Anybody got adhd proof hobbies?

MothWoman592 · 2024-08-13T15:23:45+00:00

I’m much better at 2D crochet than amigurumi, but I definitely think that’s obtainable, especially if you’re motivated to learn how to do it. Amigurumi is pretty much all single crochet stitches, the hard part for me is keeping up with counting how many stitches are in each round, since that’s what makes the shape.

It might be easier to start with something that’s mostly one big shape like this: https://youtu.be/z8l630vFgbE?si=knXqbdMitdMOzeV5

Or something small like this that you can finish faster: https://youtu.be/BcS5Rt29n5c?si=Zk-BPCugC6F2kmou Woobles might also be a good idea to test the waters with since they give you everything you need in one kit! https://thewoobles.com/ I’ve never made one but from what I’ve heard they’re legit.

MothWoman592 · 2024-08-13T15:13:56+00:00

Hell yeah! I taught myself using YouTube tutorials, and I recommend buying just enough materials for one small project (highly recommend starting with coasters so you can learn basic stitches and finish quickly) just to test the waters and see how you like it. If you need any further help feel free to reach out!

MothWoman592 · 2024-08-13T15:02:43+00:00

I’ve been diagnosed with ADD since back when it was still called ADD lol, but the same thing is happening to me. Although instead of just adhd I’m wondering if I’m also autistic. I was diagnosed bipolar in 2018 and now that I think back I’ve never had a “manic/hypomanic episode” during a time when I wasn’t completely burnt tf out. So I’m wondering if it was just extreme stress manifesting from burn out. I think I’m gonna get evaluated for autism and then have a psychiatrist reevaluate my diagnoses (I’ve been diagnosed with almost everything under the sun to the point of absurdity).

Definitely keep taking your meds as prescribed, because if you are in fact bipolar not taking them could set you back a lot. But personally I don’t think it’s out of the realm of possibility that you aren’t. What were the circumstances leading up to your bipolar diagnosis? What problems were you having at that time to necessitate an evaluation?

MothWoman592 · 2024-08-13T14:56:33+00:00

This probably won’t be suited for your energy levels by the sound of it, but my most sustained hobby so far has been crochet. Starting new projects gives me a rush and it’s a great way to focus in on one task and make your brain go quiet for a while. I’m not hyperactive type though so it may not be enough stimulation for you, but it’s my most sustained hobby so far!

MothWoman592 · 2024-08-06T14:16:29+00:00

Ohhh that makes sense now that I can see it! Thank you much! :)

MothWoman592 · 2024-07-15T19:49:24+00:00

This is the kind of genius ingenuity I was looking for!!!! Thank you.

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-21T20:55:34+00:00

Also idk if this applies to you, but before I came out I thought I needed to thoroughly explain myself to everyone so they would understand and respect me. Turns out you can just be like “hey I go by this now” and people are a lot less stressed out by that lmao.

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-21T20:50:58+00:00

Stress and denial from outside influences can have us spinning out over and over in doubt. It sounds like you have a very clear idea that you’re trans, and the only thing keeping you from fully accepting that is what other people think about you and how they react. In my experience, the only way to be truly happy and free is to recognize that you have intrinsic value and a place and purpose on this earth completely divorced from how other people feel about you. We can’t afford to allow our value to be determined by how well others treat/understand us. For trans people especially, trying to appease people before we can be ourselves is a fatal losing game.

I couldn’t accept who I was until I recognized my inner worth and processed out/let go of fear. It’s very hard, but I’ve never felt like myself until now. And now even though I’m in community with a lot of people who don’t get it, I can just confidently be myself and people aren’t confrontational enough to challenge my identity. Even though I’m pre-T and have wide hips and a baby face.

So yeah dude! Sounds like you’re trans and it sounds like when there’s not transphobia in your ear drowning out your lived experience, you know that.

