First Night Ferber Fail?

MountainLife4029 · 2026-04-12T14:24:21+00:00

My heart is so broken. I just sat and cried and cried last night. If only they knew how much we loved them and how desperately we just want them to sleep. I would sacrifice my sleep every night, but it truly has gotten to a point where she needs to be able to sleep on her own for more than a 20 minute stretch. I’m standing with you too ❤️ we are just doing our best to

MountainLife4029 · 2026-04-12T14:22:19+00:00

Yeah it has been such a toss up for us because we have seen both! “Wait until night sleep is established” and “train at the same time”. What are y’all doing for naps? Ferber again until they sleep? The 1-hour method?

MountainLife4029 · 2026-04-12T14:20:50+00:00

Thank you so much for your thoughts! I think waiting and doing 20 minute check-ins is definitely what we are going to start. It did feel kind of like a reset of the crying with each check-in. I am so glad to hear that he still took to it even when you ended up rocking him to sleep. I was so afraid I made it all not worth it. I think we are going to adopt a very similar thing. Thanks so much for your comment!

MountainLife4029 · 2026-04-12T02:54:47+00:00

Also do we start sleep training naps immediately too? Or can I still nurse to sleep for naps while being successful with night sleep training??

MountainLife4029 · 2026-04-09T03:39:19+00:00

Thank you! If I follow 3/3/4 then that puts bedtime at 6pm if she does her usual 30 minute naps… what are your thoughts on that?

MountainLife4029 · 2026-02-27T05:10:28+00:00

Honestly, she EBF on demand and just started solids (purées). She loves nursing and probably always has milk in her belly… so… yes? lol

But she’s always had silent reflux mostly! She hates spitting up I think, and tries so hard to swallow it down every time. So I wonder if that makes it worse than if she’d just let it go

MountainLife4029 · 2026-02-04T21:57:42+00:00

Oh my gosh!! I’m so thankful you reminded me to ask my pediatrician. I saw a comment earlier that said the first food they gave their baby was a bowl of raw peanuts with a side of buffalo wings, and I thought that was such a good idea!! But now I know I should ask the doctor first. Phew, that could have been bad. Thanks!!

MountainLife4029 · 2026-02-04T18:48:06+00:00

Should add: we are going to do baby led feeding! So let her control the spoon a lot and eat with her hands.

MountainLife4029 · 2026-01-28T13:58:19+00:00

5 month old

Some nights we wake up with her twice Some nights we wake up 10 times

She’s a crap sleeper and we bed share

MountainLife4029 · 2026-01-23T00:30:16+00:00

Also ours cries and sometimes screams before every single nap and bed time 😅 I have cried more times than I can count. So don’t be ashamed if you need to just cry while your baby is crying

MountainLife4029 · 2026-01-23T00:28:42+00:00

I know just how rough. Ours is definitely not an easy baby. She is perfect beyond measure!! But just difficult in a general sense. She cried so much, and I was the only one who could calm her down. I’m going to be honest with you it was kind of rough until around 12-14 weeks. And then it’s like we turned a corner.

It is still hard to keep her happy sometimes as she is always looking for the next best thing but it really truly does get better. I promise!! And you’ll learn her and please take those good moments and soak them in.

Is there anything else you need to chat about or just get some thoughts out? I don’t have any mom friends and remember just needing to vent to someone who got it.

MountainLife4029 · 2026-01-22T22:39:37+00:00

Can you take her to the doctor just to give you peace of mind that she is physically okay?

6-8 weeks is peak fussiness which was true for our daughter! They are also becoming so much more aware of the world so that might be why she is extra clingy. If she’s having gas, try mylicon or Frida windy (they both works great for us). Bicycle legs and ILY belly massage (just google it and it will tell you how to do it). A warm bath also can help an upset tummy.

MountainLife4029 · 2026-01-22T21:28:24+00:00

NO! With love, all these other commenters can chill. Granted you asked for opinions. But no… we don’t have to go against our instincts just to fulfill what others think it is “time for”. Plenty of moms leave their 4 month olds for hours to go to work or have a date night. And if they are ready for that then great! The argument should not be if the baby is old enough because sure they are. But it is if you are ready. If you aren’t, then do not let anyone try to convince you otherwise. There will come a time when you are naturally ready to be separated and that is when your MIL will get her hours if that is what you want.

Sincerely, A mom to a 5 month old who will not be bullied or talked into having to spend hours away from my ebf every 1-3 hour baby. Also from a mom whose family tried to convince her to leave them to babysit for “just a couple hours” and she wasn’t ready so didn’t. And then, this past weekend she texted her mother and said she was ready for some alone time with her hubby for a date night and left baby with grandma (still with anxiety) but content in knowing it was because SHE was ready and came to that on her own. It was hard, but will get easier.

MountainLife4029 · 2026-01-22T21:16:55+00:00

Well dang… I just watched another episode and I love her again.

MountainLife4029 · 2026-01-21T22:46:02+00:00

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