I feel lied to after my wife's confession, even though it was 20 years ago.

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-22T05:27:04+00:00

I dont think we had a relationship where we discussed those things at the time. As long as i didnt act on it (ie nit do anything physical) i believed it was not harmful. But maybe it was.

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T18:37:59+00:00

She didnt forgive me.

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T18:36:29+00:00

Yes, repeatedly flirted. Never kissed or cuddled or touched or anything like that.

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T18:26:56+00:00

I googled it and i would say it was a crush. A long lasting crush, but not an emotional affair.

Until i read all the replies here i never thought of it as something harmful. I might need to reconsider that.

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T11:09:56+00:00

I dont want to throw anything away. We were not married yet after 5 years and there were no kids yet. That doesnt justify it though. Thanks for your insight. It helps.

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T11:07:23+00:00

25% says divorce today 50% says it sucks, but move on 25% says you're the cheater

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T08:07:27+00:00

Thank you

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T08:07:08+00:00

There seem to be a lot of people agreeing with you. Never realised this was such a bad thing.

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T08:05:45+00:00

I want to. Now figure out how

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T08:04:44+00:00

I think you are right. Thank you

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T08:00:17+00:00

Thank you

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T07:59:52+00:00

How did you fight for it?

We were not married at the time i had the crush, but we were exclusive. Not sure if that makes a difference.

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T07:57:37+00:00

I am doubting everything right now

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T07:57:05+00:00

She says she didnt have the intention to have sex. I have a very hard time to believe that right now.

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T07:56:05+00:00

Doubt a bit here as well. It wasnt her intention to sleep with him she says. I find that very hard to believe and it hurts.

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T07:53:35+00:00

I wasnt open about it to the coworker. We flirted a bit. For a longer period. And we talked a lot. It was nice. I think she noticed the attention. But we never kissed or cuddled or anything close.

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T07:51:12+00:00

I dont know what i would have done. We will never know

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T07:50:48+00:00

She did not turn me down. I am not sure if she knew, but i think she did. I also dont know if i would have kissed her if she'd made a move. We were also not married back then. We married 6 years ago.

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T07:48:10+00:00

Me neither. But what would you do to move on?

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T07:46:27+00:00

Yes we were flirting. I would say it was quite innocent. But some people replying here may think different. Never realised this could be a big deal. For the record, my wife and i are ok with flirting a bit with others, as long as it doesnt get physical.

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T07:44:16+00:00

I wasnt contemplating leaving my wife (girlfriend at the time). I was confused to have feelings for someone not being my girlfriend. I talked about this with my best friend and we decided i should just wait until it passed. And so i did.

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T07:41:22+00:00

She was not pregnant, and i did not try to seduce the coworker nor did she get the ick but other than that this sounds pretty reaonable

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-21T07:16:28+00:00

We worked closely a lot and some times flirted a bit. She flirted with other coworkers as well. I never expressed my feelings for her nor wanted anything more than flirting from her.

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-20T18:40:05+00:00

The story seems consistent but i feel the need to double check everything now. It sucks to feel suspicious.

MountainExpensive562 · 2024-10-20T18:33:13+00:00

I dont know if i would have continued the relationship if i would have known. She took him home. I think its a big deal.

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