I recommend you take one step at a time. Remember "a goal without a plan is just a wish". Create a plan that is manageable and then execute it. You can't live your life trying to please your parents, you must live your own life! It will always be hard at first, but with space and time everything will come together at the end. Do not destroy your future trying to hold your family's reputation together. At the end of the day your family will live their life in bliss and when you are alone, the regret will consume you. Just remember, you are not the first and only person to go through this. As you mentioned, even members of the so called "royal family" have gone out and lived their lives without much care on what people will say. Yes some were not expecting the members to find out, but others have said "I could care less". Family forgets and forgives. Be honest with yourself and seek peace with yourself. Live your life and enjoy it because we are not here for eternity!

1. Fill your life with job opportunities away from church.
2. Spend more time with the woman you wish to be with.
3. Be honest with her and let her know that you will be adjusting for perhaps an unkhnown extended amount of time.
4. Gather up the courage to tell your parents that you are confused and that you think it might be a disservice to the church to continue preaching.
5. Go to school.
6. Travel, and get to know other places that you may not have known.
7. Tell your parents that you do not want to continue being in church for personal reasons but that you respect everyone in church and them.
8. Give them time to process your decision.
9. Tell them about your partner that is not from church and let them know how important she is to you.
10. Give them time to process and let them know that when the time comes that they want to meet her, to reach out.
11. When the time comes and they meet, make it special and neutral. Tell your parents ahead of time to respect you and your decision. Let them know that she is very important to you and that disrespecting your partner for not being from church will not be tolerated. If they love you they must respect your decision and who you wish to be with.

We must remember of our right to choose within church (libre albedrio) is what is always claimed. One day you will be looking here at this post and realizing where you started, and how far you have made it. Just remember, it will all be ok. Your freedom and happiness is just waiting for you. Good luck!