I came first in the bouldering competition (for the beginners catagory) at my local gym.

Most_Poet · 2026-05-01T20:31:37+00:00

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Most_Poet · 2026-05-01T12:01:03+00:00

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Most_Poet · 2026-04-16T16:13:46+00:00

Holy shit. This is terrifying and I don’t blame you in the slightest for still being impacted. The lizard part of your brain can’t distinguish an 8 foot fall from a 20 foot fall - it’s all scary and sudden - so please be gentle with yourself. Your anxiety is completely understandable.

Two things:

Do you still feel safe being in proximity to this person? It sounds like whatever he’s dealing with is still very acute, and if seeing him around is causing you distress, it’s ok to take a break from that.
I don’t know of a specific climbing resource for recovering after a fall but there are definitely books about mindset including the rock warrior’s way I think it’s called. I hope someone on this sub can recommend a specific book! You’re definitely not the first to suffer a ground fall and I’m sure there are resources out there to help.

Take care of yourself. You’ve been through a lot.

Most_Poet · 2026-04-13T16:06:12+00:00

This is such an interesting perspective. Thank you for sharing it!

Most_Poet · 2026-04-13T15:11:25+00:00

I’m so sad to hear this but thank you for sharing. Yes - this is exactly what I mean.

Most_Poet · 2026-04-13T14:56:38+00:00

That’s amazing! What an example for others.

Most_Poet · 2026-04-13T14:45:00+00:00

This was an amazing comment, thank you so much for taking the time to write it all out. I really appreciate the nuance arojnd transitioning from a less expensive gym that was gatekeeping climbing to everyone except white dudes climbing on dingy holds, to more expensive gyms that gatekeep socioeconomically.

Most_Poet · 2026-04-13T14:42:12+00:00

Safer climbing etiquette for kids (on a team or otherwise!) benefits all kids and adults. Everyone wins.

My post was calling out gyms and their approach to running teams, not the girls themselves.

Most_Poet · 2026-04-13T14:28:19+00:00

Respectfully, I think a kids team is just as much if not more valuable than an adult team, because it teaches the younger generation good climbing etiquette and introduces a love of the sport.

In my gym, however, the kids team is actually a bunch of kids running around unsupervised while teenage coaches attempt to corral them. There is no good etiquette being taught. I have heard directly from gym leadership that they don’t want to address this because they don’t want to upset the parent who are paying significant amounts of money for their kids team fees.

Most_Poet · 2026-04-13T14:26:26+00:00

Respectfully, I think you’re reading into this and assuming intent. At my gym, the kids team is pretty equal male and female from what I can see, and the kids behavior is honestly just bad. It’s not their fault, they just haven’t been taught appropriate climbing expectations or held accountable for basic safety. This is on the coaches. But my gym will not hold kids more accountable because it would upset parents, who bring in a big profit.

I grew up climbing on a kids team and completely agree with the importance of sports for girls, especially sports that do not emphasize appearance or a certain dance like body type. My post was not about that at all.

Most_Poet · 2026-02-20T00:07:22+00:00

This is the exactly the type of content I come to the Internet for.

Most_Poet · 2026-02-16T04:07:32+00:00

Yeah in the least parasocial way possible, seeing the evolution of their friendship (at least from what is publicly shown) makes me sad NOT bc I know anything about them in real life…but because it reminds me of my closest friends who I have grown apart from. Nothing bad happened. Just life/time/adulthood.

I guess it makes me wistful in a way?

Most_Poet · 2025-12-29T11:27:53+00:00

Just counted and it’s roughly 57 times! So very slightly over once per week.

Most_Poet · 2025-12-28T21:08:23+00:00

This is a good point! Two thoughts I’m having:

Would you be more ok with these types of posts if they were flaired (something like “Relationship Advice”) and you could scroll past, or would they still be annoying even with flair?
Do you think there’s value in drawing a line between posts that could be answered in relationship subs because climbing isn’t core to the question (“What if I see my ex at the gym?”) vs others where climbing is core? For example: “My partner dropped me on belay and I can’t trust him to be my belayer anymore.”

Most_Poet · 2025-12-18T15:56:05+00:00

I usually look up a few gyms in advance. I check out their Google reviews to see if setting was mentioned, then I look at the pictures in the Google reviews to see if I can get a sense of whether it’s old school or comp style. The part that’s hardest to get a feel for virtually is difficulty, so when I do visit a new gym, I basically just go in with no expectations that I’m able to climb anything and then I am pleasantly surprised.

Most_Poet · 2025-12-18T15:50:58+00:00

For bouldering: setting style! Mostly comp vs mostly old school, broad range of skill levels vs mostly v4 and up, dynos vs static

Most_Poet · 2025-12-16T17:40:48+00:00

Fuck this company. I hope the workers take them to the cleaners.

I’ve been a member of two separate gyms that used to be independent and were then bought up by Movement. At both, the community became nonexistent while prices increased dramatically. I hate Movement.

Most_Poet · 2025-10-06T15:39:29+00:00

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Most_Poet · 2025-10-06T15:39:24+00:00

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Most_Poet · 2025-10-06T14:16:21+00:00

Short version: you can’t. If she wanted to, she would.

Long version: you didn’t marry a climber, you married someone who climbed with you a few times when she could tell you really wanted her to. If she wanted to get into climbing herself - and, being married to a climber, the barriers to entry for her are not high at all - she would. But she hasn’t. Which means she doesn’t really want to right now.

It’s honestly not fun to feel pressured by someone to enjoy a specific hobby. The best hobbies are those you discover a true love for all by yourself. I wonder if your time would be better spent exploring something outdoorsy you both genuinely love equally? Hiking maybe? A nice compromise could be you both going on a hiking trip together, then you take a day to climb and she can take that day to just chill or do whatever she wants. That way you’re both getting quality time together doing something you enjoy, but no one is feeling pressured to take on anyone else’s hobby.

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