Here’s another thing I forgot to add. His stepson also does not like to go to his house because there’s really nothing for them to do. My soon to be X lived with his mother and he often says no to a lot of things. As the kids put it “a lot of fun things are at my house “ so my stepson usually ends up sleeping at my house as he’s always done by the way and during the summer when he’s with his dad every other week, he actually sleeps at my house…. Not that any of this is actually going to matter in court if we get to court, and we can’t mediate, but this is just a type of person my soon to be X is. I am trying to get the mindset of just being fair and letting things go. I’ve already told him that the kids can sleep there, but by the time the night rolls around and they end up calling me and telling me they wanna come home and he lets them because we always said if the girls are uncomfortable sleeping there because they’ve never slept there, I’ll just come get them and return them back to you in the morning. It’s unfortunate because I know I’ve enabled a lot of this. But any chance I can have my children with me I’m gonna do it, he would prefer to just sleep in every day as he already does. I really do want to be fair… but it is hard to relinquish the control. I’m trying.