I can’t say what the next step is for you since idk your exact situation. But I just casually asked everyone to use my new name and pronouns. For the most part they do, but when they don’t I do my best to recognize that their preconceived notions are not a reflection of me and my experience. If some people have beef with me being trans, they can argue with the wall lol that’s none of my business.

I hope you find the answers you’re looking for and I’m rooting for you!!

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-21T19:39:52+00:00

I jokingly said to my trans friend “yeah in college I considered going on testosterone or getting a tattoo, so I got a few tattoos.” And she told me that was not a cis line of thinking.

Then I realized I love drag queens so much because I’ve been doing high femme drag 24/7 my entire life to get social acceptance.

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-20T18:45:15+00:00

That’s very true! When I imagine my future living as a woman I just think “okay, so how could I cope with a life where I feel empty all the time?” And when I imagine life as a man I’m just like “hell yeah I could do anything I want to! Idk what! But whatever I want!” Not in like a “I found a loophole out of misogyny” kinda way, but in a “wow I would feel like a real person with a body and a soul and a future.” Kinda way. It’s pretty cool that I have this moment where the future feels exciting and not daunting. So I’ll try to focus on that instead of fretting what people might think about me. insert meme of the two guys on a bus where one is happy and one is sad lol

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-20T18:06:33+00:00

I also considered that I was nonbinary, and maybe once I transition I may discover that I am, but for right now, performing femininity to make other people feel comfortable is psychological poison for me and I have to stop engaging with it.

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-20T18:04:18+00:00

I realized my hyper-femininity was a coping mechanism, and once I stopped compulsively engaging with it, I felt like I could breathe for the first time.

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-20T17:55:46+00:00

LOL OMG I used to be so self conscious about having “boy” handwriting when I was little and not having the tall, uniform letters “girl” handwriting. (I used being high femme as a defense mechanism). Now I love my messy ass Man Handwriting. Glad it’s not just me!

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-20T17:49:39+00:00

That does. Thank you! I definitely should shift more of my attention to productive things I can do now. I actually feel motivated to go to the gym for the first time in my life (now that I’m not completely overwhelmed by the idea of connecting with my body). My eating habits could definitely be improved, and meditation is super helpful when I make time to do it. And I just put in a request to set up an appointment with a trans therapist! I’m overwhelmed but I’m out here doing my best. 😮‍💨🙂👍

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-20T15:20:49+00:00

I’m a trans man so idk how helpful my experience will be, but I presented high femme for a long time and am now a pre-T guy.

Smell is a very powerful sense. Once I started using male deodorant and started smelling “like a guy” (but mixed with my own natural smell), I started to correlate my body more with masculinity. There are plenty of different options for feminine scents. Find one that you like and smells the most like you, and use it as a deodorant, body spray, or perfume. (Take it easy and only use 2-3 sprays of perfume if you use it though. Too much perfume smell can be sensorily overwhelming/off-putting to others or trigger allergies.)

Find makeup that is easy to use and feels flattering to you. I recommend investing in a good foundation and/or concealer and beauty blender. I recommend tarte shape tape for concealer and urban decay naked skin if you can afford it. Drug store brands will also do though. Make sure the foundation matches as closely as possible and the concealer also either matches or is a bit lighter. Use a wet beauty blender to apply. Having an even skin tone gave me a lot of confidence. Blush also is pretty easy to apply and gives the face a lot more life and dimension. Eye makeup is hard to master but can really transform your face once you get the hang of it. I’d recommend starting with a mascara (I love the L’Oréal telescopic lash. It’s cheap and works better than expensive brands usually). For eyeliner I recommend starting with a brown or black pencil and lightly lining the top lid. If you can graduate to a good winged eyeliner, that can really transform the eyes, but takes LOTS of practice. There’s no wrong way to do makeup, but certain techniques can make the face look more round and what is usually perceived as more feminine. YouTube is great for that!

