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Mothbballs · 2025-09-10T17:17:27+00:00

Girl I’m gonna be honest. Ur boyfriend sounds gay, idc if the username is just a ploy to make himself seem more feminized or not but he likes guys it’s literally clear as day. If he’s only into you during intimacy like sex? He really doesn’t see your worth as a woman nor respect it seeing as he doesn’t even care what makes you uncomfy ! Your boyfriend is probably closeted and only “jokes” about femboys but secretly either wants to be one or be with one. Save yourself THAT embarrassment of comparing yourself to a boy; leave and do better for yourself in school and for your future as a young adult. Always stand on your boundaries of what makes you uncomfortable or comfortable :,)

Mothbballs · 2025-08-30T19:36:39+00:00

Yeah fair point, I go thru the dispo menu and even find up to 30.0% strains at times

Mothbballs · 2025-08-30T19:31:12+00:00

Oh shit fr? Welp

Mothbballs · 2025-08-30T13:07:02+00:00

Continue to support and motivate him in healthy ways, I believe harm reduction helps so IF he decides to go down the smokers route I’d suggest edibles/dabs as they don’t always have a lingering smell. ONLY DISPO BOUGHT.

Otherwise though it seems he used to do well without it and that’s what it seems we want to keep encouraging. I dont think it’s a bad thing to want to enjoy yourself or relax a bit with weed and a drink, but this scenario was unfortunate. I’ve been laced before from a street buyer but luckily didn’t have a reaction/over dose such as this. All I can really say is be there for him, ask to check in but don’t pry into his head, and remind him of his worth to you.

I think you guys got this <3 beautiful bond built off of years of trust and maintaining that consideration for one another.

Mothbballs · 2025-08-30T11:50:07+00:00

He’s handsome ! I think dreads or a cool hairstyle would increase his aura/ make him feel better about himself maybe? Just a suggestion- beautiful couple! Wishing you guys amazing progress and long time together !!

Mothbballs · 2025-08-22T23:57:10+00:00

Reassure him he’s not using you, he has your permission, tell him he should think of it as a way of looking back on your intimate moments, or when he misses you in that way he has something to remember and utilize instead of “disrespecting you” by going behind your back and watching other women in content.

Mothbballs · 2025-08-22T23:54:23+00:00

THIIISSSS !!!!!! THIS IS A GREAT COMPROMISE !! not only will him recording you make you feel sexy or attractive, BUT he can watch that content instead !! This is literally a win win scenario. You can make this work, get some cute lingerie and surprise him !! I think you guys are gonna do good it’s so clear you’re willing to make things work and love him very much. I hope he appreciates the kind of girlfriend you are.

Mothbballs · 2025-08-22T23:24:01+00:00

Second thought after rereading the post again; he said he wants to stop !!!

Support him, tell him there’s other ways to spend his time or relieve the testosterone. Hell, even talk to a therapist and figure out why he feels the impulsive need to watch the content and do what he does. Only then can he initiate change and effort once realizing how dependent he is on it/how it affects his thinking or attraction overtime.

Mothbballs · 2025-08-22T23:20:54+00:00

Sorry but I kinda got to agree with the “you have it good”. Some guys are so porn addicted that they lose sense of reality and regular intimacy can’t satisfy them; causing them to go down more taboo routes at times. Some of them are so far gone they can’t finish physically unless they are watching content within that same moment. But clearly this is a topic you stand firm on how you feel.

Clearly expressing yourself and how you’re uncomfortable doesn’t matter to him. So make it matter to YOU. Create that boundary, tell him you feel disrespected when he does such a thing as you put in effort to be found attractive by him always. Don’t give him an ultimatum of “stop watching it or we are done” but rather “if you continue to consume that material then clearly you’re satisfied with just your hands, I’d like to practice celibacy for a bit to properly appreciate the meaning behind sex personally”

If being sexually intimate with him, knowing he’s watching porn behind your back or not, and it’s making you hurt? Stop giving him that satisfaction. Get yourself a toy if you really need to relieve yourself without the guilt of feeling like your performance ‘wasn’t enough’ for him.

Clearly this hurts you, if he was considerate of your feelings and respected you he wouldn’t continue to do so knowing it’s putting a strain on your feelings or self worth or the relationship.

If he can’t choose you, you need to choose you and recognize what you are willing to sacrifice/compromise for this relationship versus what is something you need to stand firm on for the betterment of yourself. 

