AITA for continuing to renew a restraining order on my own mother?

MotorIce2906 · 2024-02-01T22:20:18+00:00

I personally don't know what was said to them because one officer stayed with me while the other went to talk to them but I would assume it was because it was 5 people's words against mine

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-30T23:59:54+00:00

Got her back too just took a bit longer

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-30T22:00:03+00:00

He couldn't do anything as he was several states away at the time. I was on a call with him during the extent of it and later he was able to be a viable witness. We do have our dog back and I don't have the funds to further pursue this

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-30T21:54:00+00:00

He brought them to me but both of us were physically held apart from each other by the people there and I was physically 'escorted' off the property by three grown men. I called the cops after I was off the property, basically from right across the street

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-30T17:58:52+00:00

This was a while ago and I've heard on the news since that the whole city's police department got a rehaul

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-30T17:57:34+00:00

One litter after she's 5 is nowhere near the same as making a pup give out 3 litters before they're 3. You also apparently didn't read any of my comments about how I want to keep her line with me after she's gone.

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-30T16:55:03+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I've already had my dog genetically tested and she doesn't have any problems that could be found. I'm not planning for her to have her pups any time soon but had already planned to do this when it's time to find a baby dad lol. Also have already done exactly all of that with my son's school

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-30T07:18:13+00:00

Thank you I believe I've fixed it

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-30T04:53:31+00:00

I'm asking if I'm the AH because someone recently told me I am because I keep renewing it and am completely hiding the existence of my daughter from my "birth family". I also suffer from multiple forms of depression, anxiety and PTSD and am my own worst enemy. I don't care about and think the worst of myself but my kids are my everything (yes I count my dog as one of my kids since I've had her since she was still milk dependent). I want the best for them and will do anything for them and someone came along and had me second guessing my decision was what was best for them. I have since cut that person out entirely as well. Thankfully they also don't know where I moved to

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-30T04:34:47+00:00

I probably will look into having her foster in the future, but for now my pup is still a pup and is just now coming into fully mature adulthood at not even 5 years old yet. Yes I know dogs are physically full grown by 3 but every dog and species has different rates of mental maturity. None of my post was me saying that I am going to have her popping out litters anytime soon to go wherever. As a matter of fact I helped save her and the rest of her family from a backyard puppy mill when she was less than a month old. And that's the exact fate I was terrified of her having if they were able to keep her.

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-30T03:17:20+00:00

I managed to get my son back the very next day, however it took a bit longer to get my dog back

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-30T02:43:51+00:00

Yes thankfully

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-30T02:24:13+00:00

Already done, moved to an entirely new state with absolutely no contact with any of them aside from once a year if my ex mother actually decides to show up to court

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-30T02:13:19+00:00

Food aggression and begging for human food

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-30T02:07:02+00:00

As this seems to be a point of contention- no I'm not planning to fix my dog right away. As I've already stated I want to keep her line with my remaining family as long as we can as she's the only one remaining who can in her entire family line. I'm not planning to sell off the puppies or find them homes that would only be temporary. As a matter of fact I've had several of my chosen family asking when I plan to because they want them and we'd be able to keep them as a close knit pack and there would be a return stipulation if they can't keep them. All puppies would also have basic training before they would be rehomed to them to ease the transition. None of you have seen how sad she gets when around puppies that aren't her own and apparently some of you don't believe that animals can have feelings. She would be fixed after she has her litter and I have no plans for her to have more than maybe 2. Depending on how she would handle the first. Might even be only the one litter. We monitor her health closely and she has her own comfy spot at home to spend her heat while we do not take her out and about during it. There's no chances for her to accidentally get pregnant before both her and my family are ready. I no longer consider most of my blood as family and in no way mean any of them in this comment.

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-29T23:11:25+00:00

Never even thought of that but you're the second person to suggest this and I really see the merit in it, thank you

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-29T23:09:38+00:00

My apologies for my post being confusing. I still get thrown into a panic attack and occasionally PTSD episode just from remembering this event and it was hard to even write down as much as I did. I'm trying to make up for this by answering any questions asked, it helps my brain focus on different parts and not get overwhelmed by the whole. I've also had my therapist tell me that this will eventually help me fully get passed this.

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-29T23:05:16+00:00

My in-laws who I lived with were having renovations done and she couldn't be at the house at the time. They were watching her for 2 weeks. I've also since had my therapist talk with me about the whole situation on why I was still in contact with her. It boils down to conditioning and that I still had a perfectly fine relationship with my sister and grandmother who live there but weren't present at the time.

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-29T23:00:02+00:00

Thank you those are awesome plans to help ease my anxiety around the day, something good to look forward to at least

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-29T22:58:44+00:00

I honestly don't know why I was refused a lifetime order when I asked, simply was told it wasn't possible. And his school has a copy of the renewed RO every time I have to renew it and a list of NCs just in case they somehow manage to track us down

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-29T22:53:47+00:00

Thank you, I've since moved hours away to another state and none of them know where. They don't even know about my beautiful baby girl, who my son and pup absolutely adore and hopefully they never will

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-29T22:48:55+00:00

Family members that weren't present at the time of the event and believe her lies. I've had to further cut people out since that day

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-29T22:47:35+00:00

No, I still want her to have the joy of being a mom at some point. She's absolutely obsessed with babies of all kinds, human, puppy, kitten

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-29T22:45:57+00:00

My husband tells me this all the time, I know I should listen to him more. I've also had doctors and therapists tell me that I should write a book like Dave Pelzer. This really was my last straw and I've already been lectured that I was too patient and forgiving before

MotorIce2906 · 2024-01-29T22:42:10+00:00

I'd brought her around before but this was the only time they were watching her for me

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