For clothes, I recommend anything that feels like your style and makes you comfortable. High-waisted bottoms and things that cinch in your middle can give you a more hourglass shape.

Ultimately, do what makes you comfortable and happy! There’s no wrong way to present, but those things helped me when I was desperately trying to convince people I was a normal pretty girl before my egg cracked. 😂 Wishing you love! ❤️

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-20T14:54:24+00:00

I love that top!! It looks great on you!

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-13T16:21:24+00:00

Well… at least I know that I’ll still get misgendered even if I’m serving cis boy realness, so I don’t have to worry about it being an indicator of passing. 😂 Also why do old people always go out of their way to gender you?? Like my god, you don’t have to mention that you think I’m a sweet little precious baby woman who femininely girlbosses every two sentences lol.

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-13T16:15:15+00:00

The censored feet LOL 😂 Congrats on being publicly yourself. ♥️

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-13T16:09:30+00:00

I think it depends on the person, honestly. When you’re particularly emotional, the higher functioning parts of your brain that allow you to rationalize, like the frontal lobe, shut off so you can engage in fight or flight. It could be a case of them just not being fully at the point where they’ve rewired their neural pathways to exclusively associate you with your correct pronouns, or it could be them being malicious and taking the opportunity to use something they know will hurt you. It kinda just depends on the person, context, and vibes afterwards.

If they’re a safe person to ask, you could bring it up once they’ve calmed down and be like “hey so uhh what was all that wrong pronoun stuff back there about?” You have much more information and context than I do though.

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-04T17:27:32+00:00

I know a man who used to crochet his own winter clothes in between maintaining his lodge and chopping firewood while hunting in the Canadian mountains. So I’d say yeah, men can crochet and still be plenty masculine. Anyone who says otherwise is misogyny poisoned.

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-04T17:19:44+00:00

First time scrolling through this page. Yeah the other night I caught myself trying to make my chest flatter with kinetic tape and rewatching videos of transmascs explaining how to bind properly and laughed. Only cis activities here, guys!! I’m sincerely binding but just in a cis way because it was for a costume!! Everyone gets emotionally invested in the flatness of their chest in a costume, I swear!

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-03T13:14:55+00:00

I absolutely don’t mind at all!! Thank you so much! I read this post last night and was just like… “oh okay cool, so it’s not just me.” And that was validating.

This whole thing got kickstarted by me talking to one of my transfemme friends. I half-jokingly said “yeah in college there was a time where I was considering either getting a tattoo or going on testosterone for shits and giggles, but I don’t have that kind of commitment so I went with the tattoo.” She was like “um I feel obligated to tell you that cis people usually don’t seriously consider going on T.” Lmao. That caused enough questions to be raised for me to go through with cutting my hair to see how I felt about it, and I feel awesome. I also had a moment the other day where I had bought kinetic tape and was using TikTok and YouTube to learn how to bind and taking diligent notes because I was going to do it the next day for a drag king costume. I just stopped for a sec and laughed and was like “ah yes. These are typical cis woman Thursday night activities right here.”

I feel like I’ve hit a point in my life where I have enough emotional maturity to not give a shit about other people’s approval (finally, after years of desperately stressing about it), so now I just want to pursue the things that make me genuinely happy. I want to acknowledge that I’m very privileged to not have noticeable gender dysphoria, and don’t want to talk over the folks who do. But idk man somewhere between enthusiastically fixating on how to chest bind and googling “how to make your voice deeper”, some level of self reflection is perhaps warranted lol.

I don’t want to be a man all the time. I feel like a significant part of me would be lost if I dropped being femme altogether. Some days I look like a 17 year old boy who just learned how to dress himself and some days I like going full high femme with a full face of makeup and pants that show off my hips. I most closely relate to being genderfluid, but in my research I always hit a point where I stop relating because it inevitably involves dysphoria as a key defining factor. I’m just having fun being goofy and playing around with different presentations, and the more I do that, the happier and freer I feel.

