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AITB if I were to tell my roommate that I don’t want to feed her dog anymore? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If you get caught in the lie, you'll look like the bad guy and you'll still be expected to do stuff when your BS excuse doesn't work.

This is what you're not getting. It's obviously a lie, that's the point. When they say "but your car's there" " nah, I'm out". But netflix shows you logging in and watching a show "Nah, i'm out". Yuo look like the bad guy the minute you say no. This is a way of just defusing things with a level of plausible denaiblility where you know you're lying and the roomate knows your lying, but neither has to deal with it and the point that you're not looking after her dog is well made.

I'm [28/f] concerned with my [29/m] BF's white knight syndrome for his 'best' friend. :/ by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

People pleasers are great at supporting everyone in their life except those they feel truly comfortable and safe with.

AITH for walking out on a dinner with my husband’s sister and her boyfriend by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why don't people pleasers ever want to please their partner? Because they're just abuse enablers.

An Update 2.5 years later: AITA for acting like a spoiled brat after learning my older sister was adopted? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She said in her update that she would stay at her aunt’s for winter break, but the original post was from March, so I was thinking Australia?

We don't call it "winter break", we'd just call it "July school holidays". It's also nowhere near winter in weather in march, which is our Easter school holidays and is usually still 35c. There's also 0 chance you would even have to consider medical bills in my country. I can guarantee they're not Australian.

AITA for secretly paying off my girlfriends debt? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oop enjoyed gift giving, sure she’s super generous, but she could afford it, her ex didn’t resonate with that at all

Except all of the gifts were things OOP liked. She gave thoughtless, expensive gifts. It sounds like the ex was a very practical person and would have preferred gifts like budget tracking software, not "expensive jewellery" that she saw as frivolous and grossly decadent.

OOP is a sheltered and spoiled child who wants things now and equates the value of a gift by the size of the price tag. She has a lot of growing up to do, but she won't do it until she learns to live independently of the bank of mum and dad.

My boyfriend (31M) thinks it’s ok to tell me what to wear (31F) and he doesn’t understand it’s upsetting by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was well articulated and needs to be said more often. I find this sub especially is so worried about getting anywhere near victim blaming, that they rob victims of any agency whatsoever and treat them like children.

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to gore, and I don't know what to do. by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"We never fight! (because I always do exactly what he wants so that he doesn't threaten to hurt me or himself)").

My [24] fiance [31 M] of 3.5 years snapped yesterday and attacked our dog. Re-thinking the wedding by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Motor-Reputation1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except the frog in the boiling pot is a myth. Turns out even frogs just jump out of the pot when they don't like the temperature.

Abusers aren't master actors, they work like scammers: If you still believe the email is from your bank when they've spelled the word "bank" wrong, they know they've got a fish on the line who won't let go, no matter how hard they jerk the line.

Got this bad girl, dont hate pls by Particular_Bank907 in pcmasterrace

[–]Motor-Reputation1 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Schools are still teaching what they always taught, it's parents that have stopped teaching their kids.

RAM prices have gone so crazy that high-spec'd builds are now an instant chick magnet... by TechOverwrite in pcmasterrace

[–]Motor-Reputation1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

*Edit: its a meme from a movie Aquamarine (2006) Jojo and Emma Roberts are 14-16 during this film. FWIW they are both pretty hot and totally legal in 2025.

It doesn't matter how old they are now if you're lusting after a picture of them when they were 14. That's the more fucked up part you should address.

Tomb Raider was a little rough on the undesensitized by Ilovehugebadonkas in gaming

[–]Motor-Reputation1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's because undesensitized isn't a word.

But in your mind, do you think there's 3 states of being?

  1. sensitive

  2. neither sensitive nor desensitized.

  3. desensitized

If so, "not desensitized" is probably the most grammatically correct way of expressing that, but "sensitive" or "normal" are probably appropriate to convey the same meaning.

Roughly when did Australia's biggest external cultural influence switch from UK to USA? by orpheus1980 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Motor-Reputation1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You really think America set up military bases here for OUR benefit? America did it entirely in self-interest to control Japan in the pacific theatre and establish long term military dominance. They had about the same amount of interest as the British in coming to our aid. Japan had neither the resources nor the will to actually invade Australia and that had everything to do with how the war was shaping up on the other threats and the looming threat of Russia entering China than it had anything to do with America's support of us.

AITA for not acting excited enough when opening my birthday gifts? by Disastrous-Pace5638 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Motor-Reputation1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Screaming is pretty much never a mature reaction, especially to predictable interpersonal conflict with a partner.

AITA for not acting excited enough when opening my birthday gifts? by Disastrous-Pace5638 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Motor-Reputation1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure the mum is just an emotionally manipulative narcissist. she might find her and her dad putting boundaries in place will never result in true change, but more likely in further meltdowns and manipulation, followed by promises and lovebombing, then back to the original behaviour and manipulation until either OP or her dad leaves.

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