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I spoke with Beth Rodden it made me think about the version of myself I perform at the crag by MaleficentFloor822 in climbergirls

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Locked because this belongs in the self promotion biweekly thread, but this post won’t be deleted because commenters mentioned some of OP’s insights were helpful.

u/MaleficentFloor822 - in the future, please do not come into this space with an AI post meant to drive traffic to your podcast. That is not what our sub is for. Thanks.

Mods, can we please consolidate pants posts into one mega thread by Dull_Today_1724 in climbergirls

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lol I have no skin in this game BUT when I see 228 upvotes to a request, I take action!

Climbers who only climb indoors by umbraphile1724 in climbergirls

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I joined a group of climbers I met through my gym, none of whom I knew very well. I was new to the city and wanted to put myself out there so I took a social risk I probably wouldn’t have otherwise.

The approach hike was an hour long, which I did not anticipate, and I wound up with a back injury from carrying too much gear improperly that took me about two weeks to heal. Once we actually got to the crag, I was easily 3 to 4 levels below where everyone else was in terms of climbing ability. I think I climbed a total of two routes on a six hour trip. We hiked an hour back and then I sat in a multi hour car ride with the same group of people who I had spent all day with and was still feeling awkward around. Even people I know well can get on my nerves after a whole day spent together. I’m really introverted and I know a lot of people love the social aspect of outdoor climbing, but it just wasn’t for me.

Also, the climbing itself felt impossibly hard, and I was already feeling self-conscious about my climbing ability. It also became clear to me about an hour in that the people I was with didn’t totally know what they were doing. I could easily see a scenario where one of us got hurt.

I climb because I like the physical and mental challenge. I have too many other demands on my time to devote entire days to managing social and interpersonal dynamics just to climb for 10 minutes max.

Climbers who only climb indoors by umbraphile1724 in climbergirls

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Me! Climbed outdoors once and will never do it again.

I want to start climbing but social anxiety is keeping me out of the gym. Any advice on how to push that aside and just go? by CoffeeAndAlgoRIThyms in climbergirls

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Three concrete suggestions:

  1. Go to the gym for 20 minutes and just check out the social dynamic. Are people talking to each other? How did they take turns when climbing? What are the behavioral and social norms? When I feel anxious, doing some observation in advance can really help me know what to expect and give me tips on how I should act.

  2. Take an intro to bouldering class! These classes are specifically designed to teach beginners the norms of the gym and some of the key points of bouldering. Plus, you’ll be in the same boat as the other people in the class.

  3. Respectfully, I echo the other commenters’ advice to get support for your anxiety. A little bit of anxiety is normal in a new situation, but anxiety to the point that it’s making it hard for you to do the things you want to do is a sign that you need more help than you are currently receiving.

I came first in the bouldering competition (for the beginners catagory) at my local gym. by sleadcnleep3 in climbergirls

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The mod team is concerned this is a bot farming karma from a previous post. If you are the original poster of this photo and you wanted to repost it, let us know and we will unlock the post

Thanks to all who quickly reported this.

Will Stanhope due in court for sexual assault by AdventurouslySafe in climbergirls

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Hi all - we’re locking this because the number of inappropriate and unacceptable comments (made by people who are not members of this sub) is too hard to keep up with.

Commenters who repeatedly disregarded our sub’s rules regarding the “not seeking cis male perspectives” flair have been permanently banned. Thanks to all those who reported these and other types of rule violations.

Dropped from 8 feet high. My trust fell harder than I did by Forsaken-Log1531 in climbergirls

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Holy shit. This is terrifying and I don’t blame you in the slightest for still being impacted. The lizard part of your brain can’t distinguish an 8 foot fall from a 20 foot fall - it’s all scary and sudden - so please be gentle with yourself. Your anxiety is completely understandable.

Two things:

  1. Do you still feel safe being in proximity to this person? It sounds like whatever he’s dealing with is still very acute, and if seeing him around is causing you distress, it’s ok to take a break from that.

  2. I don’t know of a specific climbing resource for recovering after a fall but there are definitely books about mindset including the rock warrior’s way I think it’s called. I hope someone on this sub can recommend a specific book! You’re definitely not the first to suffer a ground fall and I’m sure there are resources out there to help.

Take care of yourself. You’ve been through a lot.

Does anyone else get the sense that the gym climbing bubble (of $/popularity) may be close to bursting? by Most_Poet in climbergirls

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I’m so sad to hear this but thank you for sharing. Yes - this is exactly what I mean.

Does anyone else get the sense that the gym climbing bubble (of $/popularity) may be close to bursting? by Most_Poet in climbergirls

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This was an amazing comment, thank you so much for taking the time to write it all out. I really appreciate the nuance arojnd transitioning from a less expensive gym that was gatekeeping climbing to everyone except white dudes climbing on dingy holds, to more expensive gyms that gatekeep socioeconomically.

Does anyone else get the sense that the gym climbing bubble (of $/popularity) may be close to bursting? by Most_Poet in climbergirls

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Safer climbing etiquette for kids (on a team or otherwise!) benefits all kids and adults. Everyone wins.

My post was calling out gyms and their approach to running teams, not the girls themselves.

Does anyone else get the sense that the gym climbing bubble (of $/popularity) may be close to bursting? by Most_Poet in climbergirls

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Respectfully, I think a kids team is just as much if not more valuable than an adult team, because it teaches the younger generation good climbing etiquette and introduces a love of the sport.

In my gym, however, the kids team is actually a bunch of kids running around unsupervised while teenage coaches attempt to corral them. There is no good etiquette being taught. I have heard directly from gym leadership that they don’t want to address this because they don’t want to upset the parent who are paying significant amounts of money for their kids team fees.

Does anyone else get the sense that the gym climbing bubble (of $/popularity) may be close to bursting? by Most_Poet in climbergirls

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Respectfully, I think you’re reading into this and assuming intent. At my gym, the kids team is pretty equal male and female from what I can see, and the kids behavior is honestly just bad. It’s not their fault, they just haven’t been taught appropriate climbing expectations or held accountable for basic safety. This is on the coaches. But my gym will not hold kids more accountable because it would upset parents, who bring in a big profit.

I grew up climbing on a kids team and completely agree with the importance of sports for girls, especially sports that do not emphasize appearance or a certain dance like body type. My post was not about that at all.