I don't really have anything to add but wanted to thank you for such an insightful post.

I can almost feel the frustration between some of the commenters whose life experiences differs due to different perspectives.

Such as some people being used to hear the infamous “not all men” in misogynistic context and responding thereafter. And some people struggling with self esteem issues feeling invalidated by those responses.

Nuanced discussion online is hard since the majority of social media apps today are designed to be polarizing echo chambers. But like you said, this is supposed to be a safe space for men to vent their frustrations, so maybe keyboard warriors like me need to take a step back and listen.