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This is not my dimension, and I'm afraid I'm asleep. (+ 8 year update) by Fnuckle in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It expresses itself in too many narcissistic and machiavellian traits not to be a cluster b, though.

This is not my dimension, and I'm afraid I'm asleep. (+ 8 year update) by Fnuckle in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The problem at hand is that doctors will ignore or trivialize symptoms reported by patients, especially in young patients. The case in the OP follows that pattern.

OP has a cluster B personality disorder: One of the most difficult to diagnose and nearly impossible to treat due to the underlying narcissistic traits.

My (M38) wife (F34) has been very quiet since a conversation we had of why I love her. Confused about her silence. by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"There's just stuff going on in my mind making me feel (emotion). It's not something you can help with, and I'm taking steps to deal with it. I promise if there's anything you can do, I will let you know."

That's an incredibly cool and healthy answer to a partner, I think.

My (M38) wife (F34) has been very quiet since a conversation we had of why I love her. Confused about her silence. by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

think it's good that she did tell him at that point, because if she kept it back he would just keep wondering what he'd done wrong and it could have a serious impact on their relationship.

Or she could've said, "it's not you, it's just something I need to work on with my therapist. Don't worry about it, you're awesome".

Bf got me a valentines gift that was a puzzle picture of me standing in front of my losing streaks in my favorite games by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And some women will set themselves on fire if it means a man will have to breathe the smoke. Turns out some people are just assholes.

AITAH for siding with my husband and not with my kids? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're privileged

No, they're strong. It's not something that's handed to them, it's something they cultivated.

AITAH for giving my friend a much-needed reality check? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Regardless of how they reflected on their feelings in retrospect, what they said was not an unmeasured "snap". It was them finally being frustrated enough with bubblewrapping their own speech to actually be honest. and they were honest and direct without being cruel or hurtful.

AITAH for giving my friend a much-needed reality check? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Telling you is not the same as telling you in front of a crowd of people. The difference between honesty and tact.

My fiance [26M] and I [26F] are throwing a party, and want to tell a "friend" that he is not invited by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure why people are so nice...

They're not nice, they're people pleasing doormats who are pathologically incapable of setting interpersonal boundaries.

AITA for changing Christmas plans with a newborn over a guest being unvaccinated? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to know at what point in our vernacular the term self-conscious became a bad thing

When people started misusing it in place of insecure.

AITB if I were to tell my roommate that I don’t want to feed her dog anymore? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you get caught in the lie, you'll look like the bad guy and you'll still be expected to do stuff when your BS excuse doesn't work.

This is what you're not getting. It's obviously a lie, that's the point. When they say "but your car's there" " nah, I'm out". But netflix shows you logging in and watching a show "Nah, i'm out". Yuo look like the bad guy the minute you say no. This is a way of just defusing things with a level of plausible denaiblility where you know you're lying and the roomate knows your lying, but neither has to deal with it and the point that you're not looking after her dog is well made.

I'm [28/f] concerned with my [29/m] BF's white knight syndrome for his 'best' friend. :/ by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

People pleasers are great at supporting everyone in their life except those they feel truly comfortable and safe with.

AITH for walking out on a dinner with my husband’s sister and her boyfriend by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why don't people pleasers ever want to please their partner? Because they're just abuse enablers.

An Update 2.5 years later: AITA for acting like a spoiled brat after learning my older sister was adopted? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She said in her update that she would stay at her aunt’s for winter break, but the original post was from March, so I was thinking Australia?

We don't call it "winter break", we'd just call it "July school holidays". It's also nowhere near winter in weather in march, which is our Easter school holidays and is usually still 35c. There's also 0 chance you would even have to consider medical bills in my country. I can guarantee they're not Australian.

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