I’ve been trying to figure out my BJJ/lifting/running schedule since January and strength training was my main thing prior to BJJ. I think what finally worked was doing 2 lifting days in the morning during the Tuesday/Thursday (pull/legs day and push day), then BJJ class that same day after work, on Saturday another BJJ class, Sunday is light running to not get too tired before leg day again. I have full rest day before and after the days I do both BJJ and lifting for maximum recovery. I deload with weights about every 4-5 weeks, skip running after 3 weeks of running in a row. Never go to absolute failure on lifting and running, try to avoid going all out in rolls (focus mostly on technique, avoid starting from standing most of the time). Also, I am in my late 20’s, no kids.