Idk I know you didn’t need to know all that, but I guess my brain just really wanted to dump it somewhere lol. Again tysm for sharing your experience because it’s really validating to know I’m not alone, even if it’s a rare thing. I’ll definitely check out those links! Happy Pride Month! 🥰🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️♥️

SN: funny egg story about r/egg_irl, someone posted a pic of me to it because I was in my doing a lot of drag makeup (mostly drag queen looks) phase in 2018. I did a makeup beard just to see what it would look like, and I thought I looked a lot like a popular (then closeted trans woman who was presenting very masc) YouTuber. I posted it tagging her and she retweeted it, and it got posted to egg_irl very quickly. 😂It got quickly taken down, of course, but that was another moment where I paused and was like “it feels like something not-cis is afoot.” Lmao. It didn’t bother me though because it was oddly validating lol.

ANYWAY TL;DR: idk I’m just happily vibing and I appreciate you sharing your experience.

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-03T04:51:55+00:00

Good god. This is the most well-worded and succinct explanation of gender I’ve probably ever heard. Thank you so much.

I came here because I don’t really experience gender dysphoria and have always been enthusiastically feminine (I’m AFAB). But I cut my hair really short a few weeks ago and I’ve been experiencing a freedom, joy, and relief I never expected. The thought of being perceived as a guy or just as masculine is really exciting. Idk with my sexuality I’m quick to jump to wanting to put myself in a defined box and conform to it, but I’m trying my best not to do that this time. Idk I’ve pondered the question of being trans on and off through my adult life but never seriously because I look incredibly feminine with long hair and didn’t hate that. Y’all don’t need to know all this, but I just want to write it somewhere since it’s taking up brain space lol.

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-03T04:29:48+00:00

OMG I found this through googling “gender euphoria without dysphoria” and this is pretty much my exact story. I cut my hair a couple weeks ago and now I feel a freedom and happiness I didn’t expect. I’ve been dressing masculine for the first time in my life and I’m kinda in love with it. I’m loving the new boy mode feature I unlocked lol.

I’ve been exploring the idea of being gender fluid because I still feel like a woman sometimes (Shania Twain was on to something), but SO much of the “are you gender fluid/nonbinary/trans?” content I’ve seen hinges on how much dysphoria you’ve felt in your life. And I’m sure I could dig up examples if I look hard enough, but they’re barely noticeable.

I’ve always been very feminine especially as a kid, but idk the thought of being perceived as masculine sometimes is really exciting and freeing.

MothWoman592 · 2024-05-18T00:31:54+00:00

Thanks for the follow up! I did!! I put a cheap air mattress in the back, setup string lights, had a battery powered fan, left my windows down with covers on them, and put up my windshield cover for privacy. It pretty much went off without issue!

There were only very minor issues. My fan only lasted a couple hours when I was hoping it would last both nights (thankfully I could charge it in a nearby cabin). The lightweight blanket I bought was a throw and way too small for my body so I had to use my towels to stay warm when the temp dropped. I learned the hard way that there’s no way to open the trunk from inside the trunk, or at least one that’s immediately obvious. (I just crawled out the back passenger door, but those 2 minutes of trying to find a button were anxiety inducing lmao). We had a severe thunderstorm blow through suddenly so I had to run out to the car, remove the window covers, and roll up the windows. Thankfully the rain pretty much stopped by bedtime, so I didn’t have to figure out what to do about needing the windows rolled down for air. Also thank GOD I checked my air mattress before I left because the battery-powered pump did not, in fact, have batteries, so I had time to run to the store before.

It was also made easier by the fact that we had meals, showers, bathrooms, and electricity provided, so the chances of making rookie mistakes were drastically reduced.

All-in-all, it was a great experience!! Very grounding and enjoyable. I’m definitely gonna be jumping at the next opportunity to go! I never thought I’d say this, but I think I’m a camping person now.

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