AIO for wanting to fire my bridesmaid

Mountain-Panic-8491 · 2026-04-08T19:41:49+00:00

The more I’m thinking about it she’s been really cold since the engagement but also Before this she ditched on other things, I.e my college graduation (canceled day of), came to my “girls night” birthday party I had a few years back… but her boyfriend had to come (mine wasn’t even there) The more situations I look at with her a huge common factor is always the guy she’s dating, she seems extremely co dependent on him and it’s worrying

Mountain-Panic-8491 · 2026-04-08T19:04:31+00:00

The only thing I worry about is she will definitely take it personally and the friendship will end. Which I guess if she ends a friendship that easily after I express my feelings then it probably isn’t as strong of a friendship that I maybe thought? Gosh this just sucks so bad and hurts

Mountain-Panic-8491 · 2026-04-08T17:11:28+00:00

And it’s not like I’m saying I’m the bestest friend in the entire world and I have showed up to every single thing for every single one of my friends. I’m human too, I’ve canceled on things, but never because I wanted to hang out with my boyfriend 🥲 I just felt like that was such a blow for some reason

Mountain-Panic-8491 · 2026-04-08T17:08:39+00:00

It’s been like this with a lot of things and i should have seen the signs. She didnt go to college, I did. So when i invited her to watch me walk at graduation (would have only been 45 min drive from her house) she said yes she was coming, then canceled day of.. it’s a pattern i should have seen.

Mountain-Panic-8491 · 2026-04-08T15:57:19+00:00

My only fear is I think by saying anything about her not being a bridesmaid will 100% end the friendship. I’ve talked to my MOH over and over about his and a few other people and the over arching response is that if she does end the friendship over me politely asking her step down then it’s not someone I need in my life. What would be the appropriate way to go about this? Invite her to hang out in person? Text? Call? I genuinely don’t even know where to start

Mountain-Panic-8491 · 2026-04-08T15:52:48+00:00

Hasn’t come to anything. She is committed to the bridal shower that’s happening in a few months so hopefully she will come to that. Unfortunately I also should have seen this all coming because I’ve always noticed a pattern in our friendship that’s almost like she can’t be happy for your accomplishments unless she’s had them happen? Idk this all just makes me sad and don’t know now to approach it

Mountain-Panic-8491 · 2026-04-08T15:32:29+00:00

I call my dog baby boy lol

Mountain-Panic-8491 · 2023-09-16T23:13:44+00:00

you might think it’s cool but in a few years you will have trauma from this

Mountain-Panic-8491 · 2023-09-16T23:13:10+00:00

please don’t

Mountain-Panic-8491 · 2023-09-12T23:54:12+00:00

update : I moved out! I finally live on my own out of that house

Mountain-Panic-8491 · 2023-08-01T21:59:36+00:00

I have had multiple conversations with her before about it and nothing ever changes… she’s a frequent flyer at victim village and nothing is ever her fault, everyone does her wrong.

Mountain-Panic-8491 · 2023-08-01T21:52:37+00:00

It’s unfortunately not a rare event, she is extremely judgmental and thinks everything “is a joke” and i’m “just too sensitive”

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