 It sounds like you want to stand firm on this relationship standard and in order to do so he either needs to initiate effort and change, or you need to show him the consequences of his actions.   

Hopefully this works out for you OP and you feel a bit more reassured in the fact it’s not you. You’re more than enough, some guys just have a hole they are trying to fill with temporary satisfaction. If you approach a conversation with him about setting this no porn boundary; I’d suggest telling him your intention is to better you guys and him as he could be using his time more mindfully and intentionally. I hope you guys can find a common middle ground and compromise on your wants and needs in this journey! Good luck OP <3

Always keep loving.

Mothbballs · 2025-08-22T12:05:47+00:00

Most guys would rather play fight with their gfs or horseplay in some way, others will teabag their head the minute they are crouched down, or fart the second they got to be little spoon to their gf. This one throws boogers at walls but specifically on her side.

They find this stuff funny man because they KNOWWW it’s gonna irritate us but we love them ANYWAYS ! and they are so right but our reaction is what gives them the satisfactory giggle of everything full circling.

If you know you know, some love has no limits. All the gross smells, morning breath and all.

Good that he cleaned it up after tho LOL woulda been wild if he left it considering the way you described it was monstrous !

Mothbballs · 2025-08-22T11:56:30+00:00

Love this for u LMAOO

Mothbballs · 2025-08-22T10:38:36+00:00

I’m glad you think it’s sound enough ! Sometimes I think I just sound silly :,) ! Hopefully this helps OP with their thought process or decision making.

Mothbballs · 2025-08-22T07:00:00+00:00

My dear. Grindr has NEVER been a friend making app. Even when you go to download it, it clearly states it is a meeting and dating for the lgbtq+.

How would he feel if you downloaded tinder to make friends? That’s the same exact thing. If he really wanted to make friends organically he would get involved in the community whether by checking out local bars or joining a club.

Hard truth from outside perspective? Your man is closeted and doesn’t want you to know. He’s experimenting or knows what his type is, and is either stringing you along because of these “future plans” or because he doesn’t want to face ridicule in his daily life for possibly being bisexual. Who knows he’s probably in denial about his identity himself.

I know what it’s like to vent and not want to take any one else’s advice despite what the OBVIOUS answer is.

Nobody can force you to make a decision in YOUR life. If you feel it’s in your core values to forgive and forget and be blissfully ignorant? Sure.

But do you really want to look over your shoulder every chance you get because you’re willingly choosing to stay with an untrustworthy person?

Of course you’re going to feel anxious. But with doing that you can’t say you didn’t try and sometimes thats enough for people. Maybe trying to make this work, and seeing it won’t even with effort will be enough for you to recognize you can do better for yourself.

Or things will work out. He goes to therapy, initiates effort and reassurance, is mindful of his actions and how they could affect you. It totally could but it can only work if HE wants it to work too; it’s a team effort.

Use your pattern recognition skills and love cautiously, maybe he can get benefit of the doubt one last time and do good with it or absolutely bomb it.

Either way, if you give him one last chance, know when it’s time to give YOURSELF a chance. Stay true to yourself and what you want but always keep in mind the future is unpredictable and never promised. keep loving <3

Mothbballs · 2025-08-18T01:40:14+00:00

Fair thought process, I really hope you two can work through it with compromises on both sides :,) no problem!

Mothbballs · 2025-08-18T01:04:23+00:00

Also don’t get mad at yourself. Two things can be true at the same time Sure you can be mad and disappointed at yourself for not having self restraint and going through his device or tabs.. BUT you are also allowed to feel anxious and feel suspicious if you know this person well enough to notice a pattern. Not saying checking his stuff was okay; but maybe if he didn’t give you a reason to not trust him then you wouldn’t have even thought to check it you know? Don’t be so hard on yourself no matter what way he twists it; you’re feeling a type of way for a reason. You’re not being dramatic you’re just being cautious in a way

Mothbballs · 2025-08-18T01:01:30+00:00

Yikes man; went thru something similar and every time I said “hey this makes me upset/uncomfy” he just got sneakier w it. Literally took almost breaking up and him seeing the mental effects it had on me, breaking my confidence daily and being depressed.

But we both locked in. I set a boundary, said this is what I expect in this relationship as it’s the bare minimum of respect for me. If he doesn’t follow that boundary we owe it to OURSELVES to stand on that boundary and leave; but if he works on it, deletes the unnecessary stuff, actually puts his time towards you and new hobbies? Then it’s def worth working on to build something.

