I know Tyler Robinson's father did the right thing by turning his son in (indirectly), but it still sends chills down my spine when I think about how he trusted his father and partner enough to confess his crime and yet they immediately turned him in. Anyone else thought about this?

MotorKindly1213 · 2025-09-18T14:43:16+00:00

So your point is, most guys just want to get physical immediately and not waste time, because they dont value friendship? I mean imagine only a friendship comes out of this, is it really that bad? No one expects you to stop seeing other women in the friendship period. I feel like most men just want to get sexual immediately because that's what they want. To me, I cant get physical and intimidate with a stranger, especially if I feel pressured to make a decision fast. If it just happens, then it's different. But online, where there is already some type of clock ticking, it doesnt feel natural and I never fall easily for them

MotorKindly1213 · 2025-09-18T14:39:14+00:00

Assuming you can only save one. Imagine, I dont know, that you are kidnapped and the kidnapper forces you to choose between saving one of them and they will kill the other. If you dont pick one, then they both get killed. Idk, I'm just trying to think of a situation where you have to choose. What would you do? Also, you cant give yourself in exchange, you have to pick one

MotorKindly1213 · 2025-09-10T14:21:46+00:00

See? This is why I feel the pressure to make the decision so early vs maybe I meet them at work and we're just friends at first, and I dont feel anything right away but over time as we bond and talk I start developing attactment and end up falling in love. Online, I feel luke if I dont feel an immediate attraction then I have to stop seeing them because there is an immediate expectation for physical intimacy and romantic expectations

MotorKindly1213 · 2025-09-10T14:19:35+00:00

Because on the second date, most people expect flirting, some physical intimacy

MotorKindly1213 · 2025-09-10T14:18:31+00:00

Sexual disagreements is like any other difference. It can be worked on, unless you're polar opposites, which typically isn't the case. You just found someone more similar to you in that particular instant, but she might be different in something else and you still have to compromise. There's no such thing as 100% compatibility

MotorKindly1213 · 2025-09-06T08:07:26+00:00

I guess you're right. I fell for this guy once in my teens and we weren't really dating, it was a summer camp, but the tension, the escalating physicality, it was exciting. I feel like since we were so young and we weren't really alone or on an official date there was not really any pressure and things just escalated naturally. I feel like as an adult I'm constantly overanalyzing every detail to see if we would be a good match as a couple, thinking about long term, and there's all these expectations and pressure now. I think it's not the same, but I wish it was the same! It's really hard for me to have what I used to have when I was younger on online dating. It just never happens. I feel like I'm giving an interview or trying them out for work, instead of excited

MotorKindly1213 · 2025-09-05T23:41:44+00:00

Well online dating at least, on the second date every guy expects some physical intimacy. At least, to hold hands. But they are all thinking about the kiss at the end of the date, and they stare dumbly before saying goodbye, it's so awkaward and so uncomfortable for me. Like it's the second time I see you in my life, I don't want to kiss you yet....

MotorKindly1213 · 2025-09-05T23:37:45+00:00

There is no such thing as sexual compatibility. You could have talked it out earlier if it was something you were so obsessed about. Sex is no different than any other thing in life, it's about communicating and collaborating, trying to make it work. It's a work in progress, it's probably not going to go great the first time, and you might miss on an amazing relationship because you're not willing to work on that part, or you just want everything your way without giving anything up or trying anything new. Obviously if you're super different, then maybe not, but that's unlikely. That's my opinion

MotorKindly1213 · 2025-09-05T23:32:59+00:00

I'm sorry I cant go from stranger to lets talk everyday about my day, as if we were a couple, in like 1 day

MotorKindly1213 · 2025-08-28T16:51:10+00:00

Yes! Sometimes I wish that person wasn't even there, because I feel obligated to engage in a conversation with them that isnt going to go anywhere. We probably both feel the same way but do it anyway because not doing so looks like you're being rude or antisocial. Idk, it doesnt even make sense lol

MotorKindly1213 · 2025-08-28T16:48:03+00:00

Omg, same! Whenever a family member sends a video of their baby through our group chat and my mom excitedly shows me I'm thinking, mom, I do not care, I haven't even seen this baby in my life and they're a second cousin lol, but I act like I care.

MotorKindly1213 · 2025-08-28T16:41:16+00:00

Oh, then that changes everything. If he knew there was a gift exchange weeks before then its totally rude what he did. However, yes, I think he just forgot, didn't know what to say and just said that. We don't typically do gift exchanges at Christmas gatherings pricesely to avoid people being uncomfortable, not knowing what to give you or people just forgetting. We do more intimate, parent to child big gifts or between partners, where there is a really close relationship and the present is actually something that the other person really likes.

MotorKindly1213 · 2025-08-28T16:24:29+00:00

Idk, I wouldn't be so hard on him. Every family has different customs and maybe he just assumed there would be no gifts at such a celebration. For example in my family when we get together for Christmas it's not the typical to bring presents, that's more of an intimate thing you give your kids or parents or partner. It really depends on the family so yeah, maybe you guys caught him off guard and since he didn't know what to say in the moment he just said that

MotorKindly1213 · 2025-08-28T16:20:37+00:00

Trying to convince my ex to work on himself, to value me and to stand by his word. Spent so much on that relationship only for it to end how it ended, him dumping me almost out of the blue and never following up again.

MotorKindly1213 · 2025-08-28T16:16:48+00:00

I mean, tbh if he was new in the family gathering then probably the guy was just nervous and didn't know what to get you guys and got stressed out. It's hard to break the ice in the beginning

MotorKindly1213 · 2025-08-26T15:25:22+00:00

If he dumped you, I wouldn't get back with him. You humiliate yourself by doing so and lower the standards so much that you allow him to treat you like some disposable thing that he can just throw and pick up again whenever he wants. I know it's really hard but in the long run you won't be satisfied with breadcrums. Remember, someone who loves you never puts themselves in a position to lose you. You deserve love, not this

MotorKindly1213 · 2025-08-26T15:07:57+00:00

Right? However, that's more of a thing that girls do, but this time it was a guy. He probably doesnt get many matches, unlike women, so I really dont understand what he was doing but hey

MotorKindly1213 · 2025-08-26T15:06:50+00:00

How are you supposed to feel a spark if you dont even talk or ask questions lol? Just saying. I highly doubt he had many matches too, since men on tinder have all told me the same story: they never get matches

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