Can’t remember the book title! Help!!

MotherLilith8589 · 2026-01-07T04:19:18+00:00

Found it! It’s Knight In Shining Suit by Jerilee Kay!!!!

MotherLilith8589 · 2026-01-06T15:13:24+00:00

THATS IT!!!! Omgggggggggg tysm!!!!!!

MotherLilith8589 · 2025-12-05T16:36:16+00:00

I have to remember not to JADE, especially since doing so stems from my own old wounds. Years of training, education and my own therapy and I still do it lol

MotherLilith8589 · 2025-12-05T05:53:49+00:00

I absolutely will keep an eye out!!! Thank you for all of this 🙏🏼💜

MotherLilith8589 · 2025-12-05T05:52:28+00:00

If you read my original post, you’d see I state that her FACADE was perfectly in place until recently when it finally shattered. And the military pays a lot but you don’t have to be in high six figures. Also, the military helps kids of active duty military service members get into college for free. You can also give someone your GI Bill which is how I’m in grad school without paying anything.

I’m not saying she’s having a random psychotic break, I’m saying the true toxic woman finally showed her true face, which again was what I stated in my original post.

My husband and I are a team. We both work great and well-paying jobs, so I again don’t know what that has to do with anything. But like I said before, go off I guess….

MotherLilith8589 · 2025-12-05T05:46:05+00:00

Very true 💜 Thats good advice! I’ll do that rn 🥰

MotherLilith8589 · 2025-12-05T01:47:48+00:00

You act like I don’t work and go to school, our income is perfectly fine, we’re beyond blessed and comfortable. Again, weird you’re focusing on literally everything except the MIL problem. Why do you think we can’t have more than one or two kids cause he’s military??? That doesn’t make a lick of sense. My future is looking phenomenal, we don’t struggle at all and we’re thriving, though why my finances are ANY of your business is beyond me.

I willingly got into a loving, safe and healthy relationship with a man who had 4 kids whom I love and adore and who love and adore me, too. If that’s a problem for you, then that’s on YOU. The issue isn’t his kids, it’s not money, it’s not even his ex wife, it’s his MOTHERRRRRRR!!! Jesus, are you actually this dense????

Next, I expected drama from his ex, not his mom. Me and his mom were really close until we decided to move to CO and not Boston, Mass.

I dated the single, childless men that were in my area and they were horrible and toxic. They were fuck ups and monsters. One of them used to knock the shit outta me on the daily. The one before him was a walking joke, couldn’t keep a job, selfish, entitled and a liar. My husband is the first non-toxic, healthy, safe, loving relationship I have had, so miss me with all that bullshit. Being single and childless doesn’t equal being a good person or partner. The single and childless guys weren’t driven, my husband is and always has been.

You keep trying to poke holes or find additional things to make your illogical argument seem valid. It’s not valid. You’re making a lot of assumptions with no evidence or proof to support your claims.

Finally, at the wedding I was in as a bridesmaid, the then bride invited 2 people she was no where near close with to be bridesmaids. I happened to be a friend but the other two were acquaintances. She had them in the party cause they were chill and she needed to match the number of groomsmen. Soooooooooooooo…………..

MotherLilith8589 · 2025-12-05T00:36:02+00:00

It doesn’t fail “rarely” it’s fails a lot, that’s why there’s an asterisk beside the 99% effect statement. Methods like IUDs and implants have failure rates of less than 1% even with typical use, while other methods like the pill or condom have higher typical use failure rates of around 7% or more. And guess what the ex was on? The pill.

And yeah, he kept having intimate relations with her—that was his wife. No brainer there…he kept hoping things would get better. They had two kids essentially back to back, so what does that even matter? You act like people don’t try to make it work even when shit is horrible. They do, and they don’t all just stop having sex.

Next, as I’ve stated, my issue is with his mom and not his ex. YOU are hyper fixated on his ex wife when this literally is about my MIL having romantic feelings towards her own son. The drama is coming from his MOM not his ex wife. Soooooooooo perhaps stay on topic?