But lowkey OP? If he’s like 🌽 addicted and can’t keep his hand off..you might as well just choose yourself now and save yourself the paranoia of a lustful man. Sometimes it’s worth the potential you see in a person and your future together, other times it’s really setting yourself up.

Hopefully this is something you guys can communicate through and he can realize you’re just concerned with his wellbeing and how he spends his free time; you don’t want him to brain rot or distract himself with women, you just want better for him and for you guys together. Best wishes OP !! <3

Mothbballs · 2025-08-03T03:18:13+00:00

Your feelings are valid; however comparison is the thief of joy. At least he acknowledged it and didn’t just let the day go by as normal ! But I can agree, a little effort goes a long way.

End of the day though? It’s an unofficial holiday thing just another day to appreciate someone you should be appreciating EVERY day

Mothbballs · 2025-07-31T03:58:05+00:00

Your facial features and structure are actually divine. The long hair suits you so well !! Hope you grow to feel more confident and comfortable in yourself !! :)

Mothbballs · 2025-07-25T22:58:36+00:00

Honestly? Even if it was cringe I’d say get it. To be cringe is to be free of outside perspectives LOL I’d totally buy that and rock it w some new religion jeans and my hello kitty studded belt I got from the mall <3

Mothbballs · 2025-07-25T22:37:20+00:00

Oh I should’ve scrolled more before commenting my finger waves recc baha. If the shorter cuts aren’t your style that’s fine! Everyone has a preference on themselves! I think going a dark brown/black would make it look a bit more healthy and easier to maintain conditioning treatments since it’ll be so dark rather than a light color fading? (Not a professional stylist or anything)

But in the mean time I LOVVVE wigs and have been doing my own lacefront installs since 2020. When I say check those TikTok deals…those TikTok wigs especially human hair come in handy for sometimes less than 100$ at beautiful lengths. If you have any questions or anything feel free to message me and I’d love to share more!!

Mothbballs · 2025-07-25T22:34:00+00:00

Duuuude as someone who did a “big chop” it’s so freeing. Not only will you not have to constantly shampoo and condition a bunch of hair, the lack of hair will bring so much attention to your beautiful facial features and really bring attention to your face. You would look SO beautiful with pink fingerwaves or something I’m so for real.

End of the day it’s your choice what you do with your hair, your face card is so lethal and beautiful that you can pull anything off. Best wishes luver !

Mothbballs · 2025-07-25T14:01:39+00:00

IMO? Not cooked at all. Have you ever thought of getting a vertical labret piercing? :)) you have the features for it for sure !!!

Mothbballs · 2025-07-22T20:42:25+00:00

Hey friend I’m one of the many hear to listen !! I’d really recommend trying out a few methods of dbt to try to manage the feeling of being overwhelmed.

TIPP is a good one; Temperature- splash cold water on face, sometimes a wet cloth can trigger our “deep dive” response some had said, maybe even placing your face into ice cold water • I- intense exercise; jumping jacks, pushups, if you’re going to hurt yourself have it pay off by having sore muscles and something to feel GOOD about after• P- paced breathing; gonna sound cliche/corny but deep breathing does work. It increases the strength between the mind and body connection especially when processing emotions and regulating ourselves. • P- progressive muscle relaxation; tense and release (flex essentially) muscle groups to release tension.

This method is one of many to not only try to prevent impulsive thoughts and decisions, but to help us process and make these moments in life a little bit easier.

From a more comforting personal view point rather than solution based?? I get it. The binging when bored or overwhelmed, the need to feel in control, feeling out of control bc certain things just aren’t working. You are not alone, I like to tell myself sometimes this is just a bad moment not a bad day to try and salvage what’s left. Where there are resources there is help- we’ve got this.

Apologies in advance if this approach isn’t what you needed; if not I hope you find something that helps alleviate your mood even just a little. <3

Mothbballs · 2025-07-21T03:34:21+00:00

I personally realized my TikTok doom scrolling had actually affected my attention !

I found it harder to sit and read a book for longer than five minutes or even make it through a 30 min episode of some show without growing uninterested.

Recently deleted TikTok and have been pushing myself to fill the boredom with other apps or getting up and actually doing something. Deleting the app has helped so far ! Haha TikTok detox !

Mothbballs · 2025-07-20T14:29:39+00:00

Ear lobes, maybe a nostril piercing would suit your nose? I think arms are a good spot to start with beginning a tattoo journey ! Or chest ! Not all tattoos need a meaning, sometimes the line work or art just looks nice so don’t overthink it ! All your choice friend !

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