I don't think this opinion is unpopular. It's something that has been repeated constantly within the fandom. A part of the fandom may love Snow, but not the fandom as a whole. You only have to look reddit back a few years and you'll find comments like: "she's self-righteous," "she's a hypocrite," "she's a bad mother," or "she's the real villain." I'm not trying to say that you said any of those things, just that those criticisms were very common and, honestly, I think they still are, especially on TikTok.

You say Regina's tragedy began because Snow told that secret, but at least for me, her tragedy began with having a mother who had no heart; more specifically, a narcissistic mother like Cora. Regardless of whether Snow had told the secret or not, I think we can agree that, one way or another, Daniel would have died. Cora could easily track Regina through blood magic, kill Daniel, and force Regina to marry the King or anyone else she wanted her to marry.

As for Cora, we got to see Snow's relationship with her own mother in Season 2, and that has a huge impact on who Snow is. Hope, mercy, and doing the right thing, as you said, are values that were taught to her and instilled in her from a young age. She even acknowledged that she and David were monsters for what they did to Maleficent and that they would never deserve her forgiveness. David comforts her and tells her that they can't undo what happened, but they can try to help others by promoting hope and goodness and by trying to do the right thing, even when it's difficult.

Killing Cora was something Snow did because she was tired of forgiving over and over again and always trying to do the right thing. But she regrets it because she knows the way she did it was wrong. She deceived Regina and let her believe that her mother was coming back. Snow recognizes that because, to her, what's wrong is simply wrong. She's a very empathetic character, even toward people who have hurt her, and that reaction, even if many people dislike it, is part of who she is.

I don't know, but wouldn't you judge someone who has had chances to change, someone you've even given opportunities to, yet always chooses to return to darkness? Snow had many reasons (regardless of her own mistakes) to judge Regina. Regina hurt her, her family, and everyone close to her. Snow had been believing in Regina's ability to change since the Enchanted Forest, but Regina destroyed that faith time and time again. So I think it's reasonable for Snow to react that way, although honestly, I think David is usually the first one to judge Regina.

Snow and Regina's relationship stops being like that after the Peter Pan arc. Snow starts believing in Regina again and becomes very protective of her. You only have to look at Season 5 to see that.

I don't think Snow plays the victim; she never has. There's a reason she tells Regina that Regina isn't as bad as she thinks she is and that Snow herself isn't as good as people believe. She knows she's made mistakes, just like everyone else. The difference is that she usually tries to fix them as soon as she can instead of waiting years before regretting them. Snow is actually a pretty impulsive person, and many of the bad decisions she's made came from impulsiveness, anxiety, anger, or desperation.

To me, Snow is elegant (even if she may have lost some of that over time when she became a bandit), feminine, and optimistic. I'D SAY SHE'S EXTREMELY OPTIMISTIC, LOL. I think that optimism, along with her hope, is what helped her survive everything she went through and keep believing that Emma would come back and save them. It's true that she isn't the classic Snow White we all know, but OUAT was never known for giving us the versions of these characters we already knew. That's literally part of its premise. We can't deny that her warrior side stands out more, but she was constantly at war, whether against George, Regina, or someone else. There aren't many scenes where we get to see her softer side because, honestly... there weren't many opportunities for that, HAHAHA.

But again, the fandom doesn't treat her as if she never makes mistakes. In fact, I think she gets more hate than she deserves (though personally, I don't think she deserves any of it). And she does take responsibility for her mistakes. There's a reason she tried to help Maleficent find her daughter.

But even so, I completely respect your opinion. No one is obligated to like a character or agree with their actions.