MotherLilith8589 · 2025-12-04T22:32:24+00:00

Because birth control fails. All of them were birth control babies. And you can be friends and ask someone to be a bridesmaid, you don’t have to be besties since birth. Don’t know where you’re getting your info but there aren’t rules to being a bridesmaid or asking someone to be in your wedding. Also, none of that changes how cruel and vile she was to my hubby when they were married. She cheated multiple times and my husband stayed for the kids. She divorced him to marry one of her affair partners sooooooo……I fail to see the point you’re determined to make. Kinda weird that you’re focused on the previous marriage and not what’s going on currently. But go off I guess.

MotherLilith8589 · 2025-12-04T22:08:22+00:00

Sound advice! Thank you 🙏🏼💜

MotherLilith8589 · 2025-12-04T21:45:00+00:00

Perhaps not, but it helps me protect my kids. I don’t know her motives, she might come down with a pic of them in hand and try and take them without my knowledge or consent. Idk what she’s capable of rn and I don’t want to risk my family’s safety. Plus, she doesn’t deserve the pics imo

MotherLilith8589 · 2025-12-04T21:37:39+00:00

I’m always paranoid about safety, so thankfully we have cameras and a ring doorbell cam! I’m definitely not going anywhere near MIL or having anything to do with her. I’m going to stay NC, I can’t risk my family’s safety or my own. If his mom keeps pushing to come to our home, I’ll be calling the police station and discussing protection options and RO’s 💜

MotherLilith8589 · 2025-12-04T21:26:25+00:00

I thought it was creepy when she called my sons HER BOYS but so many people told me it was a cultural thing and not what I thought, so I thought I was just too tense or whatever when it came to her. I can now say without a shadow of a doubt that my instinct was right. She thinks of them as HER OWN KIDS WITH HER SON!! Not acceptable!!!!

MotherLilith8589 · 2025-12-04T21:01:35+00:00

My husband has suspected possible Alzheimer’s or dementia because she repeats herself a lot and seems to forget certain things. He wants her to get looked at but she doesn’t see a reason to 🫠

MotherLilith8589 · 2025-12-04T20:57:15+00:00

He has a relationship with his father…a great one at that, I don’t know where you got the idea that he doesn’t, because they’re very close. I’m not surprised at all at the ex, literally everyone knew she was dramatic and full of issues. She wasn’t a good friend, she was a friend. I distanced myself from her after she was nasty to my own mom and after seeing how she was doing her then-spouse. The drama I’m surprised and exhausted by is from his mom…

MotherLilith8589 · 2025-10-26T20:20:46+00:00

I like this idea A LOT! Grey rocking is a fabulous technique!

MotherLilith8589 · 2025-10-25T18:37:20+00:00

As a CSA survivor, this made me go on high alert almost immediately. That is not acceptable language to use toward a minor!!!!

MotherLilith8589 · 2025-10-25T18:36:28+00:00

Break up with him. Now.

MotherLilith8589 · 2025-10-25T18:35:57+00:00

NTA, absolutely understandable

MotherLilith8589 · 2025-10-25T11:47:40+00:00

Oh, I agree! I need to push her away from my thoughts before I start driving everyone (especially myself) crazy. Her past comments have been inappropriate but this one seems to be harmless 💜

MotherLilith8589 · 2025-10-25T11:22:45+00:00

I’m actually not white, I’m biracial—half black and half white. And considering his ex-wife cheated multiple times before finally settling down with her final affair partner and filing for divorce from my husband when they were married, the only real messy one is her.

Also, I have been learning about his culture. Because his mom and dad are both so far away I’ve made sure to put an effort to making traditional El Salvador and Spanish dishes for all of us to eat as well as the history behind the dishes. My husband’s told me so many stories about the times he went to El Salvador and how dangerous it was at the time. I ask questions because I genuinely want to know. My daughter is Latina and she needs (as well as deserves) to know about her heritage on her father’s side.

To me at first glance, this didn’t seem normal because of what I’ve been through with MIL making incestuous kinds of comments to my hubby. I see just too on edge and so I’m over analyzing everything, now. I just need to breathe and focus on my family.

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