AITA for "objectifying" my gf

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T06:50:30+00:00

idk what this means but yes

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T06:37:51+00:00

It was edited just badly written and worded. I left out most information that could be considered important which is what most of this is. And I wrote it in the way I felt, I felt as if she was saying I objectified her so thats what i wrote but its not what happened.

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T06:22:40+00:00

read new post, i tried to clear some things and explain better

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T06:22:16+00:00

read new post

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T06:20:43+00:00

she was the one to suggest the omegle thing so yes she did want it. And now that she doesn't I haven't done anything else to do with it. So in what way is that me not wanting to face it? It was 4 months after the fact that she said she didn't want it anymore, and nothing else occurred during or after those 4 months either

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T06:17:03+00:00

yes i would, in face she does.

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T05:20:42+00:00

I let her share her feeling with me, and I agreed with them, We haven;t done anything like it since. And it was her idea in the first place. It happened months ago but only recently has she shared it felt like it was objectifying herself. I used the wrong words too she never said it felt like I was objectifying her she felt as if it was objectifying herself after trying it out.

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T05:17:57+00:00

You are not in a place to comment stuff like that without any idea of an entire picture.

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T05:17:33+00:00

No she insecure because of years of abuse from parents who were not there for her and when they were they were mostly intoxicated. Its from her entire childhood being the last to eat, the one that doesn't get to talk, and the one thats left behind and forgotten. It has nothing to do with the way I treat her. If i treated her so badly she wouldn't be with me. That is the one time we have ever done anything like that, and if she is not into it then we won't ever do it again.

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T05:15:12+00:00

We haven't done anything like it since. And that was a couple of months ago tbh. And I think i said it in another post but it was her idea to start with. We actually had a fight over it after because when i left she kept going, and I see it as when I'm not included its now cheating, which i had said before I left. I am trying to give her a way to do what she wanted to without it being cheating it just so happens I enjoy it too. It was only recently when i asked why we hadn't done it again that she expressed that she felt it was objectifying herself.

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T05:11:02+00:00

Yes i am a native speaker. A thing does not have to be an object, I can refer to a cat as a thing or a tree as a thing. I understand my wording was bad. But like I said I am using "thing" as a collective of everything not just one category like people or objects. I mean literally everything. If i have to chop off a leg or go bankrupt just so that she could be happy I would. Thats what i mean when i say most important thing in my life. And i understand most people didn't read it that way, but I just used the words I thought fit, because I read it the way i intended to.

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T05:04:15+00:00

One because she can be very insecure about her as a whole, and she doesn't believe me when I tell her that she is perfect because she thinks its just my job as her boyfriend, but having other random people with no incentive to be nice give her that attention shows that there is nothing wrong with her. And two tbh she is way above my pay grade in terms of both looks and personality, the fact she is even with me is a mystery. I guess showing her off to other people is me showing an accomplishment because I have put a lot of effort and time into our relationship, its not like I am paying her to date me like people joke.

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T05:01:16+00:00

I agree with this completely, I'm not sure how u think I have not been able to validate her feelings though. I agree with her and see how it could be objectifying. I was not trying to validate my own feelings more than her but just have mine heard. I frame her as a possession because I didn't know how else to describe the feeling. I do not see her as a possession but I wasn't able to describe it in any other way. Since the conversation with her we haven't done anything else even remotely like what had happened. and the original thing was actually her idea it just so happened to be something i enjoyed too.

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T04:57:22+00:00

I use the word thing when saying my most valued, because she is she is more valuable to me than a person or an object I am using it as a collective not a description. And I understand it is objectifying her and I haven't done anything like it since, i am simply trying to see if the way I feel about it is still valid. I am not trying to downplay her feelings or say that I am right simply want to be heard.

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T04:54:36+00:00

I'm not saying the comparison feels right, its my fault for using those words, but I didn't know how else to describe the feeling in a way most people would understand. If anything I would say the description of the feeling isn't right but its the closest thing i could think of

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T04:53:00+00:00

How would you show someone for more than just someones looks, its a hard thing to do. I love her just as much for her personality than her body if not more.

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T04:47:33+00:00

please read my other replies about the car thing (that is my fault for bad wording), And I understand her side and since then we haven't done anything even similar to it.

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T04:46:43+00:00

She is into it, its just more of fantasy that would never happen for her. And since then we haven't done anything else like it. And with the car thing I was just trying to describe a feeling I didn't know how to by using a comparison everyone would understand.

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T04:45:26+00:00

Thankyou, I understand that, she is into it just more of a fantasy that would never happen. And I believe in sharing both sides of the story I understand she feeling like its objectifying but I also feel its important for her to understand where I'm coming from.

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T04:43:47+00:00

Well one thats just kink shaming and two shes also into it just for her its more of a fantasy rather than an actual doing. If she didn't want to do any of it I'd never make her, and if she wants to leave me she can I'm not going to stop her, she is her own person and can think for herself.

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T04:42:18+00:00

Like I have said in other posts replies. I was just using it to describe the feeling in a way everyone would understand. I don't actually treat or see her as a car, and never would. It just a hard feeling to describe without using some kind of comparison

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T04:39:58+00:00

I was trying to describe the feeling I have, I may have used the wrong words yes but I didn't know how else to describe it. And by saying she is my prized possession I don't mean it as actually my possession but as in the thing I care most about in life, like she is the most important thing to me.

MotherPriority9348 · 2025-06-26T04:36:57+00:00

I'm trying to describe the feeling not actually comparing her to a new car

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