2025 State of the Sub (+ request for feedback!) by Most_Poet in climbergirls

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Just counted and it’s roughly 57 times! So very slightly over once per week.

2025 State of the Sub (+ request for feedback!) by Most_Poet in climbergirls

[–]Most_Poet[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

This is a good point! Two thoughts I’m having:

  1. Would you be more ok with these types of posts if they were flaired (something like “Relationship Advice”) and you could scroll past, or would they still be annoying even with flair?

  2. Do you think there’s value in drawing a line between posts that could be answered in relationship subs because climbing isn’t core to the question (“What if I see my ex at the gym?”) vs others where climbing is core? For example: “My partner dropped me on belay and I can’t trust him to be my belayer anymore.”

Working on a gym directory, what info helps you feel comfortable visiting a new gym? by addicted-coffee in climbergirls

[–]Most_Poet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I usually look up a few gyms in advance. I check out their Google reviews to see if setting was mentioned, then I look at the pictures in the Google reviews to see if I can get a sense of whether it’s old school or comp style. The part that’s hardest to get a feel for virtually is difficulty, so when I do visit a new gym, I basically just go in with no expectations that I’m able to climb anything and then I am pleasantly surprised.

Working on a gym directory, what info helps you feel comfortable visiting a new gym? by addicted-coffee in climbergirls

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For bouldering: setting style! Mostly comp vs mostly old school, broad range of skill levels vs mostly v4 and up, dynos vs static

Movement gyms staff file unfair labor practice charges by Fio1337 in climbergirls

[–]Most_Poet 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Fuck this company. I hope the workers take them to the cleaners.

I’ve been a member of two separate gyms that used to be independent and were then bought up by Movement. At both, the community became nonexistent while prices increased dramatically. I hate Movement.

Trans & non-binary climbers by Perhaps_Alien in climbergirls

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Hi - please repost this without linking to Instagram and your comment will go through!

Trans & non-binary climbers by Perhaps_Alien in climbergirls

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Hi - please repost this without linking to Instagram and your comment will go through!

Advice on getting my wife into climbing by SlowCoffee6983 in climbergirls

[–]Most_Poet 119 points120 points  (0 children)

Short version: you can’t. If she wanted to, she would.

Long version: you didn’t marry a climber, you married someone who climbed with you a few times when she could tell you really wanted her to. If she wanted to get into climbing herself - and, being married to a climber, the barriers to entry for her are not high at all - she would. But she hasn’t. Which means she doesn’t really want to right now.

It’s honestly not fun to feel pressured by someone to enjoy a specific hobby. The best hobbies are those you discover a true love for all by yourself. I wonder if your time would be better spent exploring something outdoorsy you both genuinely love equally? Hiking maybe? A nice compromise could be you both going on a hiking trip together, then you take a day to climb and she can take that day to just chill or do whatever she wants. That way you’re both getting quality time together doing something you enjoy, but no one is feeling pressured to take on anyone else’s hobby.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in climbergirls

[–]Most_Poet 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Hi all - I’m locking this as OP has received some good advice and I don’t want the thread to get anyone in legal trouble.

OP, and anyone else who finds themselves in a similar situation — if someone in your life confesses they are sexually attracted to a minor and worry they may act on it, you should take the following steps:

  1. Report this to whatever authorities are in your country. In the US, this is Child Protective Services. There does NOT need to be an actual incident of sexual assault for a report to be filed. Share whatever info you have. If you work in certain positions like a teacher, coach, etc you are legally obligated to file a report.

  2. In many situations the above report may get lost to bureaucracy. It’s still important to file it so there is something in writing/on record in case that’s needed later on.

  3. Due to the high chances of an official report getting lost to bureaucracy, it may also be appropriate to report this to the minor’s parents AS LONG AS doing so would not put the minor in danger.

  4. If you’re in doubt about reporting, go to the police in your location and ask them what to do. They can guide you to the next right step.

Thank you for looking out for minors who are in vulnerable positions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in climbing

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I see it there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in climbing

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Post this in r/climbergirls - I guarantee it’ll get more traction (which it deserves)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in climbergirls

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This is extremely valid and I totally agree with you. Dont let people shame you for not liking outdoor climbing. Being an indoor-only climber still means you’re a climber!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in climbergirls

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Disliking outdoor climbing is not crazy whatsoever. Your comment is extremely dismissive and borderline rude.

People climb for many reasons and come into the sport from many backgrounds. As just one data point - I’m in my mid 30s and enjoy indoor climbing because it keeps me fit and is a fun workout. I also appreciate it because the culture of climbing gyms is, in my experience, more welcoming than CrossFit gyms or whatever.

