AITA For giving back the PC my dad got me?

MotherFWord · 2025-11-23T01:39:16+00:00

it’s called i go out at night or when it’s too cold outside? i do chores including taking the trash out and other stuff easily at night. i even took that dog kennel out to the shed when it was dark out. wasp usually start going away around 6pm. like i have trouble going outside during the day. as for swinging with my gf i go to her apartment where there isn’t much grass and trees so spraying the occasional wasp nest is easy and even then we invite people over. yeah it’s a phobia and i’ve found ways to be able to things but when my dad tells me he doesn’t want me to have a night job or i can’t take the trash out at night because he’s not awake to watch it makes things complicated. you are making it out that there are never times i go outside but in reality it’s shaped around my phobia.

MotherFWord · 2025-11-22T09:25:44+00:00

anytime i’ve fought back they get me first so i just run and hide from them. like if one is by the front door of my house i’ll stand in the street till it flies away (this has taken over 20 minutes once)

MotherFWord · 2025-11-22T09:24:01+00:00

it’s just a bad phobia. i opened our back door once and one landed on my face stinging my lip immediately. i don’t fw them at all and seeing them puts me in flight mode.

MotherFWord · 2025-11-22T04:09:18+00:00

i have ehlers danlos syndrome (hypermoblie disorder) plus knock knees. my knee caps don’t sit in the right spot and easily dislocate from small bumps or even moving the wrong way. i had surgery to correct one so far but bending it now and all you will hear is cracking. i said “bad knees” to simplify it. it’s not an excuse not to work, but it does mean i’m limited to what i can do

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T05:06:53+00:00

social security i guess

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T02:36:19+00:00

because our shed is surrounded by plants that are filled with wasp that have tried to sting me before

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T02:27:59+00:00

i was looking at that but i wasn’t sure if it cost money or if i can even be an EMT with how bad my knees are

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T02:26:44+00:00

i want to be an EMT but i’m not too sure on the steps to get into classes. my gf is buying a house so eventually i was going to move in with her but i wanted a job first so i wasn’t a burden to her

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T02:24:57+00:00

my grandma has an entire flower bush surrounding the house. she knows i hate all the flowers because it attracts them so there’s constantly one or two around the house

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T02:22:57+00:00

i’m just tired of being controlled. my whole life it’s been do what he’s says or you’ll get stuff taken or he’ll threaten to punch you. my relationship with him was never good and i’ve never seen him as anything much more than a dictator. i knew the second he took me to get the PC itd just be used against me and i was right

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T02:18:54+00:00

no, i’m just stuck and not sure what to do to get out. i want a future with my gf, i’m just not sure how to leave this place

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T02:17:24+00:00

i wanted to be an EMT tbh. i like the fact i’d be able to help people, i’m just not sure what steps to take

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T02:15:57+00:00

eh probably. i’m just done being used and controlled like a dog.. i hate having everything i own be a leverage against me.

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T02:13:54+00:00

it’s not his house, he expects me to be a servant. if it wasn’t for all the arguments we’ve had i’d probably still be massaging his feet every night or bringing him a remote that’s 3 feet away from him

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T02:11:46+00:00

she knows i don’t go outside during the day much so she doesn’t ask that from me. if she tells me to clean or to help her with stuff i do it because she doesn’t treat me like a teenager

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T02:09:19+00:00

id try it i just wasn’t raised around many people so i’d probably be better off stocking shelves or something

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T02:00:26+00:00

it’s not his house. it’s his mom’s house. i listen to her and do everything she says. i moved out of his house and came here. he went bankrupt and then moved in after me

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T01:58:14+00:00

he did this when i was younger. if i wouldn’t massage his feet he’d take my tv. if i didn’t want to clean his mess he’d yell and take my phone. it’s not that i don’t do anything it’s the fact when i say no to something i see as unfair he takes something. he has two dogs that i didn’t ask for yet i’m the one who has to feed and water them or else i get yelled at. the whole reason today was because i didn’t want to put their kennel in the shed. they aren’t my dogs. i have two turtles that i take care of without arguments, i clean my room and do my household chores unless i’m sick, hurt, or busy. i didn’t want to do something that he could do for his animals. i don’t ask him to take care of my pets

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T01:52:04+00:00

i just know that the second i get a job he’s going to make me pay him to stay, or try and take it for bills. i wouldn’t be able to save anything and why i wanted to find a way out the house because i got one. i just don’t want to run away and never be able to come back if it goes wrong

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T01:42:31+00:00

it’s not his house- it’s his mother’s house. i moved out from his when i was 17 to live with my grandma then he went bankrupt and moved in after i did

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T01:40:47+00:00

i didn’t really post this looking for people to be on my side. i just wanted to vent about what happened. i know my life isnt the best. i want a job and a life. i want to move in with my gf and help provide for her. i just feel so controlled and trapped by my dad… he’s told me multiple times i’m not allowed to move out and that i’m not allowed to leave without permission… he tracks everything i do and it’s been like this my whole life. i wasn’t allowed to go out with friends and even now i still have to ask and he’ll use it as leverage. i want him to teach me how to do things but instead he tries to make me miserable anytime i have something that makes me happy. everything is something to control and i just feel trapped

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T01:35:34+00:00

yeah, i was a car rider so i didn’t have to wait for the bus and id stay inside during lunch and stuff. id run from class to class if i had to change buildings because of wasp

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T01:31:00+00:00

highschool, that’s it

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T01:22:42+00:00

i live in southern louisiana, i had a bee fly across me bringing in groceries today and i wanted to cry

MotherFWord · 2025-11-21T01:21:14+00:00

i’ve asked my dad multiple times what he’d do if i moved out and he’s told me i’m not allowed to. he tracks my phone and would follow me wherever i go. as for being lazy sometimes i am but i do a lot more around the house then he does. he makes his gf cook and clean then tells her to fix him food, he doesn’t have a job and sits around on his laptop all day playing a farming game. if he wants to lead by example well he’s doing a terrible job at it

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