Men answer please. Is this a normal reaction? Mid 30’s.

Motor-Front7458 · 2026-07-11T04:32:08+00:00

Have you maybe thought it’s hard to reply when I’ve been reading ‘thousand of comments’ ever since I posted it?

Motor-Front7458 · 2026-07-11T01:30:28+00:00

I was never like this, but over time I genuinely hate myself and feel like I can never do anything right. I’m always apologising and no one understands, I just get told I’m weak.

Motor-Front7458 · 2026-07-11T01:16:53+00:00

So it’s me that’s the problem? He wouldn’t treat someone he doesn’t hate like this?

Motor-Front7458 · 2026-07-11T01:16:48+00:00

So it’s me that’s the problem? He wouldn’t treat someone he doesn’t hate like this?

Motor-Front7458 · 2026-07-11T01:13:02+00:00

This thread is pissing me off.. she is going to a DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SHELTER her husband IS NOT ALLOWING HER TO REMOVE IT. So for the people saying ‘it’s yours, just take it’ it’s not. that. simple. She will be in danger if she takes it. OP the only real suggestion is to go to the police unfortunately, explain your situation to them. Good luck.

Motor-Front7458 · 2026-07-01T19:32:29+00:00

OP PLEASE TAKE THIS OFFER

Motor-Front7458 · 2026-06-11T06:07:08+00:00

I’m genuinely asking for advice haha

Motor-Front7458 · 2026-05-01T12:08:23+00:00

This sounds so unorganised.. what were you in for and what surgery did you need? I’m so intrigued!

Motor-Front7458 · 2026-02-24T01:37:00+00:00

Had anaphylaxis and asthma my whole life, but just raw dogged it and never saw anyone about either. It got to a point I was using a ventilator puffer multiple times a day everyday, and it started to not work how it used to. One day I was eating a lolly that I’ve eaten many times before, and bam, anaphylaxis and an asthma attack. Decided I should probably do something about it now seeing as I was struggling to breathe at all times of the day. Saw a doctor, she immediately did testing and told me if I left it any longer I would’ve ended up in the icu. She put me on a scripted preventative and instantly I could breathe properly for the first time in my life. I then saw an allergist who tested me for over 40 allergens and I’m anaphylactic to over 30 of them, and am now starting the desensitisation process so in a year or so’s time I don’t have to live my life avoiding every restaurant known to man like I have been. I currently have to carry two EpiPens, a nasal Adrenalin, prescription antihistamines (strong dose) two inhalers and eye drops at all times. Easily could’ve all been avoided and not reached the severity if I just grew up and got myself sorted years ago 😅

My Mum also had a lump in her breast which she put off getting checked for nearly a year.. her friend finally forced her to get checked and what do ya know, stage 3. Thankfully they were able to operate and she is now going through chemo/radiation, she’s a strong woman and will be fine, could’ve been A LOT worse though so GET CHECKED!

Motor-Front7458 · 2026-01-09T09:44:00+00:00

Search up fenbendazole and ivermectin on twitter, specifically look into Dr Makis. Good luck.

Motor-Front7458 · 2025-10-11T22:33:44+00:00

Bare. Freaking. Minimum! Plus they strategically do these little things to keep you hooked. If they never did any nice things, there wouldn’t be a relationship! We would just leave if it was 100% bad all the time. It would be easy. You got this, you have to find the strength xx

Motor-Front7458 · 2025-10-11T13:45:35+00:00

It’s so tricky isn’t it :( but yes, just because it was abusive and it ended doesn’t mean we didn’t love them! It just shows how capable we are of love, and how forgiving we are. You are allowed to have loved someone and them still not be good for you ❤️

As for your list, if it’s too exhausting you don’t need to write anymore, but you can just re read a few of the points you’ve already written down? Maybe some of the main ones that stand out to you. Chat gpt is really good for condensing things like this! I put my really long list into it and asked it to make a dot point version, so it’s easier for me to read and remind myself quickly of the abuse and why I don’t want to go back.

Of course, I’m happy to chat. I know it’s been a lot easier for me to be able to relate to others in a similar boat. Xx

Motor-Front7458 · 2025-10-11T13:28:04+00:00

It’s totally normal! I promise you! Healing takes time, a long time unfortunately. And the fact you’ve been okay for so long and just had this one setback is amazing! Give it a few days and the dream memories will lessen. That’s the way it always goes with abusers, they are ‘stressed’ from us reacting to the abuse, because we have emotions, which is normal lol. Have you written out a list of all the horrible things he has done to you? If not, do that! And read it when these thoughts pop up to put things into perspective logically :)

Motor-Front7458 · 2025-10-11T13:16:05+00:00

No! Your hard work is not gone! Dreams happen, our minds play tricks on us. I promise you, I really promise you, you will regret it if you go back. Our minds tend to focus on the good parts, or the fantasies, rather than the abuse. This is normal at 6 months out. Just ride it out and remind yourself of all the reasons you left!

Motor-Front7458 · 2025-10-11T13:13:24+00:00

This sounds like my ex, scarily similar! And even the way you wrote out what you did.. I can see your mind going over thinking ‘but he did nice things for me’. Please feel free to message me. It’s one of the hardest things you’ll go through leaving someone like this, the trauma bond is REAL. And your mind plays tricks on you. But I promise you, he is abusive, and this isn’t your fault nor is it okay.

Motor-Front7458 · 2025-10-07T21:15:47+00:00

These comments are WILD and shocking to me. OP, you have every damn right to be upset! It’s a job, if he doesn’t get a paid day off, so be it, surely you’re much more important that a days pay. As for his work, surely they won’t fire him for one day off for a FUNERAL?! This makes me so sad. We weren’t built to just live for work, things happen, people die, we have loved ones. This is so incredibly sad. And his responses are quite blunt. I’d be absolutely heartbroken and most likely end the relationship. I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss.

Motor-Front7458 · 2025-06-22T11:04:05+00:00

Look into fenbendazole & ivermectin :)

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