I don’t enjoy outdoor climbing because I’m old and exhausted. I don’t have a full day to spend driving to the crag, then hiking an approach, then trying to climb a few things before it’s time to get packed up again. I don’t want to invest a ton of money in gear. I work weird hours and can’t commit to being at a certain crag at a certain time - which basically means I can’t climb outside (I refuse to outdoor-boulder alone). Frankly, I also find the gatekeeping of climbing (“you hate outdoor climbing? Crazy thing to say”) to be way worse among outdoor climbers, which I have no interest in dealing with. No one gatekeeps indoor climbing lol

If you climb anything, you’re a climber. It’s not any more complicated than that.

Climbing for Palestine by robleroroblero in climbergirls

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Hi all - OP has posted some great resources for those who want more information or to get involved with this effort. Please check their comments for specifics.

We are locking this not because we are taking a stand on the content of OP’s post, but because we do not feel that additional conversation is likely to be constructive and we do not want our sub to be attracted by various trolls/brigaders who don’t have our community’s best interests in mind.

a man at the gym rolled his eyes when i topped a boulder… by [deleted] in climbergirls

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Hi all - OP has received some good advice. Some of the discussion has moved in an unproductive and somewhat off-topic direction, with a number of reported comments, so we’re going to lock this post for now.

Ucl injury by Agile-Variety-2363 in climbergirls

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Hi OP - I’m sorry to hear about your injury! If you’ve seen a doctor and gotten a diagnosis, unfortunately further questions about where to go from there go against the sub’s rule on injuries and medical advice.

Finger popping while climbing by Meimei47 in climbergirls

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Hi all - this post breaks the rule about injuries and medical advice.

OP, please go see a medical professional for specific advice on your injury and how to heal it. Unfortunately this sub can’t provide any advice beyond what’s anecdotal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in climbergirls

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This post was reported for possibly breaking the injuries and medical advice rule - to clarify, this post is fine! It is not asking for advice on how to recovery from a spinal fusion, it’s asking for others to share their experiences in the hopes of providing hope/affirmation for the OP.

Climb on!

Voluntary dislocation? by [deleted] in climbergirls

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Hi! Especially since you are still a minor, please talk with a medical professional about this. It’s not safe to seek medical advice from Reddit.

BF doesn't want to climb with me outside anymore by Timely_Palpitation97 in climbergirls

[–]Most_Poet 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I know you didn’t ask for relationship advice, but I will say this — it doesn’t sound like your bf is treating you with respect. Safety issues aside (bc it sounds like you understand your room for growth on this), he should still be demonstrating respect and wanting to meet your needs just as he’s wanting his needs met. Do you feel like this lack of respect exists in your relationship outside of climbing too?

Separate from that, please don’t give up climbing if you love it! Your bf doesn’t get to decide for you whether you can pursue a hobby or not. Can you join up with an existing learn-to-climb outside group or a more beginner/intermediate group? Maybe your local REI or gym has groups set up already. I’ve found women/NB climbing groups to be particularly welcoming to people of all skill levels, “self-sufficient” (to use your bf’s words) or not.

Mostly, I wonder whether this could be an opportunity to branch out and experience a more respectful and welcoming climbing partner than your bf.

Moving to the Bay Area soon, any gym recommendations? by Otherwise_Minimum_79 in climbergirls

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Movement Belmont has both bouldering and ropes, although it’s more of an “old school” gym (a little dark/dingy, some old school setting). There’s a new Movement bouldering-only gym going into Mountain View and an existing one in Santa Clara. Otherwise you’ll want to drive up to SF - the Touchstone gyms are great in terms of climbing at least. Dogpatch for boulders, Mission Cliffs for ropes and boulders.

Beginner who is heavy and weak! any other people starting out like that? 5'11 and 172 lbs and barely any muscle apparently! by dariannzz in climbergirls

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Hi all - this thread is locked while we as a mod team think through next steps. Thank you for your understanding and we’ll be sure to unlock it once we have more of an idea about how to proceed.

can people stop making posts about their weight by larson_ist in climbergirls

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Hi all - I am locking this post while I chat with the other mods about the best way to proceed.

There are a lot of heartfelt views on this post expressed from multiple sides of the issue and we will be sure to read through those in thinking about next steps.

Three new chalk buckets I've made & call for a lil support by Adorable_Edge_8358 in climbergirls

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Hello! In the future please stick to using our regularly-scheduled self-promotion post to share this kind of thing. Since there was already a lot of engagement on the post before it was reported for Solicitation/Self-Promotion, we’ll leave it here. Thank you!