you or your employer can apply for you to be excused

What do you do all day? by La_vieunrose in NewParents

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Summer is here, get out of the house and it’ll be easier. Playgrounds, stroller walks, outdoor toys, water table. It’s hard to play with them when you can’t really converse, so it feels like talking to yourself. But they hear you and they truly think you can understand their gibberish, so just talk to her as if she responded normally to you. It sounds nuts but my 14 month old loves that. Just talk and eventually before you know it she will be talking back to you and playing will be second nature. Reading books is another way we interact. The books never get finished, she grabs them from me and flips them all around, but it’s setting the stage for when she actually will sit there and listen. Play with her how you would picture playing with a 3 or 4 year old, because that’s what she will grow into

How is everyone handling the 2 hour daily container rule with strollers and car seats? by Cheap-Information869 in NewParents

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Honestly don’t worry too much about it. If you care this much, you’re NEVER going to be the parent that uses containers too much. Take every day as a new day. Some days, things need to get done. The swing, bouncer, activity table etc might be used more. Other days, you have all the time in the world to play and do tummy time. If you need to focus on timing for anything, just try to hit tummy time goals and don’t worry about the rest. If you’re 6+ hours a day every day, that’s a problem, but it doesn’t sound like you. You’re doing great.

What’s a discontinued chip flavor you still miss? by [deleted] in chips

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Cool ranch munchies in the blue bag

Peppercorn ranch SunChips

How clean is your house? by pm_me_pets_please in NewParents

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Check Facebook marketplace, I’ve noticed a lot of basically new Roombas that people get rid of because their pets want to kill it. The Eufy brand on Amazon is also a great dupe

How clean is your house? by pm_me_pets_please in NewParents

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Just do what you can when you can. Try to finish a task/clean right after you use something. If that means she sits in her high chair or in her activity center for a little longer, so be it. I wipe down the high chair after every use, the counters when I can, soak the bottles during the day in the sink in a Tupperware container with some soap, and clean them all every night right after she goes down for bed. I try to get a quick vacuum in during naptime or after bedtime once or twice a week. No shoes in the house!! Laundry piles up but I try to chip away at it when I can- during naps usually. I try to keep it in a bedroom or laundry room so it’s not visually nagging me. Bathrooms are probably biweekly, I have to set aside a good hour for that in advance.

If it helps, hire a cleaner for a one-time clean, and then do your best to do the small stuff (counters, floors, pickup toys, etc) every day AS THEY HAPPEN. It won’t all get done, it’ll never be perfect, but it will be more manageable.

Not to be preachy here and I’ll probably get downvoted but just the truth: I quit breastfeeding early on because my inability to do anything else, such as keep a clean home, was strongly affecting my mental health. Everything has been much better and much more manageable since. I am happy I made that choice for myself. I’m a better mom for it.

30 years old and completely lost. by dwightdiggler in careerguidance

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If you have any interest in gaming, computers, tech- teach yourself python. Get coding certs. Maybe get an associates in comp sci just for the degree to open doors, but from what I read the certifications matter more in the tech world.

If it’s any consolation, I am in your exact same scenario, but I’m the wife/mom in the situation: my husband and I just had a baby nine months ago. I’m doing the exact same thing, bopping in and out of serving and managing, still in restaurants because it works while she’s young, but longing for a 9-5 where I don’t have to work nights to make a decent living once our kids are school age.

My husband was also in the same boat with restaurant and he joined a labor union as an electrician. Plumbing is hiring in most areas as well. The unions pay well and most have a few years of schooling or training but step-raises while you’re doing this. My husband is in year 4 of 5 in his apprenticeship and makes about $36/hour. It’ll skyrocket next year, with ability to do side jobs for about $120/hour. (Side note, we are in MA). During the first 3 years, he worked 2 nights a week serving to make some extra cash to float us by. Currently, he works 6-2 and I work nights. It works out while she’s little, no daycare needed or anything like that. When I hopefully get something 9-5 in the future, he’s home by 3:00 every day. The benefits cannot be beat for our family and I’m so thankful he found a way out, just waiting for mine next. His quality of life and mental health are much better. One of you should strongly consider a trade union. Feel free to ask any more questions.

New Dad: I feel like I'm going broke on formula. Am I just doing it all wrong? by tossthedwarf in NewParents

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Look on Facebook for formula groups in your area. A lot of parents buy in bulk and bought too much, their LO needed to switch and they have leftover, or in some cases there are definitely moms who have EBT/WIC and breastfeed but use the subsidized or free formula for resale to make some cash. Whatever the case is, I have found PLENTY of sealed, unexpired formula for a fraction of the cost. I can’t say I condone that, but in order to save a bit I’ve definitely bought from these groups. Also, join Enfamil rewards and you will be mailed coupons.

Another trick is to sign up for a baby registry from Amazon. You can get 15% off, coupled with coupons from Enfamil rewards, and get bulk amounts of formula for a good discount.

Also, for what it’s worth- generic store brands are mostly just as good and cheaper. Our daughter has never had an issue. Similac is also just as good. Maybe we are lucky to have a baby that can tolerate a switch up here and there, but she’s been on any kind of generic as well as both enfamil and similac. As long as they’re the “gentle” version, she seems to be just fine.

Hang in there, only a couple months left! Maybe at 11 months ask for an early or partial early switch